My husband and I get along really well, I have a son he's not his dad but has known my son since he was 3 he's now 13 my son asks to get football scores on the radio in the car sometimes he lets him but if my hubby cant wait 5 minutes he says bad luck it's taking too long if my son answers back and says its ok for you to get yours when you want to my husband says don't chat back or your grounded, so not fair so when I step in there is an argument, my son kicks a baloon in another room but my husband can hear it and tells him to stop, it's not like he's kicking a football inside this sort of thing happends all the time and then there is arguments I might sound like I'm sulking but I don't get flowers or b'day presents from him but he does have good points he takes my son to cricket and knocks off work early to pick him up from school and often cooks dinner I know to take the good with the bad but they are big issues my husband doesnt think we need counceling
2006-09-03 18:07:48 · 10 answers · asked by Nicky 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I have tried to sit down and discuss this numerous times and dont seem to do anything, even if we all agree on solutions to fix these issues they don't last
2006-09-03 18:10:21 · update #1
one more thing, some of these problems occured yesterday and my husband hasn't spoken to my son since then...I think it's an immiture way to handle the situation
2006-09-03 18:54:50 · update #2
you need to stop feeeling like you have to protect your son from your husband....
it is not necessary...
no one is perfect... and women relate differently to sons than men do....
sounds like you are thinking it is possible your husband is picking on your son because it is not his son.... nope... your husband is doing what all dads do... he is asserting his right to not have to change the channel on the radio to suit a kid....
stop grumping... accept he is doing normal father stuff and your son wont be marre for life because sometimes things are not 'fair'......
nothing in life is really fair so stop looking for it..
2006-09-05 10:10:10 · answer #1 · answered by wollemi_pine_writer 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but it sounds like you are being nitpicky. Your son was talking back. Why is he kicking a baloon in the house? Your husband takes off early to pick him up and cooks dinner sometimes too? What again are you complaining about? Flowers? Go grow some in your yard!
2006-09-03 18:21:21 · answer #2 · answered by jennifer c 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah i think of 17 is only too old, in spite of the shown fact that it relies upon on various issues. what's with human beings asserting 12 is "lots too old to pass trick or treating." No it is not! once you're going via your self or with an person its kinda creepy yet i'm 13 and me and prefer 5 of my acquaintances are going as a collection i don't see whats incorrect with that.
2016-10-01 07:05:38 · answer #3 · answered by lograsso 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look my brother is in the same situation right now hes wife has two daughter from another mariage and two kids from him. He treats the other two children just like that when ever he feels he needs to shut them up he does but then agian he does do the cooking and school thing. But i look at it this way he does this because he doesnt really know how to deal with it yet its been like a few years alredy and he still does the same routine. I told him the other day to just try to love them as they were yours and well he changed alittle and as for the [resent and flower thing he buys him self anything he wants but when it comes to you he never has any money right the correct action here in my opinion here is no to telll him about this hes going to think your materialistick so when ever your b day comes along just say i wish i had gotten a card or somthing.
2006-09-03 18:22:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Look inside yourself and see if you can accept the way your husband is with your son. Even though he has been with your son for so long does not mean that he has his best interests at heart. As for not getting you birthday presents etc, thats just lazy and low. He needs a kick up the ...
2006-09-03 18:35:43 · answer #5 · answered by AusPixie 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sounds like your husband is starting to have issues toward your son and not with you.maybe he doesnt want to hurt you over the fact of being the childs step father and everything thing the child does will eartant him and thats when regardless of him being your husband you need to stand up for your child.and tell him that your son is just playing with what ever it is and that his is,nt hurtting anytrhing.but do not do that in front of that child thou.because if the child hears you then he,ll start doing other things if he doesnt like his step father.and also tell your husband that if he cant exseap your son and respect him the he cant exseap you.because that child is a part of you.good luck,
2006-09-03 18:21:58 · answer #6 · answered by bigmomma s 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
When you had your son it was to protect him at all cost. If your husband can not treat him better you have to leave him. Your son should not feel like an out sider. And your husband should not constantly be makeing him feel bad. He is still a little boy, A Father there is only ONE< But it takes a REAL man to be a DADDY......
2006-09-03 18:48:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
if you feel like you need counseling, then go for it. try to get the whole family to go because there could be some underlying issues that really need addressing before they manifest into something more than no b'day presents, kicked balloons and inconsideration regarding the radio station in the car. good luck.
2006-09-03 18:38:00 · answer #8 · answered by 2nosbutful 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i know what your saying
but let him be the dad,
sometimes you need to sit back
as for the
flowers,
you know what is in his heart
2006-09-10 03:20:06 · answer #9 · answered by purple diamond 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get counseling or get OUT
2006-09-03 18:30:02 · answer #10 · answered by dejayesenyaleslie24 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋