What do you think about this?

Question

I am male but I am bisexual. When I was in High School I fell in love of one teacher. He never taught me. I liked him since the first day I saw him. I graduated when I had just turned 17 (right now I am 18). Before I graduated I wrote him a letter telling him that I was in love of him. He never responded my letter. One year later, I sent him another letter. I thought that this time he was going to respond it because I was 18 already, but he did not. I always had the feeling that he liked me as well. Maybe it was my imagination. Many things happened that made me think that he liked me. For example the way he looked at me. However, I don’t know why he didn’t respond my second letter and the e-mails that I sent him. If he does not like me, he would just send me an e-mail telling me that, but he does not. He does not respond anything. I still think that he likes me. How can I know if he likes me or does not like me, if he does not tell me? Should I forget him?

Answer 1

He is not responding cause it would be inappropriate for him to - that is what he thinks so he is trying to ignore you I think, in the hopes that the messages and letters will stop if he does not pay attention to them.

I do know of teachers and students who dated when the student graduated but it is not too common - I even know of ones that didn't wait to graduate.. naughty. Perhaps her is not gay and you were reading the signals wrong - I am not sure but he has had enough opportunity to contact you if he was interested and he is not so I would move on.

Answer 2

Hey,

you should forget him. If he doesn't respond to your letters, there can be many reasons, but the most probable - to me - is that he just doesn't want to, because he doesn't like you at all and feels no need to even tell you that ; he just doesn't care.
It's very common that students fall in love with teachers, because they have 'power' over them in a way, and yet they are mostly very nice (they have to be for pedagogical reasons) to everyone.
I can imagine that you have had some problems with love or your parents about the fact that you're bisexual, and when this teacher was very friendly in class, you must have felt very good about this. BUT this is not at all a sign that he likes you, it's just his teacher-duty to be friendly to all students.
Even if you really love him, and you don't want to accept the fact that he doesn't care, there's a second reason why you should forget him; he is not allowed to like you and send you letters back because he's teaching at your school, even though you are 18. It's illegal for teachers (even at college and university, at any age - this has to do with objectivity towards giving grades etc) to date students.
So you should forget him, and maybe look for a boy- or girlfriend of your own age, who is allowed to love you and will love you for who you are, there is most certainly someone out there for you... but not this teacher...

Answer 3

He is letting you know he is not interested by not responding to any of your letters or e-mails. If he was interested,he would had responded back to you by now. You shouldn't contact him anymore,he could put a restraining order on you and say that you are harrassing him because now he has evidence that you tried to contact him. Just because someone looks at you a certain way does not neccessarily mean that they have an interest in you. And I think that by him not contacting you back further confirms his disinterest. There are plenty of fish in the sea,you want someone who is going to like you back and not leave you guessing as to whether or not they like you. Good luck.

Answer 4

Maybe he does like you, but doesn't want the drama of dealing with an 18-year-old being in love with him.

Or maybe he's not gay/bi at all, and is just giving you looks because he's uncomfortable or thinks you're strange.

Whatever's going on, nothing is going to happen with this guy, so you should move on to someone else. Sorry.

Answer 5

Thinking from a teachers stand point, hes probably extremely scared and unsure of what to do. Remember the story where the 36 year old teacher feel for her 12 year old student. Now that your 18, yes its legal. What i think is hes very scared, and/or is unsure about what he wants. I suggest you write him one last time and explain yourself. If he doesnt write back, dont waste your time hunny. Good luck and god bless! Hope this helps!

Answer 6

You have nothing to think about this. It is obvious that he does not like like your letters or emails and he won't reply to you. You should not only forget him but also go and reach out to make new friends and enlarge your circle of friends. Grow up and get to know the world better.

Answer 7

yes, forget him. if he liked the idea , he should have jumped at the chance anyway. after all , you initiated the communication , right?
if he is not interested , find someone else .
if you want to , make sure he got your emails. but if you go asking him this , it might turnout embarrassing , may be even for both of you. i think , you can send email with acknowledgment .
you are young and you can always find someone else. it could be a better idea.

Answer 8

why ask people about how they feel if thats the way you are.being bisexual is something that some people looks at that as if ok your still human.and some judges you and cuts the ideal down and laugh.but regardeless is that going to change the way you are.know its not.so dont worry about what people think.but if you do use condoms ok.so that way you dont catch some kind od a diease if you dont give them one.be safe ok.good luck.

Answer 9

Forget about it. If he hasn't responded after repeated letters and emails, he is not interested.

Answer 10

In all honesty,forget the man.. I hope and pray that you will find love,not only love,but love that will be given to you without limitation,without hesitation or reservation.You might want to wait a while longer,let yourself heal....Don't rush,love will find you...all the best..