my man left to go work abroad for a year and told me to wait for him. i've done that until a month ago wen i met an awsome guy. me and this new guy knew each other's situations and said we wont get attached but i've fallen in love with him and i cant tell him. every time we make love, i realise it more and more. wat shud i do, tell him, keep it inside, wait for my man to come back, let them all go.... please help
2006-09-03 21:41:58 · 17 answers · asked by memyselfandi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hey girl
Obviously you've already taken your relationship with this guy to the next level. Obviously it's also more or less regular that you have carnal relations with him.
No judgements here. But looking at it objectively, you've got needs this guy is obviously fulfilling emotionally and physically.
Be open about this to yourself. Once you come to terms with it, you'll know how to move the next step, else post another question. ; ) Good luck
2006-09-03 22:10:42 · answer #1 · answered by Hang Tough 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's done is done. no matter how hard it might be to be honest you are hurting everyone including yourself by not being honest to those two men. You may lose them both but you will have been honest and if neither of them can forgive you for the mistake that you made or feel the slight gratitude of your honesty you are better off. Also you will learn that if it is too hard to wait then either take a break or break up.
2006-09-04 04:58:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I still can not figure out why people like you get into a relationship. And how on earth are you in love after a month...that's b.s and you know it! You need to keep your options open and not get involved, being it is that you have to cheat. What's the point of being with someone if you have to cheat, just date...don't get into serious relationships. But since you already have gotten into a relationship and decided to have an affair with a man whom you only knew for a month..let me give u some up to date advice! First of all, a lot of people confuse good sex with love, it's not love it's lust...and it's powerful. Being horny drives people to cheat on people they really love, that's all it is. Secondly, you need to call him. e-mail him, write a dam letter or something and tell him what you did. He deserves to know. Thirdly, i recomend that you don't get seriously involved untill you can learn how to be faithful. You don't cheat on your man who is somewhere working his azz off for some dic okay!
And we as women wonder why men become dogs! Girls like you. You should be ashamed of your self, i might be sounding harsh but it's tuff love girl!
2006-09-04 04:55:09 · answer #3 · answered by StormyRain 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GIRL!!! u gotta sit down n think it out thoroughly. if u love one more than the other that has to be only evident to urself. but u don't have to rush anything. tho if u want ur byfrnd to respect u still when he comes back, u should let him know now that u've met someone, so u change ur status to single. when he gets back then use that time with him n always spend all ur times wisely. u never know how long they will last. live love & let die. that's wat i say. feel ur feelings n ride em. that too. =oD
2006-09-04 04:46:17 · answer #4 · answered by StonerChick421 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunatly you are a slut that cant keep her legs together without a vice. What you can do is get a doctors appt and get fixed so you cant reproduce thus you dont further dilute the gene pool.
2006-09-04 04:50:47 · answer #5 · answered by j 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep your legs CLOSED!
Finish what you started with THE FIRST LOVER or STAY with him and RID THE OTHER ONE!
STOP over lapping GUYS. You'll just get into some REAL SH!T.
You can't have your cake and eat it too!
Id THROW THE CAKE IN YOUR FACE.
Your A CHEATER.
2006-09-04 04:45:38 · answer #6 · answered by Cherries 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're a real piece of work aren't ya? Remember what goes around comes around and payback IS a bi*ch.
2006-09-04 04:45:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
go with ur heart n in tis case is tis new guy, 1st u muz find out wat he tink m whether he loves u or juz using u for sex. in either way, pls be honest with ur bf n leave him
2006-09-04 04:49:29 · answer #8 · answered by he 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IT IS NOT CHEATING IF DO NOT COMMIT WITH THIS MAN , IF YOU ARE SERIOUS , THEN YES YOU ARE , BETTER SPEND GOOD TIME WITHOUT ENTERING ANY COMMITMENT .
2006-09-04 04:48:48 · answer #9 · answered by your noon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave the guy your or stop cheating .
Simple answer
2006-09-04 04:44:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋