i just broke up with my boyfriend obut 3 days ago. He left me 17 threatening voice mails. I don't talk to him anymore but he just call my phone all day long and even my little brother phone. i don't know what to do about this. Last night i came home from out of town and my chairs on my pourch was thrown over along with the trashcan outside my house and my flower pots kicked all over. what do i do about this i really need your advice.
2006-09-04 02:22:58 · 25 answers · asked by peaches 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Go to the police and make a report.Don't take this lightly. If anything it may scare him to stop. But there have been too many girls and women that took this type of behavior lightly, thinking the guy was just upset, and ended up losing their lives. So, keep the voicemail messages, play them for the police and get a restraining order ASAP. And leave this loser alone. If he can't control his temper just because you don't want to be with him, think about what if would have been like if you would have stayed with him, gotten married, and then said something to spark him off. . .Don't feel sorry for him, do what is in your best interest and be safe. But get a restraining order ASAP, it is for your own safety. And be observant of your surroundings, and don't go to isolated places alone, stay in a crowd. At this point, he can not be trusted.
2006-09-04 02:29:58 · answer #1 · answered by In God's Image 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really need to be filing police report on these instances. From there, you should go and get a restraining order. If he continues to mess with you, let the court system deal with him. Harassment isn't fun. Do yourself a favor and unplug the phone for a couple of days, call the police and let them take care of it.....Good luck!
2006-09-04 09:34:26 · answer #2 · answered by swtz69drmz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call the police when you find that this happens again, do not erase the voice mails, you will need them. Get an order of protection against him and then get a restraining order (you will have to go to court to get the restraining order). Bring proof to court, meaning voice mails, photos, etc. Do this ASAP your ex sounds very dangerous. (tell your little brother to keep his voice mails too.)
2006-09-04 09:31:17 · answer #3 · answered by country girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call the police and explain every detail.Do it now,before this man can hurt you,please.Good luck.This behaviour is typical in not mature men.They never growing up,and they are the cause of thousands of beaten women.At the end, they finish in jail all time.Do not think twice,call right now the police,before is too late.
2006-09-04 09:35:26 · answer #4 · answered by cobrasnake 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are still in love and will be able to give him another chance then go ahead.But if you are considering other option then you better inform the concerned authority before it gets out of hand. If possible try to capture his act (destroying and stuff) on video,so that you will have the upper hand if it reaches the court.Goodluck
2006-09-04 09:29:57 · answer #5 · answered by The Inquisitive 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello!! Call the Police and get a restraining order..This guy is dangerous. Hope you saved all his messages
2006-09-04 09:32:09 · answer #6 · answered by wittlewabbit 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
breaking up could make so many people react in ways that could really be so unlike them. i had almost the same experience but quess what i did i try calling him and make see that i was sorry for doing what i did but i had no choice i made him see that i still loved him so much he spoken fire but i spoken peace,i became so cautious and careful i was advised to give him time i just try to ignore the hot words he was using on me i continued receiving his call and made him understand that i still love him but just had to break up,after a while i stopped calling but allowed time to heal the wound this actually takes time but it works
2006-09-04 09:42:20 · answer #7 · answered by atola o 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to report this jerk for abusive behaviour. DO NOT delete your voice mails - take these to the police as evidence. Dont hold any contempt or sympathy for this guy - if hes capable of violence - which he has demonstrated on your porch, as well as practically stalking you - report him before he causes YOU any harm
2006-09-04 09:41:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to your local law enforcement and get a restraining order. If he breaks the restraining order he will go to jail. Good Luck.
2006-09-04 09:26:03 · answer #9 · answered by Peanut Butter 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep the messages and take them to the police,file an order of protection on him and get a dog!!!
2006-09-04 09:28:16 · answer #10 · answered by moontreefairy76 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋