ok this is the first time that ive felt like this before and i have been in many relationships before but this one was different. well i was together with this guy named Brian for about 3 months and then he broke up with me on the last day of school but he said he still really liked me and i told him i still liked him too a lot! but it just happend. well he told me maybe we could get back together when school starts again so i waitied and suffered all summer! and now school has started again and ive asked about getting back together and he is like well i have dated you before and you are very dateable but idk since i am a senior and all this year i dont know if id have enought time to be as committed as i would like to a girl such as yourself with everything ill be doing so i guess whatever happens, happens...we'll just play it by ear. and Brian isnt the kinda guy who just wants to mess around with many girls, i was his first REAL relationship. but i cant stop thinking about him!! help
2006-09-03 22:50:30 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i have two classes with him this year and its very hard to be in class and i cant concentrait when he is in there and i cant stop thinking about him and i just cant get over him!!! no matter how hard i try!!!! i cant!!! i care about him WAYYYY TOO much!!! i just wish i could get him back but i dont know how!!!!!!
2006-09-03 22:51:50 · update #1
Girl,where are your parents?
You say you have been in several other
relationships before? This young man is
being honest with you. he doesn't want a
commitment,and can't you see why? he is
still just a kid!!! If you were a happy girl with
a good life going for yourself,you'd feel the
same way he does. He is too young,and he
is aware of it. Why can't you have a life where
a guy isn't everything in the whole world to you?
Enjoy life and have fun,a guy isn't everything
and shouldn't ever be. thats too much of a
heavy burden for anyone to carry no matter
what your age is,so learn from this.
Love yourself and you'll find that there is much
more to life and maybe you'll also realize that
a low self esteem is why people cling onto
the opposite sex so often at this age,and some
do it when they are even older,and it's always
ashame and a terrible sight to be around.
Love your own life and you won't feel so
insecure and desperate for a guy!!!
2006-09-03 23:03:54 · answer #1 · answered by slappingfox 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't sound like that kind of guy that is worth your time and effort, he's wanting to keep his options open and see if someone better comes along. Do yourself a favor and find someone else that deserves your attention and leave Brian to do whatever it is he's going to do. If he would want the same relationship you wanted he would want to spend time with you, plain and simple.
2006-09-04 06:03:19 · answer #2 · answered by live2ride 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys some how are very good at disappointing us. So never set yourself up like that. I know its hard to do if you really like him but you have a long ways ahead of you and dating and relationships. You really need to not be into him alone so much. look at other options there are so many things to learn about men and you wont if you stick to just one. Don't sleep with them either unless you have a long term meaningful relationship with someone. Go out and explore you will find someone who cares as much as you do. Just remember there is a big difference between lust and love. Thats what he is doing, keeping his options open. Good luck.
2006-09-04 06:01:23 · answer #3 · answered by JustAGirl 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, sounds to me like this guy is trying to play you and keep you hanging on at the back burner because maybe he's got another interest and she has yet to confirm an interest in him, so he's got you idling there in case he gets rejected by this other interest.
And..... he might be stating truths to u, that this year is academically tough for him and he doesn't have alot of time....
use your best judgement, follow your first initial gut instinct and if you decide that you want him so badly and just gotta be with him, get a bottle of superglue, smear it all over your best blouse that you are wearing on a particular day u choose to smear yourself with glue and bump into him... and waalaa... you're together like 2 peas in a pod.
2006-09-04 05:58:52 · answer #4 · answered by someone s 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You guys were only together for three months....that is not a serious relationship, you should try focusing on your school work not him. That could work two ways, 1. you'll do better in school. 2. when he sees that your focus isn't on him, that may make him put more attention on you. Either way, you can't lose.
2006-09-04 05:57:16 · answer #5 · answered by Kerry 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sweetie....he broke up with you when school ended so he could hook up with other girls over the summer. He's a guy...which means he thinks with the head between his legs. He's playing games. Trust me, its not worth your time...find a new guy.
(And who knows if he finds out you've moved on to bigger and better things maybe he'll realize what he lost and try and get you back.)
2006-09-04 06:00:36 · answer #6 · answered by reena_ree86 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
u better show him this question of yours...he will understand
2006-09-04 05:56:23 · answer #7 · answered by sree 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋