I am 27yrs old and the only girl of my parents. I ve long desired to marry a graduate but suddenly a man of 46yrs old and an undergraduate has just asked me to marry him about six months ago (Though he is intelligent and he is a network marketer). And i ve not been able to give him response as i told him to give me some time to think about it.
But now, I am begining to think of him. Please what can i do about this? I need ur advices.
2006-09-04 01:34:23 · 13 answers · asked by Christie N 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Why is it so important that you marry a graduate?
Think of it this way... are you marrying for love or for what he can offer you?
2006-09-04 01:39:32 · answer #1 · answered by Lady J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Beginning to think of him????
The answer is NO! Quite apart from the age gap which would be difficult ..the fact that you are only 'beginning to think of him' now he has proposed says that you are thinking of all the wrong things.
This sounds to me very much like an 'arranged marriage' ... and if that is the case then I will butt out since I know there are far greater considerations such as duty to family, culture etc involved but if this is not the case then I think this marriage would be a disaster ..
If you do like this guy then take the time to know him etc first before you make such a serious commitment!!!
2006-09-04 01:38:41 · answer #2 · answered by enzuigiriuk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think there is no way you should even consider getting married yet. IF the right person asks you to marry them then you will know 100 per cent without a doubt that you want to marry them too and spend the rest of your life with them I think you need spend a bit more time finding yourself before you commit to anything like that.
2006-09-04 01:45:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi, i have been married my self, although the wedding day was the best day of my life i was not really in love with my husband, i went through with it because i thought it was the best i could get and also that my parents really liked my husband, three years later i got divorced. i wish i had not got married because it caused a lot of hurt when i broke it all off, so if you really love this man with all your heart and can see yourself with him forever, then marry him, but if your trying to talk yourself into it, then say no. wait for your dream man hes still out there somewhere. good luck.
2006-09-04 01:53:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is not your ideal man, he will never be the one. When you meet that person you will just know that he is the one.
Don't ever lower your standards or ideals, hold out, even if it means you wait a few years longer... I did and I'm 32 (this Wednesday!) and have found my ideal partner. I'm glad I held out because he's my best friend, my soulmate, my lover, my life. My dream come true.
2006-09-04 01:39:54 · answer #5 · answered by 675 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to do this, go for it, but why did you have reservations about him in the first place? Do you still want the graduate? Have you spoken to your parents about this? Have a think about these and then make you decision. But think carefully.
2006-09-04 01:37:54 · answer #6 · answered by dnlrawson 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you in a relationship with this guy...or did he just come out and ask you to get married...your 27 yrs old...have a life first....dont marry unless you are 100% sure...it could turn into disaster
2006-09-04 01:39:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have not mentioned love once...how strange!!!
Ignore the education, job, age etc - just ask yourself if you love him? Do you still want to wake up next to him for the next 40 years?
If yes...go for it!!
If no...don't do it and wait for the right guy to come along
2006-09-04 01:39:11 · answer #8 · answered by kezls_79 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you want an older man and you do have feelings for him go for it if you arent already in a realationship with him then date him first.
if it doesnt feel right then dont do it.
why does he have to be a graduate? i dont understand that part of it. if you get on with someone and you find them attactive then do it.
2006-09-04 01:40:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your having doubts already, dont do it. not every guy you meet is the one your meant to marry. but i do believe that when you meet your soulmate, you will definetly know its him. and right now you just sound confused. so sorry to say, i think he may not be "the one".
2006-09-04 01:40:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋