ok..so I asked this question before, but here are some more details. I am a fourteen year old girl. Last night I had a sleepover with two guys. My mom and dad didn't know about it. I didn't purposely do it to piss her off or anything, but we were just hanging out and we decided to do it. I would have told my mom about it today i guess, but all my friends kept on scaring me about it. They kept telling me that their parents would be mad. So me and these guys are friends and I kinda like one of them but my mom doesnt know. so i figured she wouldnt be that bad, but i dont know. what would you do if you were my mom? and im not like a bad kid or anything I was just having fun. I really need to know what you would do because nowI am worried my friends mom is gonna tell my mom before Iget to it.I'm running out of space for more details but please leave me a detailed thing about what you woulddo if youfound out.
2006-09-04 01:52:51 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
some of my friends are making me feel like i am really dirty and stuff. am i an idiot. now i just feel really stupid. their making me feel like its not normal for a teenager to do stuff like this. is it? godd..i need help now.
2006-09-04 01:53:09 · update #1
It was at this guys house who is my best friends neighbor. My mom thought i was just hanging out with her. which wasnt a complete lie because i did hang out with her too
2006-09-04 01:53:29 · update #2
this isnt like me. im not a s**t. it just happened. I dont know why it happened but it did
2006-09-04 01:53:54 · update #3
for everyone who said it is sad that I dont know that what I did was wrong, I obviously do. I feel really bad.
2006-09-04 01:54:09 · update #4
For those of you who have helped, thank you so much. for those of you who have said im a whore, its really not making me feel better. Maybe i am, but up until this day i had never done anything as bad as this. i know it was wrong, but am i like that horrible a person?
2006-09-04 01:55:23 · update #5
the best way to tell her is with a pillow shoved up your top and tell her one of them got you pregnant. Then the relief will take away from what you did when you reveal it was just a joke.
2006-09-04 01:59:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if I were your mom Id be upset! I would probably ground you for a very long time and Id make you write about why this was wrong and I would talk to you about some things that matter in life. Like lieing-sneaking- being deceptive-sex-pregnany-and the fact that you broke my trust in you . We,d talk not yell. I would reasure you that I loved you above all but I,d also want you to understand what you did was stupid and wrong and because of your choice there is going to be coniquences.
Then I,d make you a doctors apt to make sure you don,t have any STD.s and was,nt pregnant.
I hope that you are smart enough to tell your mom .
The fact that you even were on this computer asking about this shows to me you are not ready to behave in this fashion. Slow down sweetheart life is wonderful when you use your head first.
2006-09-04 12:53:53 · answer #2 · answered by ~♥ L ♥~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should tell your mom before anyone else does, I would be very upset with you because what if one of those guys raped you or you had sex and got pregnant, I would not want that for my daughter and 14 is too young to have guys sleeping over, I do understand peer pressure though and you have to know how to stand up to that, you can't always do what everyone else says. Obviously you feel bad about it. You shouldn't let anyone talk you into doing something that you do not want to do ever. You are not a slut or a whore and ignore the people that said that. I would probably ground you but, I would want to hear the truth from you rather than someone else.
2006-09-04 10:56:26 · answer #3 · answered by just me and my crew 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not quite old enough to be your mom, but I do have kids. It is scary to me that you are only 14 and "sleeping over" with 2 guys. I would get angry, but because I know what can happen( and will eventually if this type of thing continues). Your parents love you, and they would hopefully cool down enough to explain to you why this is not a good thing to do. I know you feel like life is great, you're the queen of the world, bad things don't happen... but they do and you're just a young girl. I think you should go ahead and tell them since you are so worried about it. p.s. girls sound better w/o bad language!!!!
2006-09-04 09:01:05 · answer #4 · answered by nada 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok first off your not a whore your a teenager. It sounds to me like your feeling a bit guilty about the sitation. So heres my opinion...First off tell your mom..1. its better coming from you then your friends mom. 2. let her know you did it because you like this guy and you wanted him to like you. 3. deal with your actions and consequences.
THis suck but it IS a Part of growing up. We all make mistakes and we LEARN from them. your 14 and no longer a virgin( I"m assumin). Theres alot of responsibility with that. IF your friends are calling you a slut and stuff they are not your real friends.
If a guy wants you to do that and you feel like if you dont he wont like you then (from experience) he will ONLY like you cause you put out. I'm 34 a mom of an 8 yr old son but I have been there. Putting out just because you feel funny in a situation isnt good. THere are worse things out there than being grounded.
If you'd like to talk please email me at the1mom1997@yahoo.com
2006-09-04 09:04:39 · answer #5 · answered by the1mom1997 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honesly I think I would be really upset with you for lying and having sex. But at least you told me. I would probably ground you for a long time and take you to the doctor and have you put on birth contro just in case it happened again. Your best bet is to tell your mom the truth and do it soon also tell her that you know that it was wrong and just be completely honest with her. It is going to hurt and she is going to be upset but it will be better if she hears it from you and not from someone else.
2006-09-04 09:19:59 · answer #6 · answered by shorty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Teenagers make mistakes. If you think you did wrong . Tell your mom the truth , apologize to her.
WE ALL make mistakes in life. The important thing is to learn from them and not REPEAT them.
No this DOES NOT make you a whore.
JUst make sensible thought out decisions from now on. Do not let your hormones control your mind. We have to live with the consequences of our actions for the rest of our lives.
Do not judge yourself too harshly. it was a mistake . Over and done with. Don't cry over spilt milk "Tomorrow is the first day of the rest of your life.Don't look back."
Good Luck.
2006-09-08 00:46:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly id tell your mum before someone else does it would make things a bit better if you told her and secondly she's properly going to be really upset and angry but she'l get over it, it might take a while for her to trust you but it will work out ok in the end
2006-09-04 09:26:43 · answer #8 · answered by sammlwrd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your parents, and suffer whatever consequence you have to suffer, then the next time, you as a 14 year old girl decide to have a sleep over, make sure that you are sleep over a girls house. That's how so many unwanted pregnancies happen you have to value, and respect yourself before anyone will be able to value and respect you.
2006-09-04 11:33:05 · answer #9 · answered by ladybug 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I was your mom I would be up set. I know that they are friends but they have hormones just like you do. you say you like this guy well you should not be hanging out with him like that weather you intend to or not.
you need to sit down with your mom and tell her your thoughts on why you thought it would be OK. bu the way if you thought it would be OK then why did you not just check with your mom anyway??
listen to her side and come up with a solution together.
2006-09-04 12:18:10 · answer #10 · answered by Lori K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if i was your father than i really would you listen to me and you have to go fallow them rolls until the time coming that they will tell you that you are on your own and it is the time that you will find out you would not hang with those friends(?) and if they are okay than you will hang with the right one's...i mean dont do any things that make you feel unwell now and regret for your future..take it easy because you have long way to go...
2006-09-04 09:06:40 · answer #11 · answered by Max 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋