she broke up with me but we are still keeping much of our relationship the same. I asked her for a clean slate to start over so that I can earn my trust back. I thought that she gave me that clean slate...now she finds out little things that I said and she brings them up when I am trying to tell her the truth. I want to be with her...I love her and she means the world to me. I just want to get a fresh start and let her know how much I love her. I want to get the "US" back can someone give me some advice. How do I right the wrongs and let her now that I will never lie to her again...that she is my everything.
2006-09-03 18:18:47 · 15 answers · asked by mtjs06 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
omg thats the same thing as me and my ex..its scary cause its exactly the same. idk cause everygirl is diffrent but my guy is doing a good job at getting me back. and he cheated on me before u just have to sound extreamly sweet and just tell her all the ways u love her and idk some other stuff cause it worked with me cause everday he would say he wants to go back out with me and he loves me but i'm like oh thats nice but after awhile after talking on the phone the feelings are coming back. idk what to say but good luck and try to use some of the tips i gave you.. good luck<3
2006-09-03 18:25:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Its hard to trust a person after they have lied...You should sit her down and tell her that you are a better man than before..then u should just tell her if there is anything that she may be curious about to know about you then ask right now. u tell her bc u tell her the truth now and u dont believe me..if u dont have trust you dont have nothing i mean there is no used in continuing this relationship even though u love her....the relationship cant be one sided...i mean she has to make u want to tell the truth, and if she loves u she would listen instead of throwing ur past lies back in ur face..and its obvious that she told u a lie when she said u 2 can start over seems like to me when she found out the truth she picked up were u 2 left off just to throw it back at you 2 make u feel bad..but try what i suggested and if its too hard to do write a letter to her and explain how u feeling..that may be a little high schoolish but i bet u will get a reaction out of her. good luck.
2006-09-03 20:36:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my bf did the samething...lie! i can't compare u 2 cus i don't know how many lies u told 2 her and if it was more then 1 then u can just 4 get about her trusting u ever again.Sorry 2 tell u that but THATS the TRUTH. Females are not like males. we take alot and believe it or not we are hurt by all of it.And when u care about sum1 and they lie 2 u that is sumthin that u will always remember. So if u 2 do get 2 gether or if u are just 2 let u know things will never ever b the same. She may 4give u but she will not 4get it! Sorry but i hope u 2 work it out
2006-09-03 18:41:42 · answer #3 · answered by rr 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone seems to be posting such harsh answers,
We all know its hard to forgive someone so cut her a little slack. But at the same time it would be great to be honest about everything, even if your not sure tell her anyway and if she asks why your telling her just say that you wanted to make sure she was ok with it. She seems a bit insecure and although she has every right to be she should also be making an decent effort at giving you another chance. Make sure you make a commitment to her, Show her how much you love her, Make her feel special. Make her a priority not an option. And only give her reasons to feel loved, not lied to.
2006-09-03 18:36:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
easier said than done. it will never be the same with women, it's their nature to be that way. you have to give it a couple of years meaning you have to be trustworthy that whole time than mayb she'll let up a lil bit, otherwise, no hope for a clean slate. majority of women including myself are like that. once that trust is broken, i'll always doubt that person, coz the trust is broken unfortunately. so, it's pretty hard to say.
2006-09-03 18:23:25 · answer #5 · answered by Christy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once that rust is broken it is hard to win back. Don't keep apologizing and try to put it behind you. Keep telling the truth and be there for her when she needs you. Perhaps in time she will put it behind her too. Good Luck!!
2006-09-03 18:22:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if U really loved her U should of never lied...That love in your heart wouldn't of let u do it...And now she can't trust U. Was it worth it? That trust U can never get back cause its already broken, and ruined!
2006-09-03 18:27:00 · answer #7 · answered by dejayesenyaleslie24 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you need to sit down with her and take turns talking. tell her EXACTLY what you posted on Y!Answers. Obviously, you will need to gain her trust again but do NOT lie to her again. just remember this quote:
"It takes years to build up trust and seconds to destroy it."
Best of Luck mate!
Oh and remember that no one on this earth is perfect. It is in man's nature to sin but just try not to, when you do ask Jesus to forgive you if you have Him in your heart.
2006-09-03 18:35:03 · answer #8 · answered by Lil Jon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll Prolly Lie Again...
2006-09-03 18:21:04 · answer #9 · answered by awesome_eo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IT WILL TAKE TIME FOR HER TO TRUST YOU AGAIN, IF
SHE CAN EVERY TRUST YOU. THAT WHAT YOU NEED TO'
LOOK AT RIGHT NOW. SO JUST KEEP LET HER KNOW]
THAT YOU ARE SORRY FOR WHAT YOU DID. AND GO
FROM THERE. YOUR ACTIONS WILL SPEAK A LOT LOUDER
THEN WORD RIGHT NOW. SO SHOW HER.
2006-09-03 18:24:25 · answer #10 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋