what is difference between love and lust. Can one love without bodily demands.?

Question

Is not life meant for servicing ur partner freind or society with belongingness and thinking that God lives in every heart. A moment will come when entire universe will be in ur heart and that is true love. Is not doing sex and demanding more and more from one's paertner keeps u away from God. Is not we need to just love care our near ones. Sexuality ar bodily needs should be limited to just when it is permitted by almighty to extend his empire not like beasts all time thinking about food sex and more and more demand from our near one's. Please share ur views my email id is [e-mail]

Answer 1

What is Love?

Love is not what you think it is. That's why so many marriages end in divorce. People get a hormonal rush when they're around a person and think they're in love, and believe that person is "the one."

Not even close. True love creeps up on you over a long period of time. It's NOT that powerful feeling of "I must have this person." Instead, it's a slow build-up. When you truly love someone you don't have to ask yourself if it's love. You're not even ASKING yourself. After having this person in your life for quite some time, one day you wake up and automatically know. It's not an emotional rush of feeling type of love, the kind that makes you breathless when you're around them or thinking about them. That's lust. True love is a deep, calm knowing. You can distinguish it because love feels secure, while lust feels emotional.

If you're thinking about eventually getting married, remember one thing: Marriage should not be the sequel to sex. It should be the sequel to friendship. Lots of people make big mistakes when getting married because they think they're in love and that they're supposed to marry the person who excites them and has good sexual chemistry. But after those feelings subside they end up with resentment, disgust and anger for that person. They were never really in love. Many times we are already married to this person and feeling trapped and very unhappy. It's scary to wake up one day and realize you're in a relationship with someone who you can't depend on to be by your side forever. The best way to make sure the love lasts is to make sure it's love to begin with.

Have fun with the excited feelings you experience when you're exploring passionate relationships with the opposite sex. But while you're in those relationships, pay attention to the other people in your life that you care for, but aren't "in love with." Believe it or not, THOSE are the people you most likely could eventually truly love. Here's a test to help you figure out what true love really is.

A friend emailed this to me a few years ago when I was dating a woman who was very wrong for me. I saved the list because I wanted to remember it. It's probably the best advice I ever got. I like this test a lot because it is a total eye opener. It's designed for men but it's good for women to see what should matter to a man. It shows you who in your life really loves you and who you probably love without realizing it. It's also cool to think you probably already know the woman you're going to end up marrying.

This test helps a man determine what really matters in a woman, and which one in his life is most likely to be "THE ONE".


The Marriage Counselor's Marriage Test
Think of all the women currently in your life. Think of the women you are dating and have dated. Think of the women you have been in relationships with who are still single and available to you. Think of the women you talk to at the grocery store, the cleaners, on the golf course, or in the park. Think of the women you work with. Think of your close female friends and the women you confide in. If you're a single man and want to marry, statistically it is likely you will eventually marry one of these women. To begin the test, write down the names of at least five of these women. Be sure to include the ones you have the most contact with.

Ask yourself:

If you were in a coma, who is the one most likely to be at your bedside after the others had gone on with their lives?

If you were paralyzed and couldn't work, do any chores around the house, go out anywhere, or have sex, which one would be the most likely to still love you and stay with you?

If you were going through a difficult time at work and had negative emotions and moodiness, which one would most likely allow you plenty of space and understanding without selfishness or nagging?

If you were to lose your car, your home, and your savings which one would be most willing to stay with you and help you build your life again?

If you were sterile and couldn't have children, which one would be least likely to bring up the subject again or make you to feel guilty?

If your parents became disabled and needed to live with you, who do you think would be most likely to accept them into your home and treat them with care and dignity?

If your parents became disabled and needed to live with you, who do you think they would most enjoy spending time with?

If you had children with one of the women you know, and eventually became divorced, which one would you trust the most to raise your children right?

If you could only have one woman to take to every sporting event, every outing, and every event for the rest of your life which one would you have the most fun with?

If you had children with one of the women you know, which one would your children be least likely to wonder why you married her?

Who makes you laugh hardest?

Who do you talk with the most?

Who do you email the most?

Which one is the most interested in the same things you love, the same places you like to go, the same activities you like to do?

When you're experiencing something new or interesting, who is the first one to come into your mind that you wish you could share it with?

At the end of a hard day at work, who would you rather unload your day's frustrations on, knowing she'll listen and care?

When you learn something new, make a big discovery, or accomplish something exciting, who is the first person you think of telling?

If you were stranded on a deserted island for one year, which one would make your days pass more quickly because you were getting lost in each other's company?

If you were stranded on a deserted island for one year, which one would you like to have lying next to you looking up at the stars?

If you were stranded on a deserted island for one year, which one would be most likely to stay cheerful, adapt to the situation, and contribute to your survival?

When you go to bed at night, who is the last female friend you typically find yourself calling?

If you committed a felony crime, who would you be most likely to admit it to?

If each of the women you know were being mistreated by another man, which one would you feel most protective of?

Which one would be most likely to discourage you from spending too much on her, and would want you to save your money?

Which one would be most likely to accept that you couldn't afford the car she wanted, the house she wanted, the vacation she wanted, or the luxuries she wanted?

Which one is most likely to accept your flaws and not let you worry about them?

If you had Alzheimer's disease and couldn't communicate your needs anymore, which one would be most likely to bring you the new CD of your favorite music artist or new movies she knows you would enjoy?

If you were blind, who would you trust the most to take care of you, make sure you had everything you want and need, and never let you feel helpless?

If you were blind, whose voice would be most pleasing to hear?

If you became impotent, which one would be the least likely to betray you in spite of her own physical desires?

If you became impotent, which one would it sadden you most to know is no longer able to have a physical relationship?

If you had a child from a previous marriage, which one would be the most likely to be loving, attentive, and accepting of your child as her own?

Which woman would be least likely to criticize and try to change your hair, clothes, car, house, pets, or friends.

If you were forced to cheat on every woman you know, except you could spare one woman from that pain, which one could you not allow yourself to hurt in this way?

If you were on a roller coaster right now, who is the first person coming to mind that you would want to experience it with you?

Which one is the most likely to be concerned about your well-being and tell you when you're doing something that could hurt you?

Which one would your family most likely say is the perfect woman for you?

If you were to die tomorrow, which one would be most likely to take care of your pets?

If you were to die tomorrow, which one would be most likely to cry the hardest over missing you?

If you were to die tomorrow, which one would you most trust as a speaker at your wake to best communicate to everyone your unique qualities and accomplishments, and the value of your life?

Which one would be most likely to visit your grave on your birthday every year and leave something she thought you would like or that she thought would make you laugh?

Which one do you wish you could hear what she was saying at your grave so you could know how she really felt about you?

Answer 2

I think Paul recommended and said it was better that men remain single. But for those young people who cannot control their sexual urges, they should get married.

You have a good point. The whole focus on sex and sexual acts has gotten out of hand. I think the Bible does say somewhere not to waste your time and lay down with a woman during daylight hours. But what a married couple does behind closed doors and how often is left up to them.

To answer your question, the difference between love and lust is that one gives and the other takes.

If you cannot meet the needs of your spouse (bodily demands), it might be sought after elsewhere. Your meeting these needs is expected, demanded by your spouse. There is no need to marry if you have no intention of carrying out these expectations.

Answer 3

#1. There is love for a soul mate, a wife or partner and it is eros love. Marriage and legal. Wanted and desired. Cupids little arrows love.

#2. There is love for God and the people of and for and by God and that is Agape love. Love your enemy. He may be saved. He belongs to God first. He may learn the truth.

Agape love, is Godly Love the kind God and Jesus have for us that they can allow us to have a temporary life with the promise of the real thing by the end of day seven.

ALL POSSIBLE WILL BE SAVE FOR THE ETERNAL LIFE

Matt.22:37 Jesus said unto him, Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind. Matt.22:38 This is the first and great commandment. Matt.22:39 And the second is like unto it, Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself. Matt,22:40 On these two commandments hang all the law and the prophets.

1Cor.2:9 But as it is written, Eye hath not seen, nor ear heard, neither have entered into the heart of man, the things which God hath prepared for them that love him.
1Cor.2:10 But God hath revealed them unto us by his Spirit: for the Spirit searcheth all things, yea, the deep things of God.

2Pet.3:13; Isa.65:17; 66:1,22; There is going to be a new heavens and a new earth or paridise Rev.2:7; Luke 23:43; John 3:16; For God so Loved the World. Heb.2:9,14,16; Jesus dies to have the right to destroy Satan, death 1Cor,15:22-18; and give the New Testament Heb.9:15,16;

#3. There is also friendship love. With male or female as friends.

#4. Sexual lust is just that, and is fornication, outside the range of any thing those loving God and Christ would ever want.

Answer 4

Having sex can be truly about love not sex.Having sex is also good for you if your married .It brings you a deep close bond that I feel God wants people to have.If it was only for procreation old people would not be able to do it.If you think about sex with your partner often you are just following the decree to love ,honor and cherish.However If for some reason you cannot be married to the person you love or Cant have sex you can love that person forever and not have sex.True love is mature.It is patient.

Answer 5

If we are talking about true love, it is one whereby one chooses to do what's best for the other. We are also talking about 1 Cor 13 kind of love that is expressed. True love is NOT selfish.

Lust is nothing but the instant gratification of the fleshly sensual appetite. It wants pleasure and seeks pleasure for itself. It is basically self-centred. It is often confused with/for love as depicted in the movies.

True love knows restraints and boundaries, but lust is feelings unbridled and unchecked, where the heart ignores the mind.

Answer 6

it sounds kinda like you have an agenda which is you want more and more gratification.

The Bible is clear about these things. It is not possible to circumvent the matter of marriage (love) vs. being single and sleeping around.

there are reasons why 2 people (man and woman) should not until marriage consummate.

For one 2 people in intimacy not only share their feelings but in the spiritual realm they become one.

So when Jesus told the one woman about herself he said to her to get her husband and she replied she wasn't married and he said you say well because For thou hast had five husbands; and he whom thou now hast is not thy husband: in that saidst thou truly....You see she had several men intimately and in the spirit Jesus saw her married to them because they became one in the flesh from the act of intimacy.

You can witness this in past relationships when you see that person ...after you have parted company..they still seem to have a place in your heart...and seeing them causes "feelings". this is that oneness in the spirit.

This can cause serious problems with some people because they are some much more emotional than others.

If you remember in past history a young woman who tried to kill the wife of a man who she was having an affair with.
it was called a fatal attraction.

Besides the cache of sexually transmitted diseases.

So understand Gods purpose in creating an order, which is to have a man and woman marry before becoming intimate and how that is love verses a man looking to satisfy his own personal needs which is lust.
God bless

Answer 7

Lust is physical attraction only - it is not based on what is in that persons' mind, heart or soul. The physical always fades - once someone acts out something that they have lusted for - it is over - that's it...Lust fades. Lust is more fiction - a desire.

Love is never-ending, it lasts - it is unconditional - it is based on the way we feel for a person; inside and out. Love is not based on physical attraction alone and sometimes not at all - love is real.

Answer 8

Yes, our society has it backwards. First you should grow to love someone for who they are(the media makes this almost impossible). Then the desire to express that love should grow from the tender feelings for the person.

I explain it to my kids as: There is "sex" which is a base selfish desire, to use a person for physical pleasure, and there is lovemaking which is an expression of tenderness for you committed-for-life mate.

Answer 9

Nope - love and lust are parallel. But you can still remain close to God.

Answer 10

Lust directs the penis.
Love directs everything else that is beneficial to others.

Answer 11

Shhhh! Muslims are promised sex with virgins if they obey Mohammad. If they realize there is no intercourse in heaven, they'll self-destruct