i'm dating this guy that i've known for at most 3 weeks, but we've only been dating for the past week. And in this past week, we've talked & texted all day long, as well as gone somewhere fun every night, besides going to school together. this weekend he's an hour away in a soccer tournament. i honestly miss him a lot, and i'm generally concerned with how the team has been playing, so i've been texting to see how he's been. but instead of his warm, smooth texts, i've been getting short ones in reply, such as, "yeah, just left the hotel. we won last night." i know he's really busy and all, so should i just back off? i'm afraid that i've ruined the possibility of a more serious relationship with him since this is the critical begining stage...
2006-09-03 16:33:35 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes. Please back off. There is "you and him" time and there is also "him and his buddies/teammates" time. We all need time to ourselves to do what we need to do. I would calm down, stop the day long texting (which gets annoying by the way), and call him when he returns to town. If he is not there to answer, then wait for him to call. It's good that you have identified that you are getting to the point of being clingy. You have only been dating for three weeks, so remember, you are not his girlfriend...yet. You two are just dating. So, be cool, stop the daylong texting, give him some breathing room, and he will one day soon be your boyfriend exclusively.
2006-09-03 16:46:06 · answer #1 · answered by adjoadjo 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he may be busy but I would probably slow it down a little. If you are texting everyday and going out almost everyday, you are going to run out of things to do or talk about pretty quickly. This is coming from a married guy. No matter how far into the relationship a person is, they both have to have their spaces respectively. No matter what, good luck.
2006-09-03 23:37:41 · answer #2 · answered by pilot_dan_98 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are being clingy and obsessed. You've known him for less than a month. Just give him some room. You are nowhere near the point where it would be appropriate for him to be calling everyday and checking in while he is away from home. If you want things to happen, just relax and don't try to force it.
2006-09-03 23:37:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your not being clingy.
You found a guy you liked and you want to keep him.
First of all, don't text too much.
That will ruin it.
He is busy, which is why he is being that way.
Maybe call him ONCE a day when he is gone toward the end of hte day like around 8 and ask how it went, dont' stay on the phone for more than 5 or 10 min.
2006-09-03 23:38:58 · answer #4 · answered by Rachel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your ok... maybe back off a little and just understand that he's with his friends, and it's hard for him to balance being your boyfriend and being the cool guy. You know he likes you because he has been putting effort into talking to you for the past week, just leave one simple text like "hope your having fun, ta-ta" and let it end like that maybe for one or two days, then when he gets back let him know how much you missed him.
2006-09-03 23:36:48 · answer #5 · answered by R-Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After marathon texting, you guys need a break from texting 24/7. Same as with any new friend or hobby. People gotta be able to "recharge" mentally and all. Don't worry you're ruining it, just play it cool . :-)
2006-09-03 23:36:29 · answer #6 · answered by *babydoll* 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I think it's best that you give him a little space. Would you like it if you were constantly asked what you were doing? Wouldn't you be a little annoyed? Or would it just reinforce the relationship? But he's a guy. Give him time with him friends. Hope this helps
2006-09-03 23:37:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe if you play hard to get he might think oh is something wrong? i better make sure everythings sweet, he most likely could be busy, specially with the ''boys'' dont be too concerned unless he comes home and is still the same.
2006-09-03 23:37:28 · answer #8 · answered by ♡MaNda♡ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would RELAX if i were you...he's probably really busy and if something is going on then you can deal with it when he gets back! just let him be while he's away. I'm not saying you have to stop talking to him all together but you should chill out a little...thats all! i know wat thats like to miss someone a lot while they're gone..and also wonder wat they're doing every second of the day! i've just learned to chill out..
2006-09-03 23:40:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no all is good. Just remember that when guys get together they act totally different to there one and only. All will be good when he comes home.but... do make sure that you do let him have his time with the guys without you.you guys don't like a cling on.:)
2006-09-03 23:40:19 · answer #10 · answered by oceanwvs2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋