if he's an ex and still calls you and tells you he's still in love with you, he says he's accepted the fact that you dont feel anything more for him but a friend, how do you make him forget you? you've agreed that you will remain friends after the breakup, but he calls drunk each night asking you to help him numb the pain?
2006-09-03 16:07:21 · 13 answers · asked by lori 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
we broke up coz i realized i drifted away from him and lost the feelings. we broke up in the best way possible. i dont think im leading him on, whatever. i always tell him i dont love him anymore and he knows that. yes he's drunk, but he sure knows what he's saying (i mean, the next time he's his normal self he'd still talk about the stuff he says when he's drunk). if i just ignore him and do those mean things youre suggesting, i dont think it will help both of us in any way.
2006-09-03 16:18:44 · update #1
Unfortunately this is tough. Sometimes you simply have to break the ties or he will continue to try to be in your life. He will continue to hope that eventually you will get worn down and come back to him. He may not say it but that is most likely what he wants. If you are trying to move on then that is exactly what you need to do. You being involved in the situation makes it very hard for you to help him. The best thing to do is break the friendship for now. Let the whole thing drop. Move on the way you wish. Six months to a year from now, if you want to re-establish the friendship you can try to make contact. If he responds in kind then the friendship can survive. If not, there wasn't much chance of a friendship in the first place. You can't make an omelet without breaking some eggs and you can't let someone move on unless you break the ties. My ex and I fought and argued and tried to make a friendship work. It finally happened seven years later but even now it is only bound by a child we had together. Had it not been for the child we probably would not have ever came to a point that we could actually sit down in the same room together. Though this is a different situation, it gives you and idea of a time frame while trying to remain friends. Good Luck!
2006-09-03 16:18:13 · answer #1 · answered by Big "D" 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Right now you can't be friends. He needs to stop calling you and find something else to do with his life. Someday when you both are married and have kids maybe you can be friends...but his wife won't want that!
And good job for you, girl! You aren't asking if you should get back together with him! Or asking if you're making him drink. Just let him go, because it's the best thing for him!
2006-09-03 16:13:18 · answer #2 · answered by Plain and Simple 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't help him move on. It's something he has to do on his own. For one I don't believe in friends afterwards, seriously how would that ever work? Especially if he still wants you. Don't take his calls. Stay away from him as well. He will eventually move on and find somebody that wants him. :) Good luck!
2006-09-03 16:12:03 · answer #3 · answered by Apple Blossom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well.. if hes calling drunk.. then he'd be somebody i couldnt remain friends with..
like being drunk and confessing your love for somebody is the most honest way to show affection.. huh
2006-09-03 16:09:18 · answer #4 · answered by Tah Dah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had the same problem with my ex wife....she wanted to be friends and kept emailing and calling, but I have moved on, and my new girlfriend doesn't apprectiate her try'n to come back into my life...so I just called her and told her straight up, the "friend" thing aint working out, and that i will not answer her calls or reply her emails anymore......and to this day, I have not heard from her....it's hard, but sometimes you just gotta do it to it inorder for you to continue move'n on
2006-09-03 16:11:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Use an answering machine. Screen your calls. Don't communicate.
2006-09-03 16:11:53 · answer #6 · answered by martin h 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop answering his calls, you need to break away from this guy before its too late. make him understand that its over and unless you still like him...move on as you want him to!
2006-09-03 16:16:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't say what happened between you two, that can mean alot. I am goin through alot now but it was my choice was he was such a player. Can you specify why you two broke it off?
2006-09-03 16:10:55 · answer #8 · answered by wonderin2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
telling him that you would still want to be his friend in this case sounds to me was a big mistake. I am sorry but you should have cut it clean
2006-09-03 16:10:40 · answer #9 · answered by Mrs Magoo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hangup on him your leading him on by talking to him hello?
2006-09-03 16:11:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋