My daughter is getting married in August, 2007 and she has already been planning for atleast six months. That will make, by the time all is said and done, over a year and a half of planning. I think this is ridiculous! One has to wonder if the wedding these days is more important to a woman than the actual marriage. Where are your priorities? By the way, I am dreading it. I don't like being in the spotlight and I'm just not much of a socializer.
2006-09-03 16:04:01 · 54 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Sure could use someone to hold my hand during the whole thing!
2006-09-03 16:09:12 · update #1
I'm getting married myself here in a week and I think my daddy feels the same way. hes shy and I know he doesn't want to be in the spotlight. Hes never wore a tux in his life and wasn't to happy about it in my case but i am his only daughter and oldest child, and I have been planning for the last year. You wouldn't believe what decisions there are to make. Of course the marriage is more important but hopefully this will be her only wedding and to a girl we dream of this when we are little and dress up carrying a hairbrush humming here comes the bride. And honestly if I can tell you something Im sure she loves her fiancee very much but she is probably thinking of you the most. When choosing the music and I had to choose the song for the father daughter dance I cried. when trying on my wedding dress for the first time and picking my veil I looked in the mirror and saw my daddy standing there getting ready to give me away and there was this little part of me who didnt want to get married anymore. I bet when she does get married and you walk her down the aisle and give her away or you dance with her she is gonna remember that for the rest of her life. Please be patient and love her. It hard for any girl no matter what age. Best Wishes...
2006-09-05 23:42:58 · answer #1 · answered by Mom to Isobelle 2, & Gavyn 8mths 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i guess for women, it's a once-in-a-lifetime thing. Sorry to say that but I started my wedding planning this June and I'm only getting married next Dec 2007. We want to have the most memorable wedding ever in our life and I guess we also want everything to be perfect. Maybe to a man, you would not really understand why we need to plan so much ahead. Don't worry, the spotlight will not be on you but your daughter! enjoy the process and help her out when she needs it (she's definitely going to need it).
The wedding is not as important as the marriage but to have a good wedding is to have a nice start to the whole marriage thing. That's what we kind of believe even though deep in our hearts, we know that's not true. Indulge us and indulge her!!
2006-09-03 19:56:49 · answer #2 · answered by autumn lover 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No.
I plan on planning for no more than 6 months when I get married, just to make sure everyone can come. A wedding is just a party for your friends and family to celebrate your marriage...a marriage is a commitment between two people whether it's a 1 million dollar wedding or a justice of the peace, I think people should plan a good wedding, but not overplan, because it's only 1 night, and your marriage is a lifetime.
2006-09-03 17:03:58 · answer #3 · answered by Baby Evan is due May 18th! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have courage the spot light will only be yours for a few seconds and most of that youwill be saying how lovely your daughter is so that the spotlight quickley goes back on her just enjoy it and you will come across as 'what a lovely dad and family you have' Arhhh. You know that kind of thing. But make sure that youenjoy what you will be saying about her and you too will have fun.
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2006-09-08 03:48:46 · answer #4 · answered by sarell 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know of a lot of marriages that were shorter than the planning for the wedding. I think too much emphasis is placed on all kinds of ceremonies today. Like graduations from preschool! I had no interest in a big wedding but my mother did. I don't even remember it . She could have saved her money. Personally I would have rather used the money to help us get started on our life together. But everyone is different. And I understand your discomfort about socializing. But I guess if this is what she really wants you will have to bite the bullet. Although I would think someone could have a change of mind about all this after a year and a half of wedding planning!!!
2006-09-03 16:12:39 · answer #5 · answered by sutra 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Would you rather she went to Vegas and eloped, leaving you out all together??? What kind of a mom isn't happy for her daughter at such a time as this? No one is saying you have to meet everyone and be the hit of the "party". Besides, the spotlight isn't on you anyway. IT IS THE BRIDE'S DAY!!! After 28 years of marriage and having my family almost violently against it, I can truthfully say my wife and I made the right decision in having a full church wedding with reception which took planning after we had been dating for almost 2 years. Suck it up and get with the program. If you can't, go to Home Depot, get a ladder, and get over it!!!
2006-09-11 07:19:32 · answer #6 · answered by Captain Cupcake 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO!!! But most girls don't look at it that way. They want to show off and spend as much of someone elses money as possible! The funny thing is, the couple very seldom get to enjoy the actual wedding or reception because they are bouncing around like little monkey's posing for pictures. I feel for you, none of our daughter's have gotten married yet. I've already told them however, that for the money spent on a wedding, it might be better spent on a downpayment for a home, or a lesser amount on a really great honeymoon.
2006-09-03 17:19:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe the marriage is more important than the wedding. A year and a half planning a wedding is a litttle much. She will probably regret not saving some of the money for later. My son is getting married in January 2007 and they have planned their wedding for a year now.
2006-09-03 16:21:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is your daughter's big day, not yours. Don't like to socialize? Too bad. I think you can suck it up for your little princess.
I think it's great she started planning early. Planning a wedding can be time consuming, stressful, and expensive. Spacing it all out makes it easier to take care of.
That said, it isn't that the wedding is more important than the marriage. Everyone just wants it to be memoriable, and that means different things to different people. I'm having a wedding of about 120, because our families are so large. I'm not doing anything lavish, but I don't want it to be trashy, either. Let her do what makes her happy. You (hopefully) only get married once. Let her enjoy it.
2006-09-03 16:18:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
From a former bride that had an amazing 47,000 dollar wedding...I divorced him five years later. That being said, I am now planning a wedding for just me and my fiance in Greece while on a cruise and amazingly the only thing that matters is the fact that he wants me for the rest of his life.
However, your daughter for some reason needs to be the princess for that day and she is planning what she views as the most important day of her life so give her some room to go crazy with details....
2006-09-03 16:09:11 · answer #10 · answered by babydoll_38dd 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋