My brother has been married to his sister for 8 years i met him when i was young but didnt start dating him until just recently.
2006-09-03 20:45:55 · 30 answers · asked by sheyjj 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm 27 years old and my boyfriend is 38..yes an 11 year difference. We have been happily together for over 4 years now! You have to follow your heart and think about how you feel. If you think it will work, go for it. If you have doubts, it might not work. You have to be careful, will this damage your relationship with your sister, friends, other family members. But all in all, you need to think of you and him. This is something that happens everyday, sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't . I wish you luck, just make the right choice. You can not let others choose for you.
2006-09-03 20:54:05 · answer #1 · answered by LM 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ummmm ... you need to give a little more details. I am assuming this is your sister's husband and the daughter he has is your niece? NO NO NO NO NO, this should not work ever. Because the one thing I have realized while going through a break up is that I have my family to support me. If you date within the family then you are going to end up being the bad guy. I don't know if this answer makes any sense but the reason for that is your question is ridiculous. In your details you say, "My brother has been married to his sister for 8 years ......" Ummmm .... wouldn't that make it your sister and your brother and out of curiousity do you live in kentucky? Because either I know exactly what is going on or you completely butchered your answer and didn't actually mean what you said .. which I am hoping ... re-edit your question and I would love to give you a proper answer! I think incest is sick so if that is the question than you already know you answer! And furthermore, there are a lot of people that answered this question and didn't even pick up in the logistics, Wow, I guess I thought that the people who logged on the Yahoo Answers were smart bu there appear to be complete morons! Aweome ... glad to learn it.
2006-09-04 03:52:46 · answer #2 · answered by caroline 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl...NO! Your 23, You have your whole life ahead of you! He's 32, has a kid with a baby mama! Start fresh! Besides he is your brother in law..not a good look! Overall I feel like your young and deserve somebody on the same level as you. Never get with a man in his 30's with a pre teen and a baby mama...its always bad news. He's just looking forward to some young azz to keep it real with you. But my sis almost married a man who was in his 30's had kids....and it all went down hill...my cuzin also was in the same situation as you and it didn't work!
2006-09-04 04:06:45 · answer #3 · answered by StormyRain 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually she is your sister in law's brother and I dont understand what is the problem. Only concern is the 10 years old daughter, is he married, divorcee or single parent, this was not stated in your question. You are 23 and he is a free to marry you why not, he is only 9 years older. Go for it. Good luck
2006-09-04 03:54:54 · answer #4 · answered by sonisunny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The age difference is not the problem here. The problem is do you want a boyfriend or lover with a 10 yr old daughter? If you are in a commited relationship with your brother-in-law would you be able to play the role of a mother to his daughter? Getting seriously involved with people who have children has its own set of problems and heartaches. The relationship will work ONLY if you and your brother-in-law are sincere and are able to foresee the limitations such relationships could bring. Think about it.
2006-09-04 04:06:12 · answer #5 · answered by yuvan53 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could work depending on what kind of individuals both of you are, and the level of your committments to the relationship. The fact that he has a 10-year old daughter is serious and you would need to reflect carefully on the consequences of this, considering you yourself are also only 23. Do you have a good and trusting relationship with his child. Do you think she would accept your relationship with her father. It is important because, her rejection could put a strain on your relations.
2006-09-04 03:55:04 · answer #6 · answered by zulisunilovely 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im 19 my husband is 36 he haves 2 kids from a previous marriage they are 8 and 13. ....Age is nothing more then a number as long as all parties are of legal age.
As for you dating your brother-n-law well he is not blood related so I dont see why not. It may cause problems in your family though but if you can deal with it then why not. You cant help who you love, your not suppose to.
2006-09-04 03:50:31 · answer #7 · answered by deadly_rose_04 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Not easy because there are others involved. The wife and daughter would be a serious factor to consider. If he's still married, do not go any further with him!
If he's divorced, give yourselves more time to get to know each other better. Why are they divorced? How do you know it will not happen with you? Are your attraction to each other just physical?
2006-09-04 04:04:10 · answer #8 · answered by G.T. L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is NO way anyone can tell you whether or not it will work. How could we? We dont know you OR him. The fact that hes 9 years older than you and has a daughter are already problems, but beyond that no one is going to have any idea.
2006-09-04 03:49:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
A friend of mine is 34 and is married to a 24 year old and so far they are happy. I think it just depends on if you are a mature 23 year old and have interests in common besides the fact that your brother is married to his sister.
2006-09-04 03:49:28 · answer #10 · answered by srm1507 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋