should I give the ring back?

Question

I dated a guy and he gave me a promise ring in 2004, we broke up, and in 01/05 I was dating someone else, who i'm still with. I still have the promise ring my ex gave me in a box with all his memorabilia. Should I give the ring back? (He doesn't ask for it or anything, he says he's still in love with me)

Answer 1

Keep it, it was a gift, so it's yours. The only reason you should get rid of it is if you have bad memories tied to it.

Answer 2

No...its kind of late now to be giving it back. Thats something you should have done at the break up. If he ever asks for it back and you still have it then you can give it to him, but not right now. Why do you keep a box of him memorabilia anyways? Get rid of it and show your guy now you can move on. My ex keeps a box of my stuff too...it actually creeps me out. I gave him back my promise ring when we broke up and he keeps it. He even let another girlfriend try it on..big mistake...they didnt last too much longer.

Answer 3

The ring was given as a promise and you accepted it under those terms. Once the relationship was over, what happened to the promise? You still have the promise ring. You still hold his promise.

Do you have to give it back? No, but as long as you have that ring, you will never be free of that promise – a promise you accepted. Best recommendation, put it back in the box and mail it to him. Don’t take it to him. Don’t talk to him about it. Cut the tie. Release the promise. Step clear of the relationship so you can move on freely with the rest of your life with your new guy.

Good luck.

Answer 4

No, a promise ring is considered a gift, and does not need to be returned. If it were an expensive engagement ring, I personally would give it back. Promise rings are something that your boyfriend gives you as a gift, an engagement ring is given with a greater commitment.

Answer 5

Yes, you should give it back.

First, the promise for which the ring was given is obviously broken. Second, if he still harbors feelings for you, he needs to know that there is no chance for the relationship to be revived.

Answer 6

If it's a family heirloom give it back.

Otherwise it is a ladylike gesture to offer it back, even though it was a gift.

A true lady does not accept nor keep jewelry from any man she is not related to until she is engaged.

If the gentleman does not accept the ring back then you should discreetly give it to charity or a trusted member of his family.

Answer 7

The ring was a gift. A gift of a promise, a promise that he was yours and you were his.Some where the promise was broken. It is entirely up to you if you want to give it back.

Answer 8

A promise ring is not an engagement ring. Therefore it was a gift and it is yours to keep.
However, if you are serious about your current relationship, you should already have cut ties with your ex boyfriend and not be discussing anything with him (even if he does say he still loves you).

Answer 9

Unless it was a very expensive ring, I wouldn't see the need to return it; unlike engagement rings.

I have a memory box for every gal I've ever dated and I know others do too. Its normal as long as you are honest w/ yourself and whoever you're with that its just a "memory box" and aren't holding onto the items for other reasons.

Answer 10

legally if he asks for the ring back because it was a "promise to get married ring" then you have to. But he hasn't so you are allowed to keep it. However, why keep it?

Answer 11

Giving him the ring back will signify for him the definate end to the relationship since he is still holding out hope by saying he is still in love with you... Yes you should give it back....