My boyfriend hurt me, so i slept with a guy to hurt him. Childish i know, but it seemed like the thing to do. Well now, we have made up, and he did something weird. See, before, he wouldnt say he was IN love with me, even though he said he loved me alot, and before he said the timing wasnt right for kids. Well, now, suddenly, he told me that he was in love with me, deeply and wants kids right away...
Now, i want this...it just seems like strange timing to me, and i dont understand.
2006-09-03 17:29:01 · 17 answers · asked by Jez 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
1) yes, he knows.
2) we are 99% of the time a stable relationship.
3) he would never run out on me, or a baby.
4) he didn't do the same thing.
5) he is childless
6) we have been engaged for quite some time...i just am in no hurry to get married, because i have never seen a happy marriage.
7) i am 20, he is 46
2006-09-03 17:42:21 · update #1
it is not possible for me to be pregnant now
2006-09-03 17:43:44 · update #2
Sometimes it takes the reality of almost losing someone to make the other person realize how much they really do love them. He was probably scared to death to lose you & realized he wants to have you forever.
2006-09-03 17:32:02 · answer #1 · answered by orionsgirl76 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not a stable relationship. Neither one of you is ready for kids. I doubt that you even understand what a sacrifice is involved. Get married before you have children. Plan and save for them. They deserve to be raised by 2 adult committed parents, not two people who are still playing games.
2006-09-04 00:32:12 · answer #2 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he know that you cheated on him? Maybe all of a sudden he realized how much you mean to him and how upset he would be if he lost you. It's great that he sees he's in love, but don't jump too fast into the kid thing especially when you guys are still playing childish games.
2006-09-04 00:32:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't buy into whatever he's selling......seems weird to me too.??
Who knows what is really going on in his skull, ya know ? Just take ur time.
Don't be in a rush to get married , have a kid, settle down & live happily 4-
ever. That is a fairy tale, at this point, for you. Wishful thinking.....WAIT.
Until you absolutely, positively, are 100% sure, that you are ready...and he
is ready.....for such a huge, and serious commitment.
2006-09-04 00:44:21 · answer #4 · answered by CraZyCaT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems like your not ready...Don't rush it just because hes ready and he got scared because he thought he was going to lose you doesn't mean you have to do it trust they think there ready and when the family is here the freak out....Take your time with things because hes just kissing your butt right now...Give it more time u will know...And for the rebound thing you don't have to sleep with someone out of revenge because in end your only hurting yourself....
2006-09-04 00:39:26 · answer #5 · answered by annie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? You sound young to me; don't do something crazy and get pregnant; you're having slept with someone else out of spite is a sure sign that you're not mature; grow up and live life before getting tied down....come on!
2006-09-04 00:34:45 · answer #6 · answered by sweet ivy lyn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It was rotten of both of you to sleep around ..but in lite of that with the hurt and all he forgave you ..did you forgive him? It sounds like through it all he found out he is in love with you. But before you have children with him you need to know if you have forgiven him if you haven't then having children is not a good idea.The whole thing could come back and haunt you and you will seperate in time.
2006-09-04 00:34:02 · answer #7 · answered by vtlovie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
questions? does he know? did he do the same thing? did he get someone else preg?what is his hurry all of a sudden? could you possibly be preg for Mr#2?I would really check it out before I even considered getting preg. ask him does he want to marry you? If he stalls, you better think if he will be around to raise any kids, doing it alone is really tough.
2006-09-04 00:34:16 · answer #8 · answered by marilee w 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he has come to terms with the relationship and is ready to go to the next level with you.But you should wait until your sure you want this.Make sure all of the fighting is over before you start having kids.
2006-09-04 00:34:31 · answer #9 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, DON"T have children with a BOYFRIEND!!! And if you do, then just call Jerry NOW! because that is how you will end up. Second, you slept with someone to punish him? Why didn't you just break up? Why don't you just grow up? Dump him and find someone else.
2006-09-04 00:34:37 · answer #10 · answered by doc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋