I have been with my boyfriend for a year now, and i love him with every inch of my heart, the problem is that ive been married befor, and he has been engaged a few times too, so he feels its lost its apeal, i really want to marry him but i feel he will never ask me, shall i do it?
2006-09-04 02:32:27 · 43 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
hell girl go for it. I mean whats the worst he can say?!?
I might add that marriage will be different with him so he wont feel that its gona be just another engagement to him - funk up the whole thing and make it different from prior times that hes been engaged and it brings a whole new appeal with it.
Good luck!!!
2006-09-04 02:36:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A year isn't very long to be thinking about proposing to someone. Love takes time and if you rush it you run the risk of losing him. I'm wondering whether you want to marry him because you really love him with every inch of your heart or whether it's because you've been married before and feel that time's running out and you should be married. If he's been engaged a few times it sounds as though he's a bit of a commitment phobic and can't bring himself to see an engagement through to the actually wedding. You'll never change his mind. Are you willing to take a chance and propose, knowing in your heart that he may well refuse your proposal? Imagine how you'd feel if he did. I hope you don't take offence at my answer, I'm just trying to imagine the turmoil you're going through. When you ask someone to marry them you should already have a pretty good idea that they're going to accept. My advice to you is think long and hard before you go rushing into anything. If he refuses it'll change your relationship and may even finish things for good.
2006-09-04 03:08:26 · answer #2 · answered by trog 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, personally I don't believe in marriage, so I wouldn't. Does it make a difference whether you're married or not? Aren't you together anyway? Isn't love the only thing that matters? If he's been disillusioned by marriage before, there's a chance he might not be too comfortable getting into it again, although it's really just a status thing. If you're religious and that kind of thing is important and meaningful to you, then talk to him about it to see how he feels without making a straight forward proposal. If he reacts positively, I guess you can go for it, if not, well, it's up to you anyway.
2006-09-04 02:46:11 · answer #3 · answered by Ricardo P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The positive response to a question can be achieved when you create circumstances to get the reply you want. By what I can gather is that you are keen but your boy friend may not be as keen. The outcome of your asking him for marriage is more likely to get a negative response as he has lost the appeal as you put it.. So what do you do? Simple regulate your meetings in such a way that he is more keen to seeing you. When you meet ensure it is memorable and he looks forward to meeting you again soon. Building up you case will bring you success. If you rush it up there is a chance of loosing out. After all marriage brings both hearts, minds, bodies and souls together. Make him feel he misses it now and you will win him.
2006-09-04 02:46:41 · answer #4 · answered by Pat Wardhan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not ...especially when you have found the one that you love with all your heart. The great thing about that, is that they surpass all the past relationships and nothing can ever compare to that.
Hugs from a Loving Mom to a Brillant, as well as beautiful 8 year old Jared and Our Angel, Zachary (taken to soon but who will always remain in our heart) ~ Mel
2006-09-04 02:37:39 · answer #5 · answered by jaredsmommy2004 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first thought, when I saw just your photo and the first line of your question, was - "looks nice, so he should be pleased, but shame for him she smokes".
Anyway when I read the rest I thought - he has been around a year - he is a bit wary following a few failures - so go for it he probably needs some confidence building and to know it isn't going to end as earlier excursions.
Good luck.
2006-09-04 03:02:32 · answer #6 · answered by Roadrunner 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure for if he feels you are wrapped around his little finger, he could bleed your heart
Do you not know, that a man wants something he cannot have
How bout this
Challenge him
say do you think we should separate so that we can find the right person for us
Because I am wanting a husband and I respect your desire not to marry
So I was thinking we need to be fair to one another
2006-09-04 02:37:33 · answer #7 · answered by Queen A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first reaction to this question was why do you want to get married? If there is so much uncertainty you would be better advised to carry on as you are. Carry on until you are knocking each other out of the way to get to the altar.
2006-09-04 02:38:18 · answer #8 · answered by kytho 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm... well, I'd feel weird about asking him personally, but... Well, okay. If you've only been with him for a year and you KNOW that the idea of getting married does not please him, I would say don't even bother. When he figures out how much you're worth, then he'll ask.
2006-09-04 02:36:06 · answer #9 · answered by JP 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure go ahead the big lug wants to know how much you love him!Good luck and if he turns you down give me a holler! Smiles as he fades away.
2006-09-04 06:35:22 · answer #10 · answered by matt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋