y do girls dont want 2 be my gf?plz help?

Question

i am 19.i have never smoke ,drink,etc ..m really a nice boy. but still girls prefer boys who smoke ,fights,hav more den 1 gf,...i just have one disadvantage ...i m worst looking(ugly).but is it not enough 2 be just a good man?

Answer 1

at 19 girls are not as smart as they think they are. It is common for girls that age to go for the bad boy. He is usually the alpha male in a group. Its a cave man thing.
Back in the caveman days grog was a bad boy and all the cave chicks wanted him. He intimidated the other guys. As a result he had more hunting area and when he had food no one dared take it from him. As a result the cave chicks knew that bad boy Grog posed the best chance of their babies having enough to eat because grog was viewed as a good provider, no one messed with him and he had the largest hunting area.

By the way the same is true for Grog. He has a thing for the cave chick with the largest breasts. Its means his babies will have more to eat and will not have to go hungry

In both cases, its about survival of the cave men. Such things are not valid now but after a few centuries of this, its still stuck in our genes.

As a side note, the modern day cave chick does not marry the modern day grog. When it comes time to settle down they don't want a bad boy. After all he ain't no fun sitting in jail. He is not much of a husband when he comes home drunk and mean 3 or 4 nights a week. The bad boy is the first attraction but not the last.

In short become a good provider in the modern world. Have you seen some of the women who married fat ugly men who had wealth? I rest my case. If you can demonstrate your ability to be a good provider, you can look like a mud fence. The same instinct that makes Grog attractive will make you attactive in the modern day when a woman wants to settle down and have kids. She doesn't want a bad boy around the kids or to take home to meet mom. She does however need some one who can be a good provider in the modern world.

In short get an education A good one. Learn some profitable skills. Then you will be the next hot ticket. Trust me. Been there done that. I was ignored by most in highschool. When I retired at 45, I noticed that I got noticed.

Bill Gates looks like a big fat geek. His wife is hot. How do you think a geek found a hottie? See what I mean?

Answer 2

maybe you are too mature for those girls. girls like a bad boy, but women like a man. You should find some older or more mature women then you will have more luck. And let me tell you that if I could of gone back in time I would rather my first time be from a woman than a girl. I dated an older woman when I was 20 and she was almost 30 but man the sex was INCREDIBLE. Just meet a nice mature woman that needs a younger guy in her life and you'll see what I mean

Answer 3

you sound like a really great guy - are the girls ur tryin for shallow? it's just an honest question... a lot of people have the same prob girls n guys alike... i, myself, am a really nice 'old fashion' girl i don smoke or drink or do drugs... or go to 'wild parties'... i'm loyal, trustworthy, and would do anything to help people.... my down fall - i'm overweight..... and all the guys where i am just over look me because of it - they all seem to want whores or girls that change bf's every other week!.... my advice - just hold on and don't change who you truely are... a girl will finally at some point wake up and realize just how wonderful you are! - that's what i'm holding on to :) you'll find her just be patient wish u the best!

Answer 4

The first thing I noticed is that you aren't taking the time to spell things properly. If you are 19, that means you must have at least some grasp of english. To me, your typing indicates a lack of respect for others. I'm also less inclined to take this post seriously. Sorry, but it's the truth. I barely made it through to the end.

The biggest things in my book are respect and confidence. It's a fine line from those to cocky (which is a major turn-off).

And you can always change your looks. But it's harder to change who you are. Be glad that you are a good person, and have faith someone else will see that in you. (And please type properly in public forums!)

Answer 5

I know for a fact girls can get really shallow. I on the other hand, think you sound like a sweetheart. I am not going to go out with you as I have a girlfriend. I do think you should be as sweet as possible and never act unlike yourself. As long as you have a great personality and are as sweet as you sound, a girl like me will come along eventually. Hang in there, buddy. Get back to me. K?

Answer 6

don't lose hope dude! maybe it's not your right time to have a girlfriend like me.Were in the same boat...I'm a nice girl and pretty as what I used to hear from them...both from men and women.But still I'm alone..so that's why sometimes i'm asking to myself why? Or maybe I'm picky..but I'm not preffer to a handsomeguy.Or I'm looking for my type..I keep on praying if there's someone for me...I want to meet him earlier before i get old.There's some guys courting me..but I don't know why I don't like them.But still I'm still hoping to find my right guy.

Answer 7

i mean it has to be the girls u lookin at cause i dont want a guy who smokes or gets into fight all the time u just have to look else where

Answer 8

In today's society it's not enough sadly, your best bet is to establish yourself as sucessful or talented, try dressing better and doing things that would make girls like you.

Answer 9

well mayb u shld dress up a little.....pay a little more attention to ur appearence....im sure u ll find the rite gal soon enuff...

nope dun go into smoking and all sorts .....u are a rare type of guy....be a little more patient......u ll find her soon....

Answer 10

I have this problem too.Take it easy.girls think that they are very nice & beautiful.But they are not.so you shoud not think about this problem.
P.S:I hate girls...