recently my boyfriend confessed to me that when he told me he loved me he really did not mean it,he just said it to cheer me up, this is not the first time he has done that, we have been threw so much , I don't understand why again he would do this i mean he was the one who asked me to move in with him,he told me he cares deeply for me and he wants me to stay with him,when i asked him if he ever cheated on me he said no,if he lied about loving me i wander if he is lying about being faithful,i even considered going to a shelter because i am so hurt,what should i do ????????????????
2006-09-03 23:13:11 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Some guys I know say a lot of things that they don't really mean. They do it to get rid of the subject matter immediately.
Fortunately, I do not cross my paths with these guys anymore.
If something like LOVE is being taken for granted, he does not DESERVE you. I know its so difficult to believe that he really does not care for you since he does other things which will make you believe that he does care. The question is, until when can you PRETEND believing that he really loves you?
Sometimes we have to hurt people we love the most to give them a lesson that they will learn for the rest of their lives. Leave him. If you truly truly truly mean something to him, he will come searching for you. Believe in the saying that you only realize the value of someone or something when you don't have it anymore.
Make him feel that he is going to lose something really valuable...YOU.
If he does not learn his lesson this hard way, then he does not even deserve anyone at all.
2006-09-03 23:24:27 · answer #1 · answered by Busy Diyosa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all what are you doing even living with this guy? he hasn't even told you he loves you, and your willing to go that far into this relationship with him? he's put nothing into this relationship and you've allready given him what he wants without the hassle of marriage. that may make him happy but look, its you who's getting shorthanded. and hurt. Move Out. If he really "cares deeply" about you he'll chase after you. And if it does work out in the future, don't move in with him again. All that does is give him everything he wants and leaves you wanting more.
2006-09-03 23:24:08 · answer #2 · answered by mandapanda1990 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's obvious he doesn't love you, and if he lied about that, who knows what else he is lying about? I'd leave him. He's not 'Mr. Right' for you. If he doesn't love you, there's no point of sticking around, even if he does want you there. It would be best for you to leave, so you wouldn't have to put up with him, and get hurt even more. He deserves for you to leave him, considering how much of a jerk he sounds like. If he's hurt by you leaving him, good. He deserves it for what he's put you through, now. So yes. Leave him.
Good luck.
2006-09-03 23:18:41 · answer #3 · answered by Stevie B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you feel deeply hurt that he would lie about something as meaningful as love... That if he could lie about that then what else has he lied to you about... Tell him if he really cares for you as much as he says he does than its time to clear the air so that you guys can move forward into the future with a clean slate... If he refuses than you know he has something to hide and its probably in your best interests to cut your losses and move on with your life...
2006-09-03 23:17:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even if he's never cheated on you, there's no reason to stay in a one-way relationship. Pack up, move out, and move on to a man who means what he says. If he's done this before you should have left him already.
2006-09-03 23:27:51 · answer #5 · answered by live2ride 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like your boyfriend likes to play mind games - as for going to a shelter it seems to me your either not telling us everything or its a bit of an over reaction - shelters are usually for emergency accomidation for people who have been assaulted - if all he has done is say I dont really love you then he hasnt really done anything to make you run to a shelter - I have never been to one but is it really somewhere you want to go? It sounds to me like your not happy with him and lets face it who wants to have mind games used against them just leave him - if you dont want to do it in front of him wait till he goes out or goes to work and pack your things, write a note and go.
2006-09-03 23:18:30 · answer #6 · answered by ♥Kazz♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mom always says if a man tells that he does not love u anymore, it means he does not love u period. So, dump the loser and go start a new life, He isn't worth the hurt.
2006-09-03 23:21:17 · answer #7 · answered by Nthape 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
heyy chica! girl, dont let him get to you like that and if tha a$$ w!pe told you that then you need no other proof. leave the d!ck head! gawd i h8 men like that, i kno it gunna b hard gettin ova itbut hey in the end its all worth kuz at the end of every rainstorm theres a raiinbow and at the end of that rainbow is a pot of gold just 4 yew^^ keep ya head up
2006-09-03 23:21:46 · answer #8 · answered by ɷ▫▪вяøκeи;;♥ иøт đefeαтeđ▪▫ɷ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why should you be with someone who you can't trust?
Trust is very important in a relationship.
I think maybe he wants to leave you but doesn't want to hurt you.
Leave him!!
2006-09-03 23:23:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out! Never let them lie to you he will only do it lots more if your that easy to push over.
2006-09-03 23:18:24 · answer #10 · answered by JustAGirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋