i have three children two by a ex and one by my current fella,
my ex used to hit me alot which my family knew about took him to court etc then i finally left him, then i meet my current fella who ive been with for 7 years, its not allways been easy for us as my family hate him,
my family never talk to him or even want to see my daughter just because he is the father, he has allway been there for me and my other children never hit me.. but my family think i should go back to my ex..
after a lot of hassell we moved i stopped talking to my family all my family as they allways listen to my mom..
my dad came round 3 weeks ago after not talking to them for 2 years asking to see my children he only wanted to see my ex two not my little one
i said yes now since ive got back in contact the hassell has stared all over again.. my nice smashed up my fellas b.m.w last night
and came round bang on the door saying she wanted to kill me my children was scared i called the police
2006-09-04 01:20:48 · 25 answers · asked by very_funny 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
took her away, in the past my family have had socal services around my house saying i take drugs hit my kids sleep with men for money, my mom had me arrested saying i had stolen of her the list goes on
my fella says i should never get in contact again
but its my family i wish i was dead some times i do not know what to do
2006-09-04 01:23:52 · update #1
my family hate him because he has money, and the way i see it a better person than him.
my older son lives with my mom and dad so if i never contact them again means i can never see my son again
2006-09-04 01:27:19 · update #2
DUMP ALL YOUR FAMILY TELL THEM TO STAY AWAY
BUT NOT YOUR TWIN SISTER AS SHE HATES THEM AS WELL AND SHE HAS MISSED HAVING HER TWIN IN HER LIFE
2006-09-04 02:18:38 · answer #1 · answered by kitthekat 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
At the end of the day no matter what your family is never going to accept your new bloke and little one! the best thing i can think of as doing is to get your older son to move back in with you and allow him to have contact with your parents but you cut your loses they may be your family but they dont care about you really if they did they wouldnt want you to go back to someone that treated you so bad! just focus on the good things you have in your life like you bloke and kids! good luck
2006-09-04 08:45:30 · answer #2 · answered by mcardham 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but your family are nuts.
You need to think about you and the children. If your guy is nice to you and them then concentrate on that and cut your family out until they learn to behave like decent human beings.
They cant alienate one child .. that is not fair.
I dont know the ins and outs of this but it sounds to me like your little family group is better off alone.
Oh yes and I would recommend having that little delinquent vandal who smashed the car up arrested at the earliest opportunity .. they set an awful example for your children and should be kept away.
2006-09-04 08:26:01 · answer #3 · answered by enzuigiriuk 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That isn't family. Family take care of and support one another. Get a restraining order against all those morons. File charges against the niece. Don't even try to talk with or be nice to these creatures. Jerry Springer wouldn't have them. You and your fella and children sure don't need them.
2006-09-04 08:38:08 · answer #4 · answered by lollipop 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Gosh family's eh. I would keep my distance from them all. And for your dad shame on him kids are kids should not matter who they father is! i am with new partner and 1 from a previous & all treated the same By grand parents both sides plus familys are odd as i married over 6yrs ago thought some of my family liked my hubby only to find out they hate him cause he got a crimanal record when young!!!!!!!!!
2006-09-04 11:34:49 · answer #5 · answered by sandra+3... 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing by moving and having no contact with your family....your relationship and happiness are the most important.
Have a restraining order placed on the neice, and if you can prove she trashed the bmw, then sign a warrant for her arrest!
Tell your Dad if he cannot love all his
grandchildren the same, then he cannot have contact with any of them.
2006-09-04 08:26:56 · answer #6 · answered by shortfrog 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All you want is for everyone to get on. People who are like that are, if you will forgive me, the biggest bunch of idiots in the world. What do they want you to go back to your ex for? So he can beat you senseless, but they`ll be happy that you did? Stuff that! Try your best to calm thing down again and if that does not work, move again and don`t be so ready to give out ant personal details, If you want to contact them afterwards, do it on your own terms, not theirs. Wish you the best of luck with it.
2006-09-04 08:25:52 · answer #7 · answered by dnlrawson 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
welllady best thing to do is let sleeping dogs lie, stop messing around in the fire your gonna get burned
take what is left of your immediate family that is still in good with you and move to another part of your country, as for not acknowledging your youngest child, your father should be told he is not welcome at the house anymore, the neice who smashed the car persue charges against her and have your oldest move back home
2006-09-04 08:52:15 · answer #8 · answered by free2chat_tou 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Theres a saying - "you can choose your friends but you can't choose your family". Well maybe not but you can choose to say 'up yours' and walk away and that's what I suggest you do. Look after those you care about that care about you and ditch the cr#p along with the family.
Have the best life you can - it isn't a rehearsal!!
2006-09-04 08:27:52 · answer #9 · answered by geegee 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say this but your family is a collection of nut jobs and should be avoided. Before you do cut them off get your kid and then run far way from them.
2006-09-04 08:32:26 · answer #10 · answered by DialM4Speed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your family should support you....not send you back to a violent past...are they nuts or what....get the police and get rid of the hassles...dont go back to the ex...if he hit you, you dont need to be with him, stay with your current man and be happy...dont answer the door to the family, let them be-little themselves by acting like idiots...if they dont like your fella....thats their problem, not yours...stay away from them, dont put your kids through any stress by allowing the family back into your life...they need stability....move on and get rid of the scum
2006-09-04 08:28:57 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋