We go through it every time we go somewhere he wants to go alone and he gets so mad that we dont let him I mean he screams at us he has gotten where we dont take them out as much.
He thinks he can just kick a kidnapper and run away he thinks being kidnapped cannot happen to him.
What can we do to get through to him that there are a lot of screwed up people out there???
2006-09-03 16:29:14 · 33 answers · asked by ♥ to ...... 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Just so everyone knows we dont let him wander alone we dont even let him go to the bathroom alone and if his dad is not with us he goes in the girls.
I just wanted to see - I want to have a family friend that he has only met a few times is a cop and I wanted him to snatch him up and scare the crap out of him but my husband was like you wanna give him a heart attack and dosent want to go that route.
2006-09-03 16:47:27 · update #1
Don't take candy from strangers. A lesson - if you will. Make it into a little game and have your son pretend that you are not his parent, but a would-be abductor. As much as it hurts for you as a parent to grab him from behind and hold your hand over his mouth ask him what he would do in that situation. If by some chance he manages to throw you over his shoulder and leave you helpless on the ground, then YES leave him alone in the amusement park. Chances are he will be rendered helpless and you can talk to him one on one of what the dangers of leaving a child alone in an amusement park could be.
2006-09-03 16:40:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot expect him to understand. He does not have the experience or age to. Chances are no man will grab him, but I would not let my 9 year old be dropped off to run free. If he wants to feel some more freedom, take him to the fair (just one section of it) with a friend and let him ride, say three or four rides, then meet you at a certain destination (like under the scone picnic area). Do that throughout the stay at the fair and see if he feels satisfied.
I let my daughter go to our local skate rink with a friend and I leave, however the rink owner knows us and does ont let the kids go outside. She seemed to enjoy the freedom.
2006-09-03 16:38:41 · answer #2 · answered by Valerie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When my sister in law was 7 we had her for a week. I had my little 2nd cousin who was also 7 come over to play. Her mom and I were chit chatting in the kitchen and the kids were playing outside. They came in for an ice cream cone we made them some and told them to stay on the front step while they ate them.
Soon it was quiet, and as EVERYONE knows when you have children, if it is quiet, something usually isn't right.
So we went to check on them. Nowhere to be found. We frantically started our search.
HERE, they had decided they were BIG ENOUGH to go to the park on the next block all by themself. (my sister in law came from a town of 500 people, we were in Minneapolis MN, A VERY LARGE UNSAFE CITY) ANY how, She thought she was big enough. I FLIPPED out, I know she wasn't my kid but I still freaked on her. I made her go in the bedroom for at least a half hour. I chewed her butt like unreal. Then I thought, what do I do for punishment? I can't "ground" her she isn't my kid. But she was going to be staying with us for another 5 days. So I told her EVERY day she had to watch the news at 5. Kids HATE the news, and it convinced her to be a lot more careful.....
Just a thought.
2006-09-03 16:45:09 · answer #3 · answered by #3 Due December 25th!! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could pull one of those MSNBC tests on him. Hire a police officer to portray a sicko. Except unlike TV let him take it to the point where your son really gets the point.
I don't think I'd do that though. I'd let him know exactly why he's not going to XYZ this weekend. Even better, go to the park and when the tantrum starts just turn right around and drive home.
2006-09-03 16:32:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I didn't let my kids roam until they were in Jr. High school.
I found that when my kids started to act out like that...we left where ever we were. I don't allow my kids to yell at me in public...they lose priviledges very fast if they do.
It is simple, you're the parent and he is the child.....they follow your rules.
Make sure he does have some freedom..such as roaming your neighborhood ( if it's safe) etc.
Its so important that he stays by you. I was in the same supermarket as Danny Davis when he was kidnapped. He was 4 years old. He never came home.....
2006-09-11 02:46:28 · answer #5 · answered by rainysnana 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what's best, don't give in to him. Eventually he'll figure out that if he wants to go somewhere he has to go with you.
You might want to enroll him in a self defense class, he might wander off and really would need those skills. But taking the class might just make him more insistant that he doesn't need you.
To be on the safe side, don't take him anywhere if he won't stay with you.
2006-09-03 16:42:58 · answer #6 · answered by S. O. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look this is really simple. Your child is 9. Who cares what he thinks? If he was capable of making decisions they would move the driving, voting and drinking age to 9. You tell him that if he wants to go to an amusement park he needs to do what you tell him to do. If he does not, you pack up and go home. It's that simple. Why the heck are you pandering to this 9 year old? You are the parent, you just need to explain to him how things are going to be. You don't need a reason or justification. Sometimes it's okay to tell him that he needs to obey because you are the parent.
2006-09-03 16:37:08 · answer #7 · answered by ZCT 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Arrange with a family member or very close friend to come with you to an amusement park. Let your son get a little ahead of you, enough to think he's on his own. Then have you friend grab him. Not take him anywhere, just show him that he's not fast enough or strong enough to protect himself from an adult yet.
Whether or not that works, just put your foot down and tell him too damn bad, he's not going off by himself.
2006-09-03 16:32:46 · answer #8 · answered by wildheavenfarm 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't have your friend the cop snatch him up and pretend to kidnap him!
Not a good idea. My grand son is 11 years old and I still keep an eye on him when we are somewhere. If he needs to go to the rest room I am right with him and waiting outside. We live in a sick sick world and children must learn
that they are no longer safe in it.
2006-09-10 16:52:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know that he can't fight off an attacker, but he doesn't have the experience to understand the concept. You mention that you don't take him out as much, but are there other children who are suffering for his actions? Tell him he has to stay with you or not go. Leave him with a sitter until he can act appropriately in public.
2006-09-04 05:26:42 · answer #10 · answered by Renae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋