how often do you tell your mother (or other female figure who has strongly influenced you) that you love her..

Question

and/or how exactly she has helped shape who you are as a person? i recently emailed my mom, (she is in the states and i am overseas) and she said i made her cry and i thought to myself "gosh, have i been neglecting to tell her how much she means to me?"
do you, in general, think we should go out of our way to tell our loved ones just how loved they are, all the time? or do you think after awhile it seems to lose it's meaning?... like your trying to hard ....? just curious... my mom and i have a sordid past, but i love my relationship with her now that i'm an adult...

Answer 1

Not nearly enough. Thank you for reminding me. I need to see my mother today.

Answer 2

I think its very important to express love to the ones that you do love. I don't let a day go by without telling my wife how much I love her and by showing my mom that I care and love her so much. I try to do things that will make their life easier and I guess this translates into expressing my love for them too.

Answer 3

My mother passed away with her being in the USA and me in Oz but before she did I was able to talk to her and yes even tell her thank you for being my mom ... I loved the relationship that I had with her ..she was my friend ...
Call your mom today ...as she might not be there tomarrow ...

Answer 4

Hi! I also have a sordid past with my mother and I used to beat her up thinking that wanted to control me forever because she was a very overcontrolling mother...That was when I was young and did not understand that she was schizophrenic and that she has no one else to talk to or be with since my father left and that was why she controlled my sister and me as she did not want to los us thinking that something bad will happen to her if she lets us go out into the big bad world....now that I am older and finally understand her situation, I regret deeply what I have done and hate myself very much for causing her a lot of physical pain and heartache...I always thought that she hated us when we were younger because she did physically abuse us beating us until we bled sometimes...But now that I think back she did love us and want the best for us...I remember how for a very important entrance examination, I was very weak in Science and was determined to do well and she stayed up until late with me the day before the exam, reading to me the important Science details and testing me about what I have learnt just to make sure I remembered the important details...And I got a B!!I would not have passed without her help....And that action shows her love...Now, I want to say sorry to her and seek her forgiveness for all the bad I have ever done and I would like to say that I love her very much for all the things that she ever did for me and that if ever felt that she failed us, she didn't because I knew she was ill and that it was never her fault and that things will be ok that she will be ok....And I have not told her yet all these because I would feel strange as I am not someone who expresses myself well and how she would react...therefore upon reading your post, I admire you for the fact that you tell your mum that you love her and there is nothing weird or strange in that...it is admirable...it takes a strong person to be able to continously show love for the people that means a lot to her and say they love them without it sounding like you are trying too hard upon saying it every time...you are just being honest in expressing your love for your mother and you say you love her because you MEAN it...it will only sound tiring or feels like you are trying too hard only when YOU YOURSELF feel that it is an obligation to say you love your mum...saying you love her is not an obligation and nothing to be ashamed of...think of how much joy you bring her each time you say you love her...if you had a boyfriend and he never says 'I love you' let alone a simple 'I like you', wouldn't you feel something is wrong..wouldn't you be upset??same thing with your mum and having a good relationship with your mother and family and having good communication will shape you to be a better person and how you see the world as from the phrase, 'family is the basic unit of society'....your sordid past should not be a hindrance to the relationship you share with your mother...we all make mistakes especially when we are younger...now that you are older and more experienced and understanding...do forgive yourself for the stupid things that you might have done in the past and love yourself, your mother and family...we never know when the people in our life are going to go so we should express ourselves to them constantly whether through words or actions to let them know that they are remembered and we love them very much...once they are gone and you never got the chance to show it, it will really hurt as an experience like that happened to me and I regret until today...so yeah I think I will go write a letter for my mum now telling her of how much I love her....

Answer 5

I tell my Mom I love her every time I talk to her-It may be the last chance I get to tell her-It doesn't matter how old you are-every time you talk to or see someone you care about-- it could be the last time, take that time to let them know that you care and that you do love them.

Answer 6

i have a very good relationship with my mum and we phone each other on a regular basis . we always tell each other how much we love each other, you can never say it enough cos when you mean it, it never loses its meaning, i always tell my family and friends i love them you never know that time might unfortunately be the last hope it helps xx

Answer 7

actually sad to say, i don't tell my mother how much i love her. though i can't live without her. I used to dislike her too when i was younger coz she curbs my freedom. i was very rebellious and spiteful as a teenage and i guess i caused her a lot of heartache. i resepect her after i came out to work and respect some of her decisions when i was younger.

Answer 8

I TELL MY MOTHER , I LOVE HER EVERY DAY. IF NOT MORE . SHE IS 75 YEARS OLD . SHE IS MY BEST FRIEND . WE TALK ON THE TEL.EVERY DAY . I COOK AND TAKE HER FOOD EVERY DAY.WE SPEND A LOT OF TIME AT THE DOCTOR OFFICE AND HOSPITAL. WHEY ARE CHECKING FOR CANCER . NO I DON'T THINK IT -SEEMS TO LOSE ITS MEANING. EVERY TIME I TELL HER . I MEAN IT . AND I DO KNOW. THAT SHE KNOWS I MEAN IT .YOU NEED TO KEEP TELLING YOUR MOM.-AND EVERY ONE YOU LOVE . WE NEVER KNOW IF, IT WILL BE THE LAST TIME ,YOU CAN TALK TO THEM.

Answer 9

I do, from time to time. I tell it to her to remind her how much she means to me; how she influenced me to become the way I am now. I am very thankful for her presence in my life.

Answer 10

Actually it's hard to say so when I faced her, but I tried to express it in other ways.