does anyone care?

Question

does anyone care about people like me who has an abusive boyfriend but has tried everything and anything to move on but hes to controlling and to abusive, does anyone care that i grew up in foster care was raped and molested and even touched by my own foster parents my real father before he died before i went into foster homes and my real mom to this day tells me im worthless and was a rape baby? does anyone care that i can hardley afford to eat? that everyday i have to ask for money from people and even pay 10 dollars just to use this computer for resources? does anyone care that i think i should die because i have no life, and i am usally a nanny but since i have no way to get to california they wont hire me, i have to have a current address and a phone number i dont even have that, what should i do? and why dont people care for someone like me? im worthless and alot of people tell me im pretty but so what i just want to die, so maybe someone will respond with a good response.

Answer 1

Ok this might sound harsh but you are going to hear from someone who knows where you are coming from. First things first, LEAVE that damn boyfriend. Do it when he is away from home, plan it out before hand, call the police and get an order against him,IF I HAD NOT DONE EXACTLY THAT I WOULD BE DEAD RIGHT NOW.I am sorry that people who were supposed to love you betrayed your trust, but you are a hell of a lot tougher then you think ( trust me) and all of those people can go to Hell anyway, which no doubt they already have seats reserved for them. Dump your "family" altogether, start off new if possible, volunteer to help people who have been where you have been, rape crisis centers, women's shelters,drug abuse rehab,children's outreach centers. Those people need people like YOU who knows what it feels like to provide strength for them to get through a hard time, and you sound tough enough to handle it. Many of those places will help provide a residence for you for job applications, and I don't know where you live but the school district is always hiring here in Las Vegas. Children are everywhere so I am certain they they are hiring where you are too. I get paid about $16.00 an hour to be a high school campus moniter,but there are a ton of different jobs available. NO ONE wants you to die,I don't and I don't even know you but I care about you enough to want you to live the happy life you DESERVE. Things are hard right now but as you know too well life changes, and it changes for the better sometimes. Those people are trying to feed you their toxic negativity because they wasted their lives and so they feel bad and want to take anyone along for the fall. Do not let them!!! Good Luck and know that even as you read this someone is thinking of you with love and only wants success to follow you.

Answer 2

It certainly is a fact that people who were abused in many cases end up in abusive relationships. First let me say, I care and I am truly sorry that your life has sucked so far, but here's the thing: if you continue to dwell on how horrible your life has been so far, all you will ever do is attract more abusive relationships. You need to concentrate on moving forward and away from all this crap. First get away from this guy you are with. You didn't say how old you are, or whether you have a home or not. If you are still in school, talk to a counselor, if you are over 18, find a women's shelter. The thing is, that you need to concentrate on what you need to do for your future, not on what happened to you in the past, because all that will do is keep you stuck. Think of all the things you can do, not of the things you can't do. Most of all, don't feel sorry for yourself, be a little soldier and march forward. You may want to start going to a church and see if you can get some help there. Accept any help that is offered to you, even if it is not exactly what you had in mind, so long as it gets you away from what you are doing right now. Think about all the resources you can use to move forward and think only about what's good for you. The past is done, and there's nothing you can do about it to change it, but you can change your life now and have a good future. Every day, every time you think about it, say: I am willing to live up to the very best in me and be the very best possible person I can be. Remember to move onwards and upwards and don't look back!!! I wish you peace and love.

Answer 3

alot of people care about people like u. But u seriously needto get help you have had a sad childhood which has led to a sad life but only u can change it.

firstly if you have no home or anything then it wont be hard for you to get up and move to a different place where u can start a new life ditch that stupid boyfriend of yours get some government assistance for some money to move, police help if your boyfriend threatens you and proffessional help when you get through the first bit.

forget what your mother says as long as u can tell yourself your a genuinly good person then anyone that says anything else is wrong u need to lift your self esteem and to do that you have to get away from all the bad carma around you

i wish u all the best and hope you live a much happier life from now on

Answer 4

yes there are people out in this world that does care.For i too at times think i am worthless. But those who does care are like angels they are here one min and gone the next. The one person that should care most about you is yourself. and there our library that you can use instead of paying 10 to pay for service. That person ripping you off. Those who dose care may not be the ones we want to care for us. u really need to search yourself and find out what you really want. And when you know that then no matter what others say your dreams are not that hard to follow. And for the job in califor don't worry get you a job at mcdonald, wendy and save your money up. You got to care for yourself before other can care for you. Because if you don't then your never know if the person cares or not. Because you don't even care about yourself. Oh by the way tell your mom to go straight to hell because she the one that needs help. Exspecial saying things about her baby girl. Life is hard and it all up to you and no one else. So go out and show the world that you are not a quiter and that you are a SURIVAL. I proud of you. because you made it this far. And I know that you can be something just put your brains to work and show everyone else that you care about yourself and only yourself and you will make your dreams come true weather it be hell in high water you can do it. And i be here to listen and try to help as much as i can.

Answer 5

hey dotn die on me.yes someone does care. Cares about you alot actually. You might not no him very well but he knows you because you are His child. This may sound crazy but Jesus does care. Look you have no where left to turn so y not try this it has healed billions of broken spirits across the world. Jesus cares for you and He wants to help you but you have to call on him first. You have a free will and the only person who can ask God for help is you right now. That alone can save your life. And it doesnt have to b some crazy thing like lying face down on the ground you can just sit on a street curb or somwhere any where and talk to him. and about the abusive boyfriend, call the cops. God Bless

Answer 6

I care. I am sorry that you were dealt such a rough hand in life. It sounds like you have some job skills that can help you out. If you have an abusive bf the hardest but best thing you can do it break it off with him. Asking for help is really hard, but is there a trusted person who you can ask to help you get away from him? The police can help, but it is better if you get hooked up with a church or similarly minded place with resources. You are not worthless.

Answer 7

First of all, you are NOT worthless. Your mom sounds like she's worthless. What kind of mother would tell her child that? Especially after the life you had. There are agency's out there that help people in your situation. Right now, things might seem to be out of control, but they will get better. You are a strong person to have lived through all of that and still go on. Please don't even consider ending your life. You never know what the next day or week will bring.. Please don't give up..try looking in the phone book or check your neighborhood for places to help you. Good luck and let us know how you make out..

Answer 8

yes people care... but.......

If you are fit enough, try the military... just go... leave your b/f in the dust.

You sound like a tough individual who is temp. lost.
You are not the only one with a sad story. You have the ability to pull yourself out. A very prestigious businessman once said:
"Change everything except your wife and kids." when his business was in perill and he was fighting for their companys survival.

YOU need to make some serious changes. Outing ones self is not the right choice. There was a young man that was severely abused in the same system you describe. Later when he was married, wife, job and the best father he was asked why he was succesfull in breaking the cycel of abuse; he simply said, "Do to my past experiences, I knew what NOT to do and what I should do." he broke the cycle of abuse.... you can too.

Answer 9

Wow! While you've faced Pure Hell growing up, I really think that you can have the last laugh at all of them!

Do this! Find out what you like for a career and go for it!

You can also pray to Jesus who knows everything and, while we don't understand why things get to happen, he knows more than us and Will help you!

Take this from a former abuse-survivor! I'm Still dealing with issues, but have been blessed with a really great life; as messed-up as I am!

I KNOW that the abuse Really messes with you! Believe me!!!!!

You can be somebody one day! Believe in yourself! I do and so does our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ!

You can keep in touch and let me know how you're doing if you want.

Keep a positive frame of mind!!!!!!!

Answer 10

I don't know you, but given this information, I care what happens to you. I started earning an income since I was 9 and ever since then, I have always given 10% of my gross income away. I usually send it to a local homeless shelter and I support charities having to do with the very young who are medically challenged. People care what happens to someone like you. You are not worthless and you are worth having around and are undeserving of being near and around abusive people.

As for getting help--there are women's shelters that you can contact. You can speak to your state representitive about your options. You can speak to a clergy. You have to make the first move in getting out of your abusive relationship and most importantly, learn to love yourself and put yourself first. It's not a selfish thing to do this. It's important to your survival.