She died from heart disease, and it's killing my family, especially her twin brother she left behind. What can I do for my family, especially my poor brother? Thank you.
2006-09-03 20:45:05 · 26 answers · asked by Special nobody 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
My deepest sympathy,goes out to you,it made me cry.I lost my 16 year old sister also,it has been a while but will never go away.I believe she is very close all the time,and we get so busy we forget that they are right there to comfort us.All is well,she is and will always be your sister.Honor her memory and her life by remebering all the good stuff and good times you had with her.Writting about it in a journal,making a dvd of her life.Greive now and move on,that is what she would want you to do.Be there for your family and do the things she would have done.They will miss her also.She is gone but you are not,be strong for your brother,with lots of hugs and I love you's.I have always been the one in my family that accepts death as a part of life.I always look at the bigger picture and plans that God may have for my family,and how his will is not mine.God Bless You!!Peace and Love!!
2006-09-03 21:06:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Firstly if your brother is depressed and not crying and not talking to anyone, i suggest you try and make him cry, it will have major psychological impacts in the future which can quiet ruin him if he doesn't let his feelings out immediately. I'm sure he will feel much better if he lets go of his feelings rather than bottling it up
Be with your family, the need all the support they can get to get through this, they cant do this on their own
Show lots of love, you need to try and fill up the empty space that your brother is feeling, its will most probably be like he has lost half of his life. Depression may go on for a few days but if it persists for more than one or two weeks then make sure you get professional help
Do what you can to keep the family away from anymore stress, the loss of your sister would have put them under a lot of stress and anymore stress can be quiet harmful for them.
Spend a lot of time with your brother, talk about all the good times the two of you used to have with you sister and the love that all of you shared. People always feel better after crying
Lastly give all the support you can for your family and be with them, you need each other. You need your family to go through this and they need you
2006-09-04 04:14:02 · answer #2 · answered by Prady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear about the death. However, it's also a relief to note that you are the strong one in the family. This is necessary because with you around, the rest of the family members have someone to lead in the acceptance of the death.
Where there is birth, there's bound to be death. Hence when there is a death in the family, the surviving members must accept this fact, that death is inevitable. It's just a matter of time! It would be easier for the rest to accept the death if they believe:
1. Your sister has gone to heaven
2. Death has enabled her to escape suffering pain due to the disease.
3. "The good die young"
4. Her death is sudden, so family members need not prolong their pain to see her suffer.
5. Her body is gone but she's now in heaven guarding her loved ones on earth
2006-09-04 04:18:02 · answer #3 · answered by G.T. L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heart disease? That is quite uncommon at that age. It seems you aren't as shaken up as many would be. For your family perhaps help out with the funeral arrangements and other details.
Its a horrible thing to happen if you are being honest, but you seem kept-together enough to take a role in helping the family through this very difficult event.
2006-09-04 04:13:38 · answer #4 · answered by midwestbruin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry for your lost, I too lost my sister a year ago and it was devastating for the family. I can only tell you to be strong for your family and give your brother the moral support and love he needs at this difficult times. Let him know that she will always be a part of him because they share that special bond. Also, make sure you take care of yourself. If you feel that you can't bare the pain any longer, cry and find someone to talk to. This is my e-mail address if you ever need someone mcastana_99@yahoo.com
2006-09-04 04:01:46 · answer #5 · answered by Calis_Shygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm really sorry.
Losing a close family member is the hardest thing in this world.I'v been through it.Its tough,really tough.
The best medicine is TIME.There is no instant solution to this problem.My family is still not normal though its been 4 years.
I think keeping them away from other problems could reduse their pain.
Just go & talk to your brother whenever he is upset.Remind him of the good days he had with her.She will always be alive in your hearts & she will be happy if you guys try to stay away from the pain & lead a normal life.
2006-09-04 04:39:34 · answer #6 · answered by live_let.live 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what to say to you. Its a sad thing to happen. I cant imagine what you are going through. I have lost two babies and the pain is something else. My wife is a twin and the way they are close always scares me.
I am sorry I don't know what to tell you. I wish I can say time heals but that's not so true. I wish I can say it will be OK but its never OK to loose someone you love.
Right now the only thing I can think of is God. may He give you the strength to hold on and have hope in Him. He knows better.
2006-09-04 03:57:41 · answer #7 · answered by tomwaterboy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all I am very sorry about ur sister . She was so young to die . U guys have to except that every1 has to go from this world our parents, us and our children this is a life circle . but I can understand your hear feeling u cant do anything just try to think and except she is in better place then here,where she wont have to suffer . Keep praying for her everything will be ok because TIME is a good medicine.
2006-09-04 04:00:31 · answer #8 · answered by samdurpk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't really think that you can do anything just be there for your family. there really isn't anything that you can do unless you could make a memorial to her. like a little garden that is dedicated to her or something like that where you could all share your thoughts and could still have somewhere that you could go to think and remember her quietly. also your family cvould ngo and get themselves checked out for heart disease an d tsee if there is any way that it could be prevented as it can run in your family.
2006-09-04 03:56:12 · answer #9 · answered by confused 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hi
Im very sorry to hear this. Its time to take more care of your brother. If he is too young or too old, age doesnot matter to depression.
So, take much care of him. Try to explore his interests and hobbies. Engage him with somre refreshing activities of his interest and never leave him alone.
The elders should control their feelings to try to make new life for your brother. As he needs supports. May your sister''s soul rest in peace.
Thank you
2006-09-04 05:10:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋