My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 months now. He looked crazy about me before he could have me. Before I could very easily understand that he was really in love with me. Now that we are together he looks distand and kind of indifferent. When we have sex (he wants to do it, this is not the point but), the first time we do it he's ok; the second time he finds hard "finishing the job", he usually doesn't come at all, but he does it just to make me "happy".
I feel so bad about it. Maybe he doesn't love me anymore? He doesn't want me, he doesn't like me...???Maybe I don't turn him on anymore?
I'm sexy and I have a lot of guys coming round, but since we have these problems I have lost my self-esteem and I'm always sad and crying.
Should I just break up with him cause these are signs that he doesn't love me anymore?
Please help.Please.
2006-09-03 22:14:18 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i would suggest that you stop trying to evaluate your love for each other based on sexual performance ... put more effort into foreplay and afterplay that to "get it done" ... men under stress do not perform as well as those not under stress .. it may have nothing to do with you (job, school, etc) learn to communicate and dont put unrealistic expectations on him and you. since you are living together, you dont have to lump your sexual encounters on top of each other ...space it and pace it ... he is not responsible for your self esteem .. that is all yours ... why are you contemplating breaking up with him if you love him???? dont read into his actions, men are pretty simple, feed us and love us and we are happy ... but we are single minded, we can only focus on one issue at a time, so if he is distracted, he wont perform up to your expectations ... lighten up and remember, sex is fun, not a job .. its an extension of your communication, not the foundation for it
2006-09-03 22:25:07 · answer #1 · answered by casurfwatcher 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to here the news--
Okay, remember he went crazy over you first- hopefully you didn't change too much. The thing about guys is that we will go crazy to get a girl, but, once we get them we get comfortable and controlling- (Not me though! LOL)
You two been together for (3) months don't just walk away yet. Tell him how you feel in it's entirety and see what his response if. If he has that (I could careless look in his face) then it's time for him to meet Ms. Exit. but, he might tell you what's been bothering him and you two might be able to salvage what was once broken. Remember if you still got guys sweating you there's life after this relationship- but, a least give him a chance to explain himself -- Good Luck Friend--Askme922.
2006-09-04 05:25:28 · answer #2 · answered by Askme922 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should talk about it before come to any decision of breaking up with him. Maybe something is bothering him and he is hesitant to discuss it with you, maybe it is a family thing or something very personal. Whatever the case u should ask him and find out what is going on because the impact of whatever is troubling him is on you. Three months is not a long time to know a person very well but I am sure that u will understand what is going on if you talk with him about his behaviour towards you.
Good luck!
2006-09-04 05:20:23 · answer #3 · answered by C.C. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl After just 3 months you've already given it up to him? maybe that is the problem
you need to sit down and communicate with him ask him if there is a problem in the sex dept or if he is going through something
a man will shut down and try to act as if he doesn't need anything just to prove a point
if you are truly unhappy and you try communicating walk away. 3 months and a few intimate moments you can spare but prolonging something that is just going to hurt you in the end is going to hurt you even worse
2006-09-04 05:26:16 · answer #4 · answered by girlsm9frmgod 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the only way of knowing the answer is to ask him. We never know what he is thinking...maybe he just had to prove to himself that he could get you interested on him....or maybe he is just stressed out about something else...how are we going to know?
But I really think that you should talk to him so that at least you will know what is going on inside his head.
Be prepared to hear that he doesn't love you anymore because that's the worse thing that could happen, but you won't know until you talk to him about it.
Good luck!
2006-09-04 05:20:41 · answer #5 · answered by C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dear...you need LOVE...try to get away from him for a while, pray, ask for God's help, cry because you slept with him and if it's God's will for you both to be together everything will be ok. if you break up with him don't do the same mistake with your next bf, don't sleep with a gay till you get married. PRAY FOR THAT!
2006-09-04 05:20:53 · answer #6 · answered by tatal_nostru2006 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No don't leave him he probably really love you. You just draining him stop ******* all the time he be begging for more the second nut is always harder so don't look into it so much
2006-09-04 05:21:26 · answer #7 · answered by mechieshd@sbcglobal.net 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, dump him, if he isn't being as nice as he was before boyfriend and girlfriend, maybe he will treat you right after you dump him
2006-09-04 05:25:44 · answer #8 · answered by steve 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a big mess to me. I think you should break it off.
2006-09-04 05:21:05 · answer #9 · answered by Jon 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communication and openness will be the key to answering this problem with him.
2006-09-04 05:17:55 · answer #10 · answered by blix_78 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋