tell someone that i'm going to date that i never had a girlfriend or shouldn't I? How would she react if i tell her that i never had a girlfriend?
2006-09-04 00:48:52 · 20 answers · asked by lacoste 3 in Health ➔ Mental Health
It is noones' business but yours..don't start putting thoughts of suspicion in their head...just go out and have fun like you've been doing it for years..you really need to get to know someone before you finally admit that and make sure theyre not the type of person to take that information and make fun of you...Take your time and keep those most personal things inside for now...if she is the right girl...she might even be admitting the same thing to you after ten dates or so lol...good luck sweetie, you have your whole life ahead of you.
2006-09-04 00:54:31 · answer #1 · answered by MotherKittyKat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you are jumping the gun by completely ruling out the possibility of a love life. I just see you as a late bloomer. Popular culture makes you believe that girls want an experienced guy, but it's simply not true. A man who is a virgin can be way more sweet and sincere than a douchebag player type, and better in bed as well (trust me, I've been with both, and the former was way better in bed and also the greatest person I've ever met). Do you know how many 21 year old virgin girls there are living in their parents basement right now? Surely more than you think! If you're not looking for a relationship, that's cool and I can respect it. But if you do want to make some human connections (you should try it, it's amazing) I suggest using some of your "off-kilter" interests to find girls who are into the same things. Reddit or online forums might be a good way to start. I kind of like that your world doesn't revolve around sex, women, etc., but I hope you don't give up altogether on the idea of love. It exists and it is attainable for you and everyone else. Best of luck to you.
2016-03-26 21:35:04 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you been officially diagnosed with SAD, or is this simply a "self-diagnosis"? You need to be sure that that's what you have. It could be something else completely.
I'm not sure if you're planning on asking someone out, or if you already have, but either way, it shouldn't make any difference to someone if you've never had a girlfriend before. So what? And it really shouldn't come into the conversation until you've dated someone for a little while. It's nothing to be ashamed of, but it's also not a dating turn-on. Keep it to yourself until you know the girl well.
2006-09-04 01:14:36 · answer #3 · answered by grahamma 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be front and center with the truth.
Then you don't have to remember what you said the last time.
You will either be accepted or rejected.
Either way, you take it like a man, whether you feel like one right now or not. Believe it or not, living is a GROWTH process.
You heard the story: "No guts, no...etc."
Live it, love it. I mean the process. It will bring you to good places and develop your character.
But you must be willing to take the chance.
BTW, social anxiety is just a fancy label for Pharma establishment to peddle addictive poisons. It begins with each one of us, pulling our head inside our shell once, and find it's warm and cozy in there.
Now go, friend.
Live!.
(and learn).
2006-09-04 00:58:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have anxiety also and I was 22 before I had my first boyfriend. If she does ask I think you should just be up front about it and explain to her why you didn't have any GFs. I lied to my first BF about having pervious BFs because I was embarrassed but I wish I hadn't. It was a hard lie to keep up. He would ask question about this (fake) BF and I had to make up stuff up. I think if we had gotten really serious he probably would have found out anyway. So why bother lying about it? If she can't accept you for who you are she doesn't deserve you in the first place!
2006-09-04 02:10:41 · answer #5 · answered by Gypsy Cat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey if u two r trully interested in eachother, well i gues u can just tell her. There is no reason of hiding who u r , n if u really get to know eacchother n r friends o whatever, u ccan confide in her ur problem, a problem once shared is half solved. All the best
2006-09-04 00:56:13 · answer #6 · answered by aasweet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't tell her until you feel comfortable enough with your relationship with her and know you have her trust. If she is the right one for you then it won't be an issue and having that kind of relationship will help you with your social anxiety and help you form good relationships with other people too.
2006-09-07 23:25:40 · answer #7 · answered by jasmalha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough
2006-09-04 01:16:40 · answer #8 · answered by Paul 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, although I don't know how to help you, I could tell you jokes to help you feel better. The jokes goes:
-Doctor! I have a serious problem, I can never remember what i just said.
-When did you first notice this problem?
-What problem?
One more joke:
A guy calls his vet and says "What should I do with my cat?Vet says "What do you mean? Guy says "I had a leak in my lawnmowers gas tank and the cat drank the gas. Then the cat began to run around and around the yard, climbed a tree. then fell out of the tree stiff. Vet says "Is the cat dead? Guy replies "nope he ran out of gas.
Last of all just want to tell you that whatever you do, just don't give up. Also you must love and care for the people around you. In that way they will also show you the love that you show to them. Just be yourself and happy everyday. Wish you all the best and good luck!!
2006-09-04 00:51:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
well that meens u r a verjen girls love to b the first in your life and dont worry about what she thinks just ask her and tell her that shes the first girl u dated after u go out with her
2006-09-04 01:12:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋