i have been feeling really down lately, i am with my boyf who i have been with nearly 4 yrs we live 2gether & pay a mortgage we ave been really short of money recently & i ave been stayin in every wkend gettin so bored, i went out for the 1st time on fri nite & kissed sum otha guy i no i jus did it 4 da excitment factor, but now i wonder whether more is wrong as i never do things like that, how can i sort this out?
2006-09-04 01:22:52 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The most common thing has happened - neither of you talk to each other/communicate. Sit down and talk about how each of you feel
2006-09-04 01:40:45 · answer #1 · answered by Dragon Empress 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know the feeling, I haven't kissed anyone else but sometimes you just need a little attention and excitement away from home and all the mundane things responsibility brings.
Don't tell him and try doing things that don't cost much with your man.....picnics in the park, art galleries. A nice candle lit meal at home. The cinema.
Try and put the kiss down to a moment of madness and forget it....really, don't tell him!
Try and bring a little spark back into your relationship and get away from the house for a while, together...being indoors only reminds you of your bills.
You need a break and to start enjoying each other again.....he probably feels down too so you need to support each other and take your minds off money by getting out (as cheaply as possible).
Good Luck.
2006-09-04 08:28:16 · answer #2 · answered by Gypsie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having no money is a pain in the bum. I know how you feel, doing the same thing time and time again and when you do get out you go wild. All that means is that you had a lot built up inside you that just came out when you were on the town. How do you feel now? Apart from guilty. Have a talk with your partner and try to get him more involved with your life, to inject something into it for you. The feeling will soon vanish.
2006-09-04 08:34:04 · answer #3 · answered by dnlrawson 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
everyone at some point in there life makes the odd mistake it sounds to me that u have forgotten how to have fun with ur other half. try sumthing different at home get out a board game scrabble is a good one u can make it as rude or as straight as u like even better with a cheap bottle of wine the rules are up to u both. the grass isnt greener on the other side believe me i know talking from experience. just forget about ur snog with the other man on ur night out staying in with not a lot of cash can just be as much fun. good luck and get sum spice back in ur love life u can only but try.
2006-09-04 10:36:42 · answer #4 · answered by fannyannie_1971 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps the spark as gone out a little, that's why a snog from someone else turns the spark on. To put a sparkle into relationship is not about going out partying its about putting excitement back in your marriage. The grass is not greener on the other side of the fence honest!
2006-09-04 08:52:58 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you do not want to be with this guy then you need to leave. Do not make him suffer anymore if you want to go out with other people. Kissing some other guy will eventually lead to more or will get back to your current bf and why create a reallly bad situation. If you decide you want to make it work get him involved in going out with you. You can always find inexpensive ways to spend time together like going to a park, inviting friends over for drinks and games, watch movies at home...etc
2006-09-04 08:29:33 · answer #6 · answered by Beth B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like your not happy and you need more excitement in your life, let him know that before you do something else out of character, you can find things to do that don't cost much or anything at all. If you want it to last just talk and be honest you owe that to yourself. Good luck!
2006-09-04 08:29:13 · answer #7 · answered by deadshscott 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your bored with your current relationship so rather than going out and getting with other dudes why don't you try to spice things up with your man. Either that or just end it with your bf and spare the guy the heartache of finding out his woman has been unfaithful.
2006-09-04 08:27:05 · answer #8 · answered by DialM4Speed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you love your partner? Or was it just the trials of life and the pressure youre under kinda encouraged you to do it? If you actually love your partner, Id put it down to a BIG mistake, and forget about it. If however you are bored with your partner, kinder to move on and let him be with someone trustworthy
2006-09-04 08:37:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
never ever share a morgage with anyone, especially if your not married...you will find that in a few years time that you will go thru a whole big legal battle if it comes to breaking up with him, as for kissing another guy...it was only a kiss...dont worry about it...if you enjoyed it, then dont let it worry you, we all need excitement sometimes...but if i were you...get the name of the morgage, it could turn ugly
2006-09-04 08:34:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋