Well my gf and i were talking to other night, and i was telling her how i am so glad we are at this point in our relationship were we just can't get enough of each other and want each other all the time...and she smiled...and agreed, and then i said i hope things never change and that we will always enjoy fooling around...and then she said well things eventually change over time, and then i said if ur talking about marriage...just know its all downhill from there, there is not point in marriage nothing ever works out and people are never happy. So she responded by saying how do u know..u have never experienced it, and i said that true, but from what people tell me they are miserable once they get married, so there is no point in ruining things. So then she said, after 6 years of being together and things haven't gone down hill...what makes u think it will...and so i said i dunno...thats what people say and she said since when did u start caring what people say?
2006-09-03 17:42:53 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
so then i said, i don't but thats what people say and so it must be true...and she seemed upset but then she said...well u know the saying u can lead a horse to water but u cant make it drink it....and so u must be the horse... She got upset and left....i mean we have been dating for 6 years whats the big deal? I am 27 and she 25 ...what f*** is her problem...why is she pist off?
2006-09-03 17:45:05 · update #1
She didn't dump me ..she just went back to her place and won't talk to me...what did i do wrong?
2006-09-03 17:48:40 · update #2
i agree with you about marriage ruins relationships. I was married before and now divorced. She wants marriage u dont something u guys are going to have to work out if u want your relationship to work
2006-09-03 17:48:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure she's disappointed, and has the right to be. What the f*** is her problem? Her "problem" is that she is in a commited relationship that she probably thought would one day lead to marriage, or something more than just "fooling around." Most women want more than that. She should be upset, finding out her boyfriend of 6 years thinks of it as fooling around. She probably feels that you don't think your relationship is going to be long lasting. Marriage doesn't do anything to your relationship. Getting married doesn't ruin a good relationship, the people do. A lot of women dream of their wedding day - she probably just wants you to be the one she marries. Be flattered. You sound like you have an attitude about it - you really shouldn't, because this is understandable. Give her time. Talk with her a little more, but don't let what you hear from people stop you from doing anything. Think for yourself. Do you really think a piece of paper can make your entire relationship go to hell?
So basically.. this is just a fling? Or a sex thing? What?
2006-09-03 18:01:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would like to say, "it doesn't have to be that way in every marriage", but I think you have a point and the reason, I believe, is that once people are married to each other, they feel more secure and don't put as much effort into the relationship. On the one hand, you do want security in a relationship, especially if there are kids involved, but then it seems that very security makes you grow apart in some ways. Bummer!
2006-09-03 17:51:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
GF That is a commitment you share with her you don't want another man to own her marriage is about love it's about priceless memories that you share with her you moved from stage 1 meeting eachother
stage 2 dating being intimate
stage 3 planning your dreams
stage 4 is where you 2 belong harmonize be 1 be united
tell her that yea it was an opinion you didn't intend on her getting mad you learned jumping to conclusions don't solve the problem
so you want her as your wife you want to experience it but your afraid some other guy may try to catch her before you
2006-09-03 17:50:55 · answer #4 · answered by Adrial M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My friend, Marriage is not a down hill slide for people who love each other. There are many couples who get married and live out their lives in total happiness. Don't knock it 'til you try it. Can you expect her to wait for a future that can never be? Why should you care what people say. If you live out your life by doing as others say then you are no more than a puppet on a string.
2006-09-03 17:48:31 · answer #5 · answered by Big "D" 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People are unhappy because they choose to be marriage is you have to work at for the rest of your life and thats hopefully alot of years yah things tend drift the sparks fade but that why you both give in 100% and keep things going.....You never know until it happens to you and don't listen to other people....thats the stupiest thing someone can do....I bet when you are married you will enjoy it....ok I think she wants a commitment six years is long she probably feels like your hinted you don't want to marry her ...Most give or take 5 and then they fins some one that wants a commintment......
2006-09-03 17:47:32 · answer #6 · answered by annie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well obviously she was pissed because she wants marriage. The divorce rate scares me too but marriage isnt about any of that, no one knows whats gonna happen but marriage is a true commitment of love. Its the ultimate way of saying i love you and i want to be with you and only you for the rest of our lives. For some women they simply wont invest there time into a relationship if they think it wont ultimately end there. If you love her and change your feelings about all this, surprising her with a ring is the way to go about now.
2006-09-03 17:53:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is great. I've been married for 35 wonderful years. He has made my life happier than I ever expected. It takes a little work to keep the passion alive, but it can be done. It's so worth it.
2006-09-03 17:48:18 · answer #8 · answered by butrcupps 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off, do all those married people have kids, cuz that could be whats making it miserable. second, maybe she wanted you to pop the question and when you said that it made her flip. so go make up for it. buy her a kitten or a puppy. beg for forgivness. she can't stay mad forever because she didn't dump you, but don't wait expecting things to patch up on there own, you gotta make it happen
2006-09-03 17:57:00 · answer #9 · answered by luke14parker 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the 2 of you have different goals for the relationship. You need to work that out.
Also, try to talk to some other people about the pros and cons of marriage.
2006-09-03 17:54:29 · answer #10 · answered by Qwertius 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋