My gf keeps getting upset cuz i tell her once ppl get married its all downhill, I told her i am not ready for marriage and won't be ready for at least another 3-5 years so, why the hell is pressuring me? She knows i am not ready, and even in 5 years...who knows how things will change anyway? So i don't see whats the rush in getting married? I mean we have only been dating for 6 yrs...why not wait a few more years to see if i wanna get married or not...by then i am sure i will figure things out. How do i get her off my case about getting married?
2006-09-03 19:26:54 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
But is marriage really necessary? Isn't it just a piece of paper, a financial and legal agreement that binds two people by contract?
2006-09-03 19:36:55 · update #1
She wants to be a doctor...i figure if she gets into medical school...we cant really be together anyway...so we might as well wait...and see ...I mean...whats the rush ...? we cant live together until she is done with med school anyway and thats at least another 4 yrs from now...so why not wait? And no I am not willing to get engaged and no she will not move in with me
2006-09-03 19:40:48 · update #2
Once you get married it's all downhill!!!
With that line of thinking you will go far in life. Do your commitment, rather lack of commitment problems end there? Or do they as I suspect affect your life as a whole.
Marriage is no different than any other relationship in life that you want to succeed at, whether it is in a personal or professional sense. It takes work to grow any relationship and giving up on the relationship before its even started is your way of dealing with it.
Do your girlfriend a huge favor, end your relationship now and save her the grief of loving someone that cannot or will not return the same type of love and commitment you are receiving from her. She deserves better than to be strung along for six years and possibly another 3-5 years before you dump her for another woman or possibly a girl...a teeny bop-per that will put up with your line of BS.
She must really love you, I mean dating for ONLY six years and putting up with your attitude. Get a LIFE pal, and let her move onto someone who deserves a wife like she will make.
2006-09-03 19:52:41 · answer #1 · answered by OleMarbleEyes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude your could be on the way out! If you have been dating for 6 years and you are not committed to you feelings by now you may never be. What holding you back? Age? School? a career perhaps?
Give a little more detail into what the reasons are for not getting married. I have been married for 19 years and my relationship grows stronger every day. But I don't have any reason that it shouldn't. A relationship is give and take, not just give and not just take. The old saying you don't know what you got until it's gone should ring some bells here.
2006-09-03 19:36:45 · answer #2 · answered by Johny S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't. A women wants that security, because when your in a relationship most women are preparing for marriage, on the other hand your wasting her time. She basically wants to know where the relationship is going. You said 3-5 years maybe she don't want to wait that long. Can you see your self with out her? If you said no marry her. If you can then let her be on her way.
2006-09-03 19:34:19 · answer #3 · answered by T L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't love her, leave her now so she can have the opportunity to know a better guy.
A guy that is going to give her everything not just bad sex
(sex that is not in a marriage)
2006-09-03 19:51:31 · answer #4 · answered by mansongirl17us 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well 6 years is a long time. but tell her how much you love her. and that you just need time to make the relationship a lifetime commitment or something
if she respects that then the marriage will do well
2006-09-03 19:31:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be straight with her tell her u don't want to get married & well its a girl thing to seek for secutity & love
just be hoinest with her with firmness & let her decide don't get under pressure u will ruin both of ur lives
2006-09-03 19:32:39 · answer #6 · answered by sam 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her go, you;ll never grow up, She wants a family in a strong foundation.
2006-09-03 19:31:37 · answer #7 · answered by Mother of three 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
damn 6 years...
thats kinda long for me. by then i would have made up my mind about getting married.
2006-09-03 19:31:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only thing you can do is be honest with her and explain that you DO care about her, but it is because you care that you do not want to rush into it.....
if she respects you, then she should understand.
2006-09-03 19:29:15 · answer #9 · answered by crimson_tears_of_the_goddess 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
oh its a girl thing.....
they want security and love...
and i guess u r just keeping her hangin..
she might just dump u and go somewhere else...be careful!!
2006-09-03 19:30:33 · answer #10 · answered by v v 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋