my niece just found out shes pregnant but shes only 12! her parents are furious at her!!I told her to adopt?

Question

the baby but she wants to keep it. she doesnt have any money or nothing!! and her parents are going to kick her out!! im 22 with my own place and job and want to help her i love her any advice??

Answer 1

Then you should take her in and try to help her. But don't make things too easy for her.She is very young to be having a child but since she wants to take responsiblity,let her know that this life she's carrying in her belly is not a toy and she can't just cut it off when she's done playing with it.Let her know that this child will need her love throughout its life.And also let her know you'll be there to help,but you can't do everything for her

Answer 2

If her parents do kick her out, you can give her temporary shelter. But you should call Social Services about the situation.

Your niece is only 12. She should not even be having sex, let alone a baby. She has parents and it's not really your place to tell her what to do. If you want to support her, then do so but you shouldn't try to take the place of her parents. Her parents should be furious at her, but I'm sure once they have calmed down a bit they will work things out. I really doubt that her parents would really throw her into the streets.

Answer 3

Holy s h i t she is youner then i am she needs to understand that a baby isent a puppy she cant get ride of it when it starts to get tto be a hassel she needs to give it up for a adoption and u love her alot u need to take her in if her parents kick her out and God bless u and your niece and her parents she cant keep the baby it would reck her life when she dated what will spark the conversation "oh yeah and by the way im 12 and i have a infant at home hope that dosent reck things between us" that wont work if she wants a life she needs to the best for the baby and her ik he wants to have it but when the baby is 12 she will 24 that is w/ a almost teen.

Answer 4

Well honestly hun if you REALLY sit back & think about 12 years ol is WAY to young to raise a baby, IM not being harsh or judgemental but think about when you were 12, were you mentally ready to raise a child I mean you STILL ARE a child!! I feel badly that your neice is in this position but I think her life would turn out a lot better if she has the oportunity to grow up & stil lhave a carefree childhood....MANY MANY studies show that children who have children usually grow up feeling that they were cheated out of thier childhood and in MANY ways they are. I know she feels that she would be a good mother & Im sure she will when shes old enough to understand all the things that go with it....I hope you can maybe let her stay w you or try to talk to her parents as though they have right ot be mad kicking her out isnt going to help AT ALL!! She has enough problems to think about without having to worry about where she will live & that her parents hate her! TRy to explain to her parents that she needs them more than ever at this time! Also I know she may not want to hear it but try to convince her that adoption is in her best interest, think about it she wont ever know the joys of dating & carefree childhood once that baby is born her social life is pretty much over for the next 18 years, in a VERY critical part of her development & learning years....plus ther are A LOT of families looking to adopt that are more than willing to let you keep contact & send pics & updates so she can stil lsee the child grown up & still be a part of its life while all the while still learning to be a happy successfull adult....please just think about it. BEST OF LUCK hope it all works out for her!

Answer 5

Wow,wow,and wow(no pun intended).I'm not going to be judgemental here,because I believe all things happen for a reason.The good and the BAD. I feel that her 12 year old body is not fully developed enough to handle that kind of stress.Having a child this child may cause emotinal as well as physical stress.


If you feel that it is your calling, "HELP" the dear child,but do not serve her everything on a silver platter.She must learn the consequence of her actions.If you decide to take her in,discipline her out of love.Show her what is expected of her and what needs to be done as a mother.That is if you all decide that she should keep the child.

Another alternative would also be adoption,but honey to tell you the truth,none of us can make the decision as what she should do.The ultimate choice is up to parent/guardians.God bless.

Answer 6

Babies having Babies what a world,at age 12 she needs to put the baby up for adoption,if no family is will to help out,this child can not take care of a baby,the baby will only suffer,at age 12, I don't think the parents can kick the child out by law.I think child family services will step in on this one if they were called.

Answer 7

How did this little girl get pregnant in the first place??? She needs some serious help, not just about the upcoming baby. I understand what it is to love your family but I think that she needs to think about not having the baby at all, she is just way to young. If that isn't an option, then please be there for her the best that you can, this is going to be the trial of a life time for her.

I'm not saying any of this to be mean or hurtful, its just my opinion. Good luck to you and your niece :)

Answer 8

Take her into your home to let the parents cool down. Contact Social Services and inform them that it is possible there was statutory rape involved. The more help you get her now, the better off for everyone.

As for an abortion, that would be very traumatic for her as well! Get her a case worker ASAP and get her some help. Neither you nor she should do this alone!

Answer 9

That's awful. It does sound like adoption would be best for both your niece and the baby. I would be careful not to usurp the parent's authority or get in the way. If it actually does get to the point where she ends up on the street, then by all means you have the right to get involved and take her in. Just realize what you will be getting yourself into. It will be hard to ever ask her to leave...

Answer 10

I had a friend who got pregnant at 14 yrs, I remember her parents kicked her out. She did not have anybody to turn to, then the next day her oldest brother took her in . It was hard at first, but then everything worked out. She is now 18 and recently graduated high school, my friend never regrets giving up her child. If you do take her in just make sure she stays in school, and for her not give up in her dreams. I hope everything works out.

Answer 11

okay well what i want to know is who is going to pay all these bills especially if she doesnt let someone adopt the baby and they dont assume responsibility...omg is she going to get a job and go to school and take care of the baby .... right come on people ... get real here.... tell her to get rid of it... im sorry i dont beleive in abortion but she is to young and is only going to mess up EVERYONES lives if you dont convince her to do this....just my opinion .... unless you are footing all the bills for her then yeah that is fine keep the baby and the whole family will be happy !!!!!

and yes this is all the parents fault for not knowing what their own child is doing at all times at such an age omg... and then they kick her out and blame her when it is their fault i dont get it..... not saying she didnt know better or that she didnt do anything wrong but yeah hello where was mom and dad.... and where is dad to the baby and what does he think of all this..................he needs to know and have a say..... tell him now........