Ok well first tank you for hearing me call out to u i need seriouse answers only please its so much **** i cant handel well my family has had little problems none as big as this and he always forgot them or just thought we fixed them.And not it came to nite us in the *** my brother he is a wonderful brother dosent hit me or anyone and he has such a big heart but he has had problems that just build up inside and now well things got horrable i love him so much and he just a few hours ago cheaked him self in the hospital and well ill start the story from the begining he had this gf who he cared so much for maybe not love but cared for w/ a passion and she broke up w/ my brother and my brother does have a bit of a drinking problem and he did smoke befor and im not sure if her quit but now all his problems are hitting my family in the face he just got so over welmed that he punched his had threw the walll and started drinking and well now he ended up in the hospital i need comfort and help
2006-09-03 16:28:36 · 12 answers · asked by tiny&proud 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Just try to stay calm. Just keep telling yourself that things will get better. Tomorrow will look better. Just keep a cool head. I hope things will work out well for you and your family. God bless.
2006-09-03 16:39:13 · answer #1 · answered by old_woman_84 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You care and that is the most important thing. I know how you feel right now, I won't bother you with how I know, but please trust me. First and foremost understand that you will be fine, you will be strong enough, you will make a difference. Once you can feel that, and be calmer you can start to help. Your brother is going to need a rock he can count on, someone who will tell him the truth (not just what he wants to hear) and be there for him while he works his problems through. You are that person and your actions will mean more to him than you will every know. Second, don't get wrapped up in what brought him to where his is now, focus on bringing him back to where he needs to be. I can only guess how old you are but you do sound fairly mature, you can handle this. Things will get rough over the next few days but stick it out by his side (metaphorically.) Your parents will be fine, help your brother and please take care of your own heart. Best wishes in your time of need.
2006-09-03 23:40:04 · answer #2 · answered by bobb1 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sweetheart, as painful as this situation, it doesn't seem to be your problem. You advise that your bro has a drinking prob and that he smokes (though u don't say what). The hospital might be the best place for him. You may want to check into some local Al-Anon meetings for family and friends of substance abusers. Hopefully contact w/ others ur age going thru the same will help u. God Bless.
2006-09-03 23:34:53 · answer #3 · answered by KraziOneNC 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Honey, this isn't your problem, it's your brother's problem and it sounds as though he's really going to be okay. He went through something emotional and he finally vented. People do that and NEED to do that. Would you rather have him keep all this hurt bottled up inside and then one day snap or kill himself? I know you didn't want to hear that, but that's how these things happen. He's hurting right now. You need to be there for him and help him through this by merely listening. Be his shoulder to cry on for a change. Tell him it's okay to hurt, and to cry. Then reassure him that things are going to get better.
2006-09-03 23:34:34 · answer #4 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You say he checked himself into the hospital. This is a very good thing. Make sure he asks for help while he's there. You don't say how old you & he are, but I suspect you are young. Try to talk him into getting help with the alcohol and any drugs he may be using. Then be there for him. It won't be easy, but if he truly wants help then this incident could turn out to be a blessing. Be strong.
2006-09-03 23:33:28 · answer #5 · answered by Kat 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
This is not the end of the world for your brother. First he should help himself to stop drinking and not to be stupid. Nobody can help him except himself. He is in the hospital and who knows , his ex is making fun of him right now cause he can not handle the situation. So many babes, so little time. He has to change and be a MAN. Move on with his life.....
2006-09-03 23:48:15 · answer #6 · answered by SNOWMAN 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know you care and love your brother, but you can't help him. He has to go through this break-up trauma by himself. It's only for the time being.
Don't worry, he'll be allright when time goes by. Everybody who falls in love and fall out of it will go through the same insanity for a while. But as soon as the hurting feeling fades, and when he meets a new love of his dreams, all sadness will be gone with the wind.
He'll find joy again.
2006-09-03 23:55:30 · answer #7 · answered by Timeless - watcher 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry for your problems hon. Your brother will get the help he needs now. He did the right thing. Just stand by him and stand by your family. If you are a person of faith then reach out to your church for strength. Your friends will be there for you as well.
Here is a hug for you and a shoulder to lean on. You will find the strength to face this. I promise.
2006-09-03 23:38:40 · answer #8 · answered by Precious Gem 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You need to know how to spell and tell a good story. Why are you worried about your brothers problems anyway. Let him deal with his own. You make sure that you go back to school and learn how to spell good.
2006-09-03 23:47:40 · answer #9 · answered by winnp1 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it sounds as though you and your brother are very close. you need to be with him now more than ever if you want to help him get through this. Your mom and dad as well need to be there for him. good luck and GOD BLESS YOU AND YOUR FAMILY.
2006-09-03 23:33:21 · answer #10 · answered by oceanwvs2000 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋