My ex and I haven't been apart for less than a month, but we've continued to stay great friends. Days after we split, I talked to her about getting back together and she wanted nothing of it. I moved on. Not more than 2 days ago, she told me she wanted to be with me again, I told her that I couldn't. But I considered it and after a lot of thought, wanted to.
She slept with my best friend last night, he being a good friend told me about it and told me that she was cheating on me with another guy during the last few weeks we had been dating. Now, I have no problems with my best friend, he will always be my best friend... but what do I do about her? Should I act as if I never found this out? Should I be angry with her? Should we continue to be friends? How should I react?
I definitely have no plans to date her again.
2006-09-03 19:45:02 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You should never set eyes on that prostitute. Sleeping with your best friend has made matters worse letalone befriend her. You should break up with your stupid so-called best friend. Oh it's true it's true it's damn true.
2006-09-03 19:50:12 · answer #1 · answered by Agentj100 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have no plans to date her again(and you shouldn't) then just stay steadfast and make it clear to her that its best to leave that part of your relationship in the past. That both of you should move on.
Being that a friendship is what's going to be left, there is no need to discuss what happened between she and your friend or any other cheating she has done. That will be a sure positive way of putting all that behind. What's more it will give you real character and class by keeping a lid on it. I would also not keep a close friendship at this time...sometime later in the future maybe OK. Give yourself time to completely get over the affair and time to heal.
By the way...if ever your best friend (or any other true friend for that matter) ever break up with his girl, make sure you don't have sex with her. That act is tasteless, without character and shows no class what soever.
2006-09-03 20:05:22 · answer #2 · answered by Robere 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not get back together with this girl!!!!
You need time to breath and think this all out.
If you want to get back together with her in six months then go for it but not right now.
I would confront her about sleeping with your best friend. If you want to stay friends with her then don't be mean about it. Say you don't like the idea but the option of getting back together is not there.
Or you could take the your a dirty slut route. I don't recommend this.
Either way in all honesty I doubt you will come out of this even being friends. Take the high road and don't spread rumors about her..just let her be the person she decides to be. Even if that is someone who sleeps around. You obviously had feelings for her once so I would just try to keep things friendly.
2006-09-03 19:51:06 · answer #3 · answered by *Amber* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's all you dude. Just see how you feel around her now that you know. If you are uncomfortable, just hang around once in a while until the oddness goes away. I wouldn't mention the cheating thing to her, it would just cause more wierdness. After all you are not looking to get back w/ her so...do what you feel.
2006-09-03 19:50:34 · answer #4 · answered by jaded 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It must bother you a little that she cheated on you during your relationship, but since your friendship is going well you don't want to start new drama. To get it off your chest, maybe call her sometime or pull her aside when you see her and say, "Hey, I know you cheated on me while we were together, but lets not let it bother us now and we can keep on being friends."
Hope this helps, good luck!
2006-09-03 19:50:34 · answer #5 · answered by puppyluv92 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
female, don't experience undesirable. you're no longer on my own. the undertaking isn't which you're feeling jealous of the ex and threatened by her. that's which you're thinking why, if she cheated on him and that that they had the style of adverse relationship WHY might he shop those issues? i've got been married for a twelve months and a a million/2. We had an prolonged distance relationship so even with the actuality that I knew somewhat approximately his previous i wouldn't in any respect seen pictures or something like that. while we've been given married and that i might sparkling, i stumbled on pictures from 2 an prolonged time in the past of him and his ex fiance, their abode, etc. It killed me because of the fact she had cheated on him or maybe tried to take his abode for her and her new fiance to stay in. i could no longer comprehend why he might shop this. I additionally stumbled on taking part in cards from previous girlfriends relationship 10+ years decrease back. such as you, I do something for my husband and that i did no longer get why he might prefer reminders of ladies folk who had dealt with him like crap. Myself, I have been given rid off all my pictures, presents, etc. on the top of each and every relationship. His tale became that he does not throw something out and forgotten they have been there, which i'm vulnerable to have faith because you're able to have seen the abode as quickly as we moved. He has all varieties of junk relationship previously. I too felt like i became the single he settled for, and we've had many talks. the day in the previous on the instant I laid all of it out on the table and advised him how I felt. I asked questions and have been given immediately solutions. believe me, the only way is to speak to him because of the fact that's going to eat at you. It has eaten at me for months. remember too that folk substitute, and the guy he became years in the past could be distinctive than what he's now. the actuality he asked you to help him exhibits that he did no longer have some sinister series he did no longer prefer you to ascertain. He in all probability thinks no longer something of it or forgot it became there. If it rather is all it incredibly is acceptable to you with him, you're able to be able to get previous it. believe me, i'm and have been there. the perfect to you.
2016-09-30 08:00:52 · answer #6 · answered by laseter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here is what you should do:
Tell her you know and then drop the subject. Dont talk to her unless she calls you for a while. It will show her that you are not a person to be played. That was messed up of her to do that and you deserve better.
2006-09-03 19:52:09 · answer #7 · answered by Brittany B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My motto is: When something is over, it's over. No 'good friends' no phone calls, no letters, no contact.
Stop seeing and communicating with her, tell her you've moved on and so should she. Is this the kind of woman you want as a wife and the mother of your children???
2006-09-03 19:48:04 · answer #8 · answered by Ya-sai 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you beleive your freind?Hes not your freind if he had sex with her.He is a real slimeball and its totally possible he is lying because he wants you to stay broke up.More fun that way.If you beleive him and dont have a problem with what he did you have no self respect.He is your enemy.I would ignore him and give her a chance if thats what you were inclined to.
2006-09-03 19:52:32 · answer #9 · answered by butterflyspy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have no plans to date her again...bringing up the her cheating is irrelevant...how can she cheat if youre not together?
If she talks to you go ahead but keep it light and short.
2006-09-03 19:49:42 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋