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My father died a couple of years ago. Within the grieving process, I became depressed and my sex life became almost nonexistent. I got into negative thinking patterns surrounding sex: expecting to hear criticism, rather than enjoying my partner, constantly hearing "not good enough" even though it wasn't said, etc.

What is the best way to rebuild my sexual self-esteem now that the grieving process is concluded?

2006-09-03 16:30:28 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health Mental Health

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BUILD YOURSELF UP FROM THE INSIDE OUT. MASTER A SKILL OR TALENT. TEACH IT TO OTHERS. VOLUNTEER YOUR TIME AND EFFORT TO THOSE IN NEED. MAKE SOMEONE'S DAY. JOIN BIG BROTHERS AND SISTERS.

GIVE TO OTHERS WHAT YOU WANT FROM THEM. SHOW ATTENTION AND ACCEPTANCE, ADMIRATION AND VALIDATION, RECOGNITION AND RESPECT. MAKE SOMEONE'S DAY AND IT WILL MAKE YOU FEEL GOOD. TRY TO PUT OTHER PEOPLE AT EASE AND THEY WILL WANT YOU AROUND BECAUSE THEY FEEL GOOD AROUND YOU......

PRACTICE SHOWING EMPATHY. ACCEPT ANOTHER PERSON'S PERSPECTIVE, EVEN IF YOU DON'T AGREE OR UNDERSTAND IT. ACCEPT THAT PERCEPTION DOES NOT EQUAL INTENT. TELL YOUR LOVER HOW YOU PERCEIVED THEIR BEHAVIOR (AS CRITICAL) AND ACCEPT THEIR ACTUAL INTENT (REQUEST). SHARE YOUR THOUGHTS AND PERCEPTIONS WITH YOUR PARTNER, AND ACCEPT THEIR INPUT. THIS LEADS TO GREATER EMOTIONAL INTIMACY, WHICH LEADS TO A FEELING OF CLOSENESS, WHICH LEADS TO FEELINGS OF ACEPTANCE, WHICH LEADS TO DESIRE FOR FULFILLMENT, WHICH LEADS TO ALLOWING YOURSELF TO BE FULFILLED BY SOMEONE......

REMEMBER, PERCEPTION DOES NOT EQUAL INTENT. IF SOMETHING SOUNDS "OFF", THEN JUST GIVE THEM THE BENEFIT OF THE DOUBT AND ASK THEM WHAT THEY MEANT BY THAT, BEFORE REACTING DEFENSIVELY OR EMOTIONALLY. SOMETIMES THINGS COME OUT ALL WRONG, OR WE SEE THEM THROUGH A FILTER THAT DISTORTS THE INTENDED MEANING OF THE MESSAGE.

THIS IS SOMETHING YOU HAVE TO BE WILLING TO DO TO CONTRIBUTE TO A HEALTHY PARTNERSHIP. YOU HAVE TO GET ON THE SAME PAGE WITH YOUR PARTNER.

YOU HAVE TO ALSO WALK IN YOUR PARTNER'S SHOES AND TELL THEM WHAT YOU SEE, AND LET THEM SET YOU STRAIGHT. YOUR PARTNER NEEDS TO DO THE SAME WITH YOU......

AS FAR A SEX GOES, WOMEN GET PERFORMANCE ANXIETY JUST LIKE MEN DO WITH ED. THE KEY IS TO RELAX AND ENJOY PLEASING EACH OTHER, WITHOUT INTERCOURSE OR ORGASM AS THE ULTIMATE GOAL. A SIMPLE BACKRUB THAT ENDS UP IN ORAL SEX, OR A HAND-JOB THAT LEADS TO A NAP. WHATEVER, POINT BEING, YOU CAN ENJOY YOURSELF MORE BY FOCUSING ON YOUR PARTNER'S PLEASURE, RATHER THAN YOUR PERFORMANCE.

2006-09-03 16:49:44 · answer #1 · answered by pandora the cat 5 · 0 2

Over the last five years I had begun to have increasingly withdraw into a downward spiral of depression..

But now with the method I can fully focus my energy and thoughts into a decisive line on how to make my life better constantly. And it works like magic! I'm beginning to attract people to me once again and things have just been looking up since then.

Helping you eliminate depression?

2016-05-16 12:37:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

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Take Care and God Bless you !

2006-09-03 19:38:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

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2016-11-06 09:17:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

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2006-09-03 16:34:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0 2

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