i was brought up as Roman Catholic, when four members of my family died, i lost faith, i believe i was abandoned by god (if there is one), do you think i am wrong to have turned my back on him (!) the way he did me?
I believe in the family and in belief in one another, i am a very trustworth bloke, who trusts everyone and listens to everyone, dont jugde me just help me. please dont preach.
2006-09-04 02:07:22 · 33 answers · asked by flix_ef 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
No you were not wrong to turn your back on him. If a friend watched you suffer without helping you and still wanted an ongoing friendship you would turn your back on them too so why is this different? God does not exist, there has never been any proof his does or ever does done. Believe what you feel is right, not what others tell you to believe.
2006-09-04 02:09:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 3⤋
Before answering your question, I checked out your "360 Page." It's very interesting that the first movie you listed among your favorites was "Shawshank Redemption" (which, interestingly enough, is also my favorite film). Consider the case of Andy Dufresne, and his relationship to Red. They both experienced enormous hardships, but Andy nevertheless held onto the most important thing in the world -- HOPE.
Andy kept hope alive, but somewhere along the road, Red let it die. A lot of people never got it, but the "redemption" in the title wasn't Andy's it was Red's. Andy never lost hope, and so never needed to be redeemed; but in the end it was Andy who rekindled that hope in Red and so redeemed him.
And what has this got to do with you? Well, everything. If nothing but wonderful successes attended to having faith it wouldn't be worth much, would it? The test of faith is the hard time. So are you "wrong?" Of course not. And believe me, I'm the last person on earth who'd judge you or anyone else.
I don't know if there's a God or not -- nobody does (even though there are tons of people on this site who'll tell you for certain one way or another). So at the end, what can anyone say? "I HOPE there is a God. And even though none of us will ever find an answer to why bad things happen to good people, I HOPE such an answer exists.
And in the final analysis, isn't that really the essense of all things -- "Hope?" As John Lennon once said -- "whatever gets you through your life." I can't speak for others, but hope works just fine for Andy Dufresne and me. Take care...
2006-09-04 02:25:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i have never judged anyone, nor would i. Do you think you were right to turn your back on him? Do you feel any better for doing it, has it changed what happened in any way? There is nothing wrong in trusting or listening. This is about you and how you feel. What would your family members say if they had not passed over would they think you were right. By turning your back on God is that going to bring them back. Grief is a terrible thing to go through, i know i have been through it. But to loose 4 is more than a tragedy. There are various stages of grief, there is disbelief, anger, hurt, denial, then the healing process can begin there is no right or wrong, there is no time. I am not a catholic but i do believe in God and it is a very personal thing. Take your time and just get through today. take it one day at a time. If you need a Friend to shout at you can reach me at indriel@tiscali.co.uk No pressure its up to you.
2006-09-04 02:19:53 · answer #3 · answered by Susie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't even imagine how awful that must have been for you or how I would feel in your situation. I can understand you would feel pretty angry and abandoned. I'm a Christian and I believe that my faith would be tested to the limits if that happened to me. But I really hope and pray that I wouldn't turn away from Jesus because at the end of the day he is the only one who can truly provide help and comfort. There is no point as far as we can see why your family members would be taken away from you, but maybe God had a purpose for them and they are now with Him. I don't know. We can't deny there is a lot of suffering in this world.
Before you turn your back on Jesus though, try praying and telling him exactly why you are so hurt and angry with him. Prayers don't have to always be 'nice and polite'! You have lost your faith because of your anger - try expressing it! Usually when I do that it helps, even though I end up having to accept that he is right after all! Finally, if you want to read a story of a Christian who stayed faithful to God despite losing his family, his home, his friends and his health - try Job in the Old Testament. I hope that helps - I will think of you and pray for you.
2006-09-04 02:32:52 · answer #4 · answered by drblonde 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you think that God turned His back on you because of what happened? I have lost family members as well, I have lost friends while I was in boot camp years ago, in a time and place where I could do nothing to help their families.
God has NOT turned away from you. The Bible says that what the enemy used against you He can turn it to good for His purposes. You need to find someone who can help you walk this through and understand why it happened.
Sometimes you need to ask God the right questions before you hear the right answers.
Islam, Buddha, new age, Ouiji boards are not the answer.
God has the answer.
2006-09-04 02:21:39 · answer #5 · answered by n9wff 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People don't live forever. Nobody in the history of humankind has escaped death except in faery tales and myth. It's part of life and should inform how we live and how we treat each other.
Placing our hope for immortality, or for avoiding pain and loss in imaginary invisible beings is simply childish and ultimately disappointing. People have cried out their anguish to imaginary beings for millenia and no deity has brought their loved ones out of the grave. Why would you be different? Who are you among the billions who have lived and died that you are so singularly important that some deity has allowed all others to pass unaided out of indifference or impotence, but you he specifically and intentionally betrayed? Get over yourself mate.
You're alive. It's a limited time offer and a scarce resource. Make the best use of it you can. Find and bring what joy you can. Your death will come as will all our deaths, but it may be some consolation to you at the end that you think of all you've experienced with a sense of satisfaction, maybe even pride that you put your time to good use and made the most of it. Take a deep breath and get on with life.
2006-09-04 02:19:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't even begin to imagine how awful that must be. It's understandable that you are trying to find out why, and why me.
I believe in God, but I don't believe he is the all mighty. I think it's as if you let a ball roll down a hill. You are God, deciding that ball should roll, but where it lands is not in your hands.
Try to keep your faith in the sense that you just lay your heart and trust in his hands, to help you get through this horrible time. Just let yourself fall, and accept the unacceptable. Someday I hope we will all have the answers. All you know for sure is you are alive, and only you can decide whether you buckle in grief, or make the best of life till your time comes as well.
Bless you, I wish you all the strength in the world.
2006-09-04 02:23:58 · answer #7 · answered by bluebyou 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did the members of your family die? Was it really God's fault? People often blame God when things go wrong in their life, but don't thank Him when things are going well. I struggled through my childhood with an abusive mother (who was possibly Bi-polar). I never once thought it was God's fault. I just figured my Mom was crazy. When I was older, I turned away from God for a while. I felt I didn't need Him any more. I visited a church one day (non-denominational Christian) and I felt a powerful presence I just knew was the Lord. I began to attend that church and my life instantly became better. I was surrounded by loving and supportive people. My job and my health improved. many people would say it was a coincidence, but I believe with all my heart that God changed my life. I'm sure He could help you too.
2006-09-04 02:19:18 · answer #8 · answered by TJMiler 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a very religious person myself, but we all have to die at some point, that's just the way things are, some of us sooner than others, We all have had friends or family members die and if not yet are going to. I don't understand why God gets blamed for it when its going to happen to everyone. Just try to accept the fact that that's how life is a don't throw away something you believe in.
2006-09-04 02:21:13 · answer #9 · answered by megan a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter what you decide about God, you still have the power to create your own reality. Just keep your mind focused on building a wonderful life with that new wife of yours and getting through your schooling. You seem like a very intelligent man who has no need to get bogged down worrying about God judging you. Do you want to know a secret? There is no singular God, WE ALL ARE GOD! ALL IS GOD! You can't turn your back on that no matter how hard you try!
p.s. I'd cheated and peeked at your 360 page! :-P
2006-09-04 02:13:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everybody has to die at some point.
You can blame anyone you want, but it wont make the pain go away. This is human nature to grieve.
You can grieve for however long you wish. But its better to remember the good times.
Why focus on who to blame?
You sound like a top bloke that just needs to accept that these things happen.
Another way to put it.
When you die, would you want your friends and family to grieve forever?
No you would want them to move on and remember whats great about you. Your heart is whats best mate, i can tell that and i have never met you. Bless you.
2006-09-04 02:48:58 · answer #11 · answered by Ne Obliviscaris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋