My exBoyfriend kept hanging out with me as friends while I was still helping him with chores/errands he asked me to do.
When he got a new girlfriend and then got very serious with her I explained to him that I couldnt keep doing chores and stuff I did when we were dating or he was single.
He whined and tried to guilt me to help him put I put my foot down and haven't been his unpaid servant anymore.
This week he told me he is getting engaged because his girlfriend's biological clock is going nuts and she is now thinking about babies 24/7 (she's almost 37)
He said that he isnt getting any younger either so he's going to settle down.
He told me that I should move on and should go move out of this town and have a fresh start.
He knows I just signed a contract to buy a new condo in town & now he's trying to talk me out of it.
For years he would protest me moving anywhere and now he is suggesting towns 50 miles away.
Is he just trying to get rid of me ?
2006-09-03 22:45:37 · 16 answers · asked by Spitting Angry 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I should also add that my exBoyfriend is buying a big new home with his fiance in another town 25 minutes away.
So he won't even be living in this town anymore in 6 months !
I think he doesn't want me to have this town all to myself to enjoy
(the town we both live in is pretty cool and only 10 minutes to NYC)
2006-09-03 22:54:40 · update #1
yes he is. after all that you did for him as friends, and now he's treating you like that.
seriously, i think life still can continue even if you stayed there. just ignore him & never look him up again.
2006-09-03 22:47:51 · answer #1 · answered by mbd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think what he is trying to say is that you deserve the best and maybe some new scenery will do you good. If you like where you live then stay there. Don't let your ex tell you what to do. He doesn't sound right if he is getting married because his new gf's biological clock is ticking. That's a dumb reason to get married. They deserve each other and you are better off without him. I guess you can try to stay friends, but I would say so long and find you a good man with a good head on his shoulders.
2006-09-03 22:50:48 · answer #2 · answered by danny_austin4 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't just leave town because of him. I mean who is he to tell you what to do. You should lead your own life and take decisions alone. I think that now that he has his new girlfriend, he does not need you anymore around, that's why he is suggesting you to leave. If he were a real friend he would still want you around
2006-09-03 22:49:08 · answer #3 · answered by Maria F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's only up to one person what you do, & that's you! If you want to move town, if you think it will be difficult to be around your Ex & his new girlfriend then more, but don't move because he tells you too. Do you really want to move to a new town & start a whole new life? Your your own boss.
2006-09-03 22:48:19 · answer #4 · answered by idk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ya think? tell him to grow up ... he knows the way out of town too, let him hit the road with his new honey ... live your life for you and grow up too, you dont owe him anything. could be his honey feels insecure with you around. cant say as i blame her, he cant seem to get his act together ... sounds like he is marrying for all the wrong reasons and wants you out of town so he has a place to run to that she doesn;t know about ... dump this insensitive slob and move on with your own life
2006-09-03 22:52:16 · answer #5 · answered by casurfwatcher 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes he is.. But if I were you I wouldn't move anywhere if I didn't want to. Don't let him tell you what to do! He's not your boyfriend anymore and now he has nothing to say.
2006-09-03 22:53:56 · answer #6 · answered by konrad 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever the hell he is trying to do doesn't matter.
Why do you even keep on talking to this guy?
Who is he to tell you what to do?
Tell him that you will move if he breaks up with this girl!
LETS SEE HOW HE WILL REACT WITH YOU BOSSING HIM AROUND!
Girl, just ignore this loser and do whatever YOU want to do! :-)
2006-09-03 22:50:07 · answer #7 · answered by C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ya of course,DO NOT MOVE ANYWERE just b/c he wants u too.he's just a control freak don't give a time of day n tel him if he doesn't want to live in the same town as u let HIM move he's not the boss of u.
2006-09-03 22:58:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stuff him. He is your ex - boyfriend. He has no say in your life. If you want to continue living where you are, do it. If you don't, move.
2006-09-03 22:48:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes he's trying to get rid of you. maybe his new girlfriend doesn't like you being around. maybe something else, but it's not your problem. it's his.
2006-09-03 22:52:32 · answer #10 · answered by purple_butterflyuk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋