If the person you were dating cheated on you would you want them to tell you up front, when the relationship is over, or not to say anything at all? and please explain you answer?
2006-09-03 19:43:23 · 18 answers · asked by SpeedyMe 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i want them to say it up front, straight and forward coz that's how you'll know if they are really sincere with you.. coz whether they tell you that up front, after the relationship is over or not to say anything at all and you found it out you'll still be hurtin.. and it's easier to forgive someone who cheated and tell you that up front because it shows that they respect you and that they are being honest and those guys i think deserve a second chance.. coz if someone told you they cheated on you after the relationship or if they did not say anything at all it means they dont care about you or for your feelings, they're coward and they are just playin with you..they're treating you just like anybody else..
.....that's my opinion!=)
2006-09-03 19:50:50 · answer #1 · answered by keiCh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think I would like to know. But trully if u love that person that would make u feel so bad for youself, thinking you were not good enough. But the truth is some people cheat not beacuse u are not good but they cannot be monogamous. Which makes THEM have a much lower value in the relationship market. Who wants to date a cheater? even cheaters dont want to date cheaters. lol But Talking about the main question again. I would like to know beacuse if not I would just be in love and devoting my love, to somebody that doesnt exist, because the true person is a cheating, selfish person, that did not love you enough to control his/her urges. So that person would not deserve my love or respect even if it hurts.
2006-09-05 17:54:28 · answer #2 · answered by SOMEDAYHOPE 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to tell the truth i would prefer them to tell me, i have had the unfortunate luck of catching one ex-boyfriend actually IN THE ACT of cheating and if i were to be cheated on again i would want to know that it happened and what if anything i did or said that might have affected the person enough to drive them to go to someone else for whatever reason instead of being honest about not wanting to be with me, basically just as a means to know what i can do to be better in my next relationship, not to mention that it is common courtesy to let someone know so they can be tested for STD's even if you practiced safe sex there is still a small risk, and it is better to find out from the EX than the local rumor mill or mutual friends.
2006-09-04 02:57:40 · answer #3 · answered by ~Princess*Bonkers~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats a hard one really because you don't
know how you'd feel until you are in that
situation. I don't know? I think it depends on
how much you love them,and if you can take
it at the time.
What could help,if they did do it,is to find
another person to be with for awhile and
maybe then you could live with what they
did,if they cheated on you.
Two wrongs don't make a right,but whose
to say it would be wrong if it's the only way
to let go of the pain,and you know you don't
have to have sex with them,just be with some
one else and date them awhile,and see if the
person you were with feels anything.
If not,you are better off without them.
2006-09-04 02:52:06 · answer #4 · answered by slappingfox 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely tell me! But I do know some people that would rather be "blissfully ignorant." If my man was honest and confessed that he cheated I might be able to take him back, but if I found out by an outside source then he would be kicked to the curb.
2006-09-04 02:45:53 · answer #5 · answered by mrs michelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I would want to know.
It is my right to know so that I can decide if this person and i truly belong together. If I love someone but they are out cheating on me---then we may need to change some things.
2006-09-04 02:45:25 · answer #6 · answered by crimson_tears_of_the_goddess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As much as the truth hurts , I would want to know , that's what relationships are supposed to be based on , TRUTH. I'd want to know def UPFRONT , . I've been told that my ex cheated AFTER the fact , this is crazy. Tell me when it matters and I can do something about it. â¥
2006-09-04 02:47:29 · answer #7 · answered by ridingthestorm_out 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a man I would rather feel my girl is the cleanest girl on earth , I would not accept for her to cheat on me .
I don't know how I will act if she told me at any time that she did that (even after we break up) because I may loose my mind and go to jail .
2006-09-04 02:51:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well..all my ex n I have an agreement when we got together ...when he's fallen for another gal or cheated on me..he muz let me noe n we'll juz end w/o a fuss..n might even stil b frenz..but if he doesnt tel me..he better pray hard tat i wil nv have a chance to noe..
2006-09-04 02:47:57 · answer #9 · answered by doll_eyes_81 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, i'd just rather them break up and stay silent, so you don't spend nights beating yourself over them cheating on you because you weren't good enough.
2006-09-04 02:47:39 · answer #10 · answered by Susan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋