where can i go to get help?

Question

i cut. i just started the other day so the cuts arent really that deep but im afraid that if i continue then they will get deeper. i cant tell my parents cuz they will freak out. i cant tell my school counselor cuz i think she'll tell my parents and ... well... yeah. i dont have a shrink. the only people that know are my older sister and my friend. my sis knows cuz she saw the cuts and my friend knows cuz i told her. where can i go so that my parents dont find out?

Answer 1

Well...this is a delimma. If you are a minor, anywhere you go they will relay it to your parents it's a law and all that. However, if you are seeking councilling yourself before someone else makes you, then you may have a little more leeway in the matter.

Ask yourself why you do this to yourself?
Does it hurt?
Do you need to feel the pain?
How do you look with the cut wounds?
What would you think of someone else who had the same wounds?
How is that person different that you?

You need to understand this issue for yourself, before you attempt to explain it to someone else. But on the otherside of the coin, if you talk to someon objective with no vested interest about it all, they may help you understand it even better.

You obviously have shame or guilt about this, otherwise you would not be asking this question to an anonymous crowd.

If you feel you need to hide this from everyone, you obviously should not be doing it.

I urge you to find someone you can trust and can talk calmly with about this topic, someone somewhere.

Answer 2

This isn't the answer you're looking for, but there may not be anywhere you can go without having your parents know (if you're under 18).

What you need to think about, though, is that you are having some kind of awful difficulty, and you're going through it without the support of your parents. Maybe if they do know they'll be able to get involved in helping you feel better.

No matter how much you don't want them to know, please tell yourself that you will feel better just by letting them know. Your sister could (and may) tell them. Just get it out in the open, and start addressing the issues from there. Tell your parents (or one of them by themself) that you need to find a doctor because you need help. When they ask why you can tell them.

You may be surprised at how well they can handle it (or at least be strong for you). If you can't tell them go ahead and tell the school counselor, and let her take whatever the next step is.

The only other thing you can do is to ask yourself if you just started to do this because you've heard other people do it and, for some reason, maybe you thought it seemed intriguing. Even if that's not the case, maybe you could get anything you can cut yourself with out of your room. Try to be out of your room as much as possible in order to reduce the temptation.

Try to just tell yourself to stop it. Either you can stop doing it, in which case do that; or else, you can't, in which case tell your parents or counselor.

Answer 3

my daughter had some techiniques she used with some of her friends. She doesn't cut, but her friends were starting too. The reason you cut is to feel the pain, the pain gives a physical validation to the emotional pain you are feeling. Here is the technique that helped her friends quit cutting. They put a rubberband on their wrist. When they felt the need to cut, they snapped the band nice and hard....oh yeah, that hurts....it worked for them. It gives you the same validation but without the scars and the explanations.

But hun, you need to figure out what is bothering you if you don't already know and you need to work through it. I know your young but I think you might find some ideas in this book helpful......hell you can avoid all sorts of problems as an adult if you learn to let go as a teenager...the book is called "Letting Go" by Guy Finlay. See if the local library has a copy.

You can email me if you want to talk to my daughter directly.

Answer 4

Most communities have free counseling. You could try checking in the phone book for community centers or something. There are also a lot of online websites but you have to be careful because some are actually pro cutting and even the pro recovery sites are not quite professional counseling.

Answer 5

You may ask yourself
How would my mother feel when she is told that I have been seriously hurt?
What does my sister know about where to go for help so that our parents wouldn't freak out?
Would there be a requirement for confidentiality when I say I am going to hurt myself?
I wish I could help myself.
At the front of the phone book look for social service agencies.

Answer 6

Go to a Church Counselor or a private counselor, maybe a friend can help, maybe reading the New Testament in the Bible will help.

Answer 7

i think you can go to one of those free clincs they have like where you go get tests i don't think they would tell your parents but if this problem grows you could be in danger i suggust that you really think about informing your parent i know its hard sometimes im a teen myself but when thigs get out of hand your parents may get mad but they r there to help

Answer 8

your parents need to know so they can get you help..you need to talk with someone in mental health..this is your way of asking for help..please tell them now..my 14 year old grand daughter did it once, her parents got her help and they found out she was depressed, given medicine and she says she feels much better now. depression runs in her moms family, but no one thought she was old enough to be bothered with it..how wrong they were.

Answer 9

admit to your self you have a problem and then admit that you need someone to help you get over it. believe me your parents will freak out manndo big time if you die

Answer 10

hun, if you call a crisis line in your area you can get private help..