ok..so I asked this question before, but here are some more details. I am a fourteen year old girl. Last night I had a sleepover with two guys. My mom and dad didn't know about it. I didn't purposely do it to piss her off or anything, but we were just hanging out and we decided to do it. I would have told my mom about it today i guess, but all my friends kept on scaring me about it. They kept telling me that their parents would be mad. So me and these guys are friends and I kinda like one of them but my mom doesnt know. so i figured she wouldnt be that bad, but i dont know. what would you do if you were my mom? and im not like a bad kid or anything I was just having fun. I really need to know what you would do because nowI am worried my friends mom is gonna tell my mom before Iget to it.I'm running out of space for more details but please leave me a detailed thing about what you woulddo if youfound out.
2006-09-03 17:13:00 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
personally dont think its that bad but maybe im just being stupid. thanksoh yah..on top of that..im not quite sure if my dad would be too happy about one of the guys. What would you say to this? a month of grounding, no big deall?? thanks
2006-09-03 17:13:24 · update #1
some of my friends are making me feel like i am really dirty and stuff. am i an idiot. now i just feel really stupid. their making me feel like its not normal for a teenager to do stuff like this. is it? godd..i need help now.
2006-09-03 17:14:07 · update #2
It was at this guys house who is my best friends neighbor. My mom thought i was just hanging out with her, which wasnt a complete lie, because i actually did hang out with her
2006-09-03 17:14:50 · update #3
this isnt like me. im not a s**t. it just happened. I dont know why it happened but it did
2006-09-03 17:15:20 · update #4
Did you sleep with the guys? the question starts to ramble... if your sleeping with the guy i wouldnt tell her...and if your friends would tell on you or make you feel bad i would reevaluate who i call a friend...wanting to sleep with boys at 14 is normal...but not necessary...you could easily be labled as easy or a slut even if you didnt sleep with the guys...guys will make any thing up to look cool....and as for your mom...i have no idea how she would react...i know nothing about her...some moms are cool...some are not...if you were my daughter I'd have an extremely embarassing detailed talk about you to you......
2006-09-03 17:17:19 · answer #1 · answered by nicole 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am assuming that you had a threesome? If that is the case, if I were your mom, I think that I would be disappointed for one for another I would probably give you the third degree, Did you use protection, do you know how many partners these boys have had prior to you, then it would be off to the doctor to see if you had contracted STD's and then be put on the pill or some other form of birth control if you aren't already. I raised 3 children, and I know that I am not perfect and they had done some outrageous things that I still don't know about however, I have always tried to let them know that there isn't anything that they cannot come to me about. If they just need an ear to listen or if they needed a shoulder to cry on. My kids are 24, 21, and 19 and believe it or not I am not yet a grandmother. Talk to your parents, tell the truth,
2006-09-04 00:27:17 · answer #2 · answered by elizabeth i 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are not an idiot or abnormal. Honesty is the best policy and you are far better off telling her before she finds out on her own. I am fairly strict with my kids, so they'd be in for it. If I found out some other way, though, bad, bad trip. It is normal, but a bad idea to have a sleepover with two guys. What will they tell your friends? What happens if it turns away from innocence? Try writing your mom a letter, it might make it easier to tell her and you coud give it to her right before you go to school, so she has time to think about it ( and cool off) before you talk about it. Tell her how much you wanted to tell her but were having a hard time. I know it's easier said than done, but it is the right thing to do. She only wants the best for you (remember she was a kid once, too).You should be proud of yourself, it's a hard thing to tell the truth sometimes. All parents are different and I hope it all works out for you!
2006-09-04 00:39:14 · answer #3 · answered by feathereafter 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all I would want to hear it from my daughter and NOT her friend. Then I think I would be more disappointed than mad ( I'd leave the mad part to her dad). My daughter would have to regain my trust and that would take a long time. You made a bad choice and the fact that you know you did is a good thing but it can not go unpunished. You need to tell your mom NOW. And you should start out by telling her that you made a really bad decision and you just have to tell her because it's eating you up... There is sure to be consequences but if you want your relationship to go unharmed you need to be the one to tell her..Good luck sweetie BTW I'm assuming you did NOT have sex.. if so well your on your own
2006-09-04 00:28:14 · answer #4 · answered by skhoury28nails 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it was me, i wouldn't say anything, but since you're scared your friends mom will tell, then maybe you should say something before her. Your parents will be less mad when they hear it from you. If you just explain that they were over and you guys were all hanging out and they had no idea what time it was and they kind of just fell asleep and you just wanted to let your parents know before they found out a wrong version of the story.
2006-09-04 00:22:20 · answer #5 · answered by danilysa 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Totally depends on what you did with the guys, at 14 I hope it wasn't anything! Mom will probably freak but it would be alot better if you told her yourself. If someone else tells her it will be even worse for you. Since your not a bad kid and probably haven't done anything worse then this maybe she won't be to hard on you but you know you'll be getting some kind of punishment from it~Hope it all works out for you hon
2006-09-04 00:23:27 · answer #6 · answered by she_she_kay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
14 is WAY to young if ur having sex with the guys. i would ground u for more then 2 months and never ever let u go over a friends house unless i called the parents to make sure there werent guys there and that the friends parents were going to be there also.
2006-09-04 00:26:51 · answer #7 · answered by joy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be disappointed and lose some trust in you.
Though it is normal for teens to want to spread their wings and do more grownup things own their own, it is really very selfish and inconsiderate to allow your parents to be misled about the reality of what you intended.
If I were you I would be trying to understand that it is not a GOOD thing to deceive anyone, most especially someone that loves me. Then I would try to do better and EARN more trust from my parents in the future.
Look up the word narcissism in the dictionary. Then try to avoid it.
WK
2006-09-04 00:24:41 · answer #8 · answered by olin1963 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
you have GOT tell her ASAP!! It will make you seem much more responsible if you confess to it, rather than letting her find out some other way. my parents would NEVER let me have a sleepover with a guy, i can't even have a guy in my room with the door closed. all parents are different, but i think all parents appreciate openness and honesty. idk, maybe its how i raised, but i think having sleep overs with guys is just risky, puts you in a position to do than you want to do right now.
2006-09-04 00:24:27 · answer #9 · answered by Karen H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
firstly you should control on urself as you are a girl and for a nice person either male or female character wise controlled on self.may be i beat you if you would my daughter or never talk to you. cause in my eyes its not fare withopurselves knowmay be we people r very forard but as per our culture i dont like my daughter go out with others before get marry .
ektaa
2006-09-04 00:28:45 · answer #10 · answered by ejaitly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋