Hi all,
It's easier said then done to move on with life when someone you love dearly in the past has left you all by yourself now.Just wondering,anyone out there with good startegies to cure the heartache ?
I often feel pain on the chest after lost love .Although I have tried very hard to make myself happy,but still,the blue mood is there whrever I go.
2006-09-04 00:03:54 · 12 answers · asked by Cinderella in blue jeans 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
U better get strong,erase that person out of ur mind,get interested in someone or somthing else,u can do it,its hard,but if u don't u set urself up for more hurt,good luck; u can do it!
2006-09-04 00:14:53 · answer #1 · answered by curious one 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in that situation now. Here is what I suggest
1. Answering question online. Nothing takes my mind off my own problems more then reading about other people's issues.
2. Throwing yourself into your work. Your job will benefit from your renewed intrest in work. You will get increased respect of your boss and co-workers.
3. Watch some funny TV shows. I just found all the Scrubs episodes! WooohoO!!!
4. Chat with some cute girls (or guys if that is your preference) online.
5. Clean your house. Wow, I mean really clean. Like go behind the fridge and all those crazy places that never get cleaned. The interesting and often disgusting things you will find will amaze you.
6. When you are freaked out about your ex-love and can't function, look at your pictures with them, listen to your songs... cry your eyes out and then make a list of every single thing you don't like about them.
7. Make some sort of pointless list of Things to do When You Are _________ (fill in the blank) and post it to the internet.
8. Do an random act of kindess for someone you don't know, who you will get no benefit from such as go to a restaurant and make a fuss over how great the server is, tell the manager that is the best server you ever saw and ask for the address of the home office of the compnay, give the server a big tip, go home and write a letter of thanks to the home office and tell why that server was so great.
9. Take a trip to Thailand, and get a 2 hour full-body massage every single day for 2 weeks.
10. On that trip to Thailand, buy a phrasebook, meet a local hottie at a bar, take him/her out for the night, treat him/her like a lady/gentleman, use the phrasebook to communicate with her/him, take a romantic walk on the beach, laugh, smile, and enjoy the night.
2006-09-04 00:19:13 · answer #2 · answered by Roger S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a long time to be able to handle the heart ached for a past love. In time the feelings will be controllable but you really never forget. You learn to remember the happy times and as the months past the memories come up less and less.
It hurts and you need time. Some what like an injury it takes time to heal.
Don't worry you will be fine and in time you will see you will be a better person and most likely happier than you ever believed possible.
2006-09-04 00:18:46 · answer #3 · answered by Mit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the best u can do is get out of ur house play some games and get urself busy that u just don't get time to think bout anything.Believe me I was in the same situation and this worked.Just give it a try.Or u can also try reading books.Fiction or something they help too.And if u wanna share ur feelings just im or mail me at inesh7@yahoo.com
2006-09-04 00:07:58 · answer #4 · answered by Teenager 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm i can relate here . i need more info but ill try here .if your alone and hes still around and single and he didnt cheat then i advise you to stop and look him up and even if hes got gf still give it a shot .he may feel same but he wont admit this but with pressure he may give in . but if its really over then you must move on and this takes work . first take care of your sanity ask someone whos a professional to give you advise and then find that best friend to listen to you . make it your new hobby to search for another mr right and take on new things to keep you busy. life is full of new things and if you loved this guy just think how much better next one might be . other guys need a lady who knows how to love also dont lose heart be hopeful and itll work itsself out in time
2006-09-04 00:41:36 · answer #5 · answered by sigmond 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A great thing to do is go out with all of your friends and go somewhere where there is alot of hot guys. Maybe somewhere like the beach or somthing. It takes time to get rid of heatache. All you can do is just forget about and just have fun. Think about the good things in life, and think about how good your life can be without him.
2006-09-04 00:08:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't cover it. and don't suppress it with fun and fake happy when your heart broke. GO and feel it. feel your desperation and sadness. go deep with that. and finally you will find a very valueable thing within , you will achive to a state of mind which is not fake, it is your new version. you will grow
2006-09-04 00:33:12 · answer #7 · answered by mohammad g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u have said it its easy to say but hard to do,so i think one of the possible ways u can try is to just let it be if time comes that you will think of him think,and sooner or later you will found out that the times you want to remember him will be lessen,the more you will try to let it go the more it will stay inside your heart so just let be in your heart as long as your heart wants.
2006-09-04 00:08:19 · answer #8 · answered by kimy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
enotalone.com
It's a very nice site with lots of people there
who are in the same situation. They do help
alot and they are nice people.
2006-09-04 00:10:09 · answer #9 · answered by slappingfox 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first clear things with yourself... are you ready to let go? if the answer is yes... next thing to do is entertain guys to forget past love.
2006-09-04 00:12:18 · answer #10 · answered by simplyme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋