2006-09-04 01:24:50 · 25 answers · asked by qwerty 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Well, if she's grown up you can't actually do anything at all.
If you do the nomral thing (well, I think it's normal) of telling her you don't like him, she'l lprobably stick with him all the more.
If it all goes horribly wrong between them you do get the satisfaction of being the "I told you so" monster, though!
2006-09-04 01:38:34 · answer #1 · answered by marzipanthecat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question of the day. I have 2 daughters and they are grown now with their own children. Many times I have not liked the boys that they would bring around and I would get a feeling that the boys might not of been good people. The only thing that I would say to them is "be careful." They new what I meant and then maybe a month or so later I would ask where this person was and all they would say is "you were right" That is how I dealt with my daughters and it seemed to work fine they are both married to really great guys.
2006-09-04 13:49:22 · answer #2 · answered by morris 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm I dont know the best way to tell you to react given there are varying circumstances. What is your daughter like? What is he like? is he using her, is there a money issue? Drug issue and etc etc.
Given my own experience , when my daughter was 16 I found out she was dating a 38 year old man.
Needless to say I chased him down with a bat and my car. I damn near ran him off the road and threatened to kill him. Grin.
What the heck...a mother bear in the wild can do it so can I.
2006-09-04 11:30:05 · answer #3 · answered by bolo 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Watch out for her well-being, but dont let her know your feelings or strong disapproval or she will date this guy just to aggravate you...something about the bad boy type has always drived teenage girls crazy, even if they are only bad boys by definition of the father of the girl....i would wait it out, next to no relationships at a young age last forever...but make sure that there are no late nights non-chaperoned hang outs and stuff like that...
2006-09-04 10:49:17 · answer #4 · answered by *mommy to two* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've raised my daughter as the unique individual I've always know she is.
She is now an adult and old enough to make her own decisions.
She comes to me for advice, including concerning her relationships with the opposite sex. I've always offered her advice when asked. Does she always follow it? No. But at least she asks me, I can't wish for more.
There has been an occasion where I didn't think highly of someone she was serious about. She called one day and asked my advice as to what to do. I told her my opinion and then followed it with the fact that she was old enough to make her own decisions and also old enough to live by the consequences but if she needed me, she knew where to find me.
Well, her decision was not the one that I would have made for her but I kept my mouth shut after the initial advice. Time proved me right and she suffered (fortunately not much) for her decision. She now thinks longer and harder about life changing decisions, and when she asks for the advice I attempt to make her think even longer and even harder.
I love my daughter and I know she loves me. I would never deliberately allow her to make a decision that would put her in harms way, but she needs to learn by her own mistakes, you can't teach experience.
Good luck and God bless.
2006-09-04 09:18:46 · answer #5 · answered by wetsaway 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough one...be careful about telling your daughter you don't like her man as she is more likely to take her mans side and leave you on the outer, these things can get very bitter sometimes. You may have to ride it out and simply be there when and if things go wrong.
2006-09-04 08:33:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing you can do is be nice to both of them. The more you show your dislike, the more your daughter will try to prove you wrong. If you show that you don't like him you are more likely to push her away and this will make him more set on taking her away.
2006-09-04 08:31:41 · answer #7 · answered by claire 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Invite the guy over for dinner and see what he is really about. Ask him the tough questions to see how he responds. Make it a requirement that before he takes your daughter out, he has to come over for dinner first. That will either make him respect your standards or it will make him so uncomfortable that he will not want to date her anymore.
2006-09-04 08:30:05 · answer #8 · answered by Joe K 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First and most important, don't fight about it. The most you talk against the boy, the most she'll like him. Because she'll try to prove you wrong. Hopefully, won't last long. But if it does last long, try to talk without arguing or rising your voice. But remember, she is you daughter but she has her own life to live. And THERE IS a chance that you could be wrong.
2006-09-04 08:33:25 · answer #9 · answered by elgil 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometime you have to let go... Just let her know how you feel, she might take what you say and thinks about it or leaves it alone. But in the long run she's the one that has to make that decision. regardless if shes right or wrong, all you can do is be there when she needs you. we all make mistakes.
2006-09-04 08:34:18 · answer #10 · answered by michellejackson52 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋