I am an emotional wreck! I have this deep feeling for my close friend who is too much in love with another girl whom I myself introduced to him. I just realized this when the jealousy spangs started within me. I tried to take it aside but the idea of seeing him with another girl is just killing me. I am so confused whether I am in love with him or is it just a fear of losing him to another person. We used to hanged out a lot together but now his time is being divided. I just feel bad that i cant do anything about it because I am his best friend. Please put some perspective unto me. I really need your help. Thanks a lot.
2006-09-03 22:22:32 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Get ready, here comes your perspective.
You get him alone, in a place that was always yours and his place, and you put on your best smile, turn on all your charm, and tell him exactly how you feel. When you are together, let your love flow so strongly, it will surround both you and him, let him feel the warm touch of your hand and see the sparkle in your eye and lean close and tell him in your loving voice, " I Love You"and he will feel it and it will give him goose bumps, and just watch what happens.
What's that you say, you have a fear of rejection? Come on lady, find something else to worry about and in the mean time, make your love flow to the max. See you and he being together, doing all the things you did together before, and more. Do not allow anything to be in your mind except your special, strong, true and all powerful love and it will flow in the air and you two will be like in the happy ending of a movie, and all the angels will smile down and little cupids will dance and there will be arrows flying everywhere, and then. . . . .you just follow the yellow brick road.
Now go do the right thing.
Darryl S.
2006-09-03 22:57:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
cool your jets.....believe me, it will be worth it. I hooked up with my best friend, but it was BAD timing. Now, if we ever get a chance to be together, then things will be ALL SCREWED UP.
Check out that movie "My Bestfriends Wedding". Its hilarious, but you can learn something from it. If your serious, you can start an "Inside joke" stating that if you both arent happy by a certain date, then you'll give each other a try......but you should'nt make that date next week or something.
Find a real subtle way to put it out there that you think that when the time is right, the planets align, both dogs are inside the house, the car starts up with no pro.......you get the point.....that you two should be together.
But make it REAL SUBTLE. You dont want to freak him out. If it was meant to be, then things will work out great for you two, if you can exercise patience. Gudluk!!!
2006-09-03 22:31:54 · answer #2 · answered by diaz276 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me more like you are jealous of the time he spends with another person, that he used to spend with you. If he really likes this other person a real friend would back off a little and let him enjoy his relationship. maybe you need to open up and start making new friends, it will help you to get over this guy, and maybe find someone who is right for you.
2006-09-03 22:28:26 · answer #3 · answered by Kali_girl825 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are totally wrong. why should you hide your feelings, rather express it and make sure that your friendship is pure without any hard emotions or ill feelings for anyone. have a broad heart and be everyone's good friend. just being somebody's good friend doesnt mean that we are in love or any other thing. you are just confused. be always true friend. a day will come when you will get married to a gentleman who is going to be your life partner and only yours for ever, till then all are only your good friends, go ahead and enjoy healthy friendship without polluting it. keep a clear heart with serene feelings.
2006-09-03 22:31:03 · answer #4 · answered by shankari n 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my friend you are in a fix, hmm, is this guy in love with the other girl? I mean really in love?
Then you dont stand a chance. I think you should accept the fact. Its no use telling him , he dint & doesnt love you right?
I think you should let go, and not to worry, you will come out of it, when you find another person.
Why unwantedly create problems for him and for the other girl right? May be shes as good as you are & hes your good friend.
I think you have to come to terms with the reality
2006-09-03 22:32:04 · answer #5 · answered by sree 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honesty s the best policy ... keep in mind that love is a gift freely given, you cant make someone love you ... if he is, as you say, your best friend, then you should be able to talk to him about your feelings openly and honestly ... in my opinion, if you discuss this with him, you will at least know where you stand and i think you will be able to deal with whichever direction it goes from there.
if you really love him, you have to love him enough to support his decision for his own happiness.
2006-09-03 22:31:07 · answer #6 · answered by casurfwatcher 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he is inlove with this girl and u see him happy.then be happy for both of them...u cannot hide ur feelings bcoz that is inside of u,face the reality im sure u can find a nice man too...be happy to ur bestfriend that he found a good girl...just be urself and everything is gonna be ok...get busy and im sure u can find one....
2006-09-03 22:30:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
May be it is better that you talk frankly about it. It always helps a lot more let things clear, than go hiding
2006-09-03 22:24:17 · answer #8 · answered by waterfall 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well thats really hard to do if that person really know you well enough.just like my firend,i can tell when something is wrong with her or if she needs help., so really you cant,.your firend know you better then you do your self.
2006-09-03 22:26:09 · answer #9 · answered by bigmomma s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you introduced them .i guess you gave him up .tell him how you feel or leave him alone
2006-09-03 22:28:05 · answer #10 · answered by tia c 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋