My ex left me after 8 years together, actually been together since high school. We werent married but just bought a house together a month ago. A month ago she left me and just yesterday she moved all her stuff out at my request and will be forfieting her share in the house. She believes she hasnt really lived yet and was just fed up with making effort and getting none in return. I know she is a great person and i really believed we were meant to be together forever. I really miss her and just cant ever imagine meeting anyone ever again with so many great traits as her. Is this because it is my first relationship and is that normal? I really wish i could believe there is someone else out there who could be better and thats what my mates say but i just cant believe it. She made me so happy and been that i have known her for so long i loved that long term connection we had and the fact that we (thought) we knew each other so well? Any advice on all of this, i am so lost and lonely.
2006-09-03 18:39:45 · 4 answers · asked by whitey 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well i'd first look back at reasons why she left u in the first place. it seems like u werent giving her all that she wanted and i would hope that u asked her what she meant specifically. and then if it is something u could change id try and remain good friends with her, change those things about urself and show her. maybe she will see that u have changed and want to get back together.
if it something that u cant change or seems like she just doesnt want to get back together ever then i would try to just move on. sometimes when something seems so right it's because u ignore all the things that make it not so right just so it fits that perfect picture in ur head. hope that makes sense.
since it was ur first relationship u really do need to get out there and meet other girls even if u are just casually dating at first and then grow as an individual first by doign stuff on your own and then think about getting into another serious relationship. if in the end u still want to be with her, hopefully she will feel the same way.
good luck!
2006-09-03 18:45:45 · answer #1 · answered by mayami 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know everyone says time will heal but it does. it hurts beyond what people think, i know. don't be afraid to cry or any of that. 8 years right out of high school, she feels caged up or something, you can't help that. you yourself were caged up. you have to pick up a hobby no matter what. keep your mind off of it, even though its impossible
2006-09-04 01:45:35 · answer #2 · answered by AtreyuExs&Ohs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry you are going throught this, but you will find someone better. For the way you talk and are thinking about this you will find someone who will appreciate you and love you more than you can imagine. I hope you find her.
2006-09-04 01:46:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In time your wounds will heal and you will meet someone better. Have faith, it will happen.
2006-09-04 01:41:39 · answer #4 · answered by Miss J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋