im scared ive lost all my confidence..because i dont go out anymore because of high anxiety?

Question

i was going gym to but i stopped goin. i wanna lose weight and need to, i fell in to a rut because i live in a noisy anti social behaviour. and ive become obsessed about movin, but i no itll take time....i have this feeling where, i feel trapped where iam. an im doomed to be here forever...i dont have any friends, find it difficult to make em...i dont own alot of material possessions this puts me in low mood to.........ive been through alot of trauma in my life, and i feel bitter that i have like it makes me indifferent from everyone, i feel like people have made their mark on me..does anyone see what i mean? i just stay inside all day listen to r and b eat junk food with my curtains closed. and i BUFF my helmet alot. i do feel very sexually frustrated too. does anyone see wat i mean?

Answer 1

It's easy to feel that way but you gotta break out of the cycle. Everyone has had drama in this world - sexually abused as a child, Mom didn't believe it; brother became a quadripalegic, Dad died in a car accident when I was three - man, I could go on. Yeah, life sucks - BIG TIME. You are not the only one who has had drama and you won't be the last. Just realize that you will get through this - it will happen but sitting around just thinking about it and feeling sorry for yourself is helping NO ONE. Dude, get out and help someone else...a neighbor, some kid that needs help with school or math or learning to skateboard, - whatever. Give of yourself and stop obsessing about 'you'...look outward and I guarantee you'll be happier!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 2

I'm not a doctor but it sounds like you have social anxiety disorder, the same thing I just overcame. I used to go to the grocery store at 3am when it was close to empty because crowds of people instantly caused panic attacks. Have you gotten any kind of help yet? I can tell you from experience that the longer you stay locked up the more anxious and depressed you will become. The only reason I'm finally off of medication is because I was forced to confront my social phobia. My car broke down and I had to ride the bus for a few weeks. For a normal person, that's no big deal but for someone with an anxiety disorder that's pure hell. However, I'm so thankful because after confronting and overcoming that phobia I am SO confident now and no longer have panic attacks.

I would suggest you start off with seeing a therapist or psychiatrist on tips on how to get started overcoming this. If I can get over this, anyone can. If you ever need someone to talk to then feel free to email me. I know exactly what you're going through and how hopeless you probably feel right now but you can get through it. I promise. Good luck!!

Answer 3

Bring your gym to you. Get a couple of 5-gallon pails with lids. Restaurants throw them out all the time. Ask if you can have a couple of them.

Put some water in each. Put a clock with a sweep second hand on the floor in front of you. Pick up the pails, elbows bent, knees bent, bend over. HOLD the pails for 60 seconds.

Do this every day. Once a week, add a bit more water to the pails. When they are full of water, start putting white sand in the pails. Wet sand is REALLY heavy.

Do this once a day.

When you are holding the pails with your joints bent, your muscles hold the weight, not your bones. As the pails get heavier and heavier, it takes more and more concentration - i.e. FOCUS, to keep yourself steady while holding the pails. The muscles really shake!! This focus pushes up your adrenlin, pushes out the bad thoughts, makes you feel better, and a stronger person.

After a while, nothing will affect your attitude. Including the environment.

Answer 4

Sounds like u'r seriously depressed. The feeling of hopelessness is not good. Maybe you could find a church and talk to the pastor or minister about your situation. Everyone gets depressed now and then, but to different degrees. Try to take things one day at a time and pray about what to do is my suggestion, of course Im no psyc., but I'll pray for you to make the right decision to get yourself help.

Answer 5

Sometimes life really can feel overwhelming and hopeless. That's when you need to talk to other people. If you have family members, tell them honestly how you are feeling. If there are people you know (even if they're not close "friends") talk to them and let them know exactly what you're telling us on here. Or, if there's no one you know who you feel you can trust, call the national suicide prevention lifeline. It's not just for suicide- they can give you some advice, give you someone to talk to, and refer you to a nearby counselor if you want them to. Call 1-800-273-TALK (8255). It's 24-hours a day and it's free. Go here for more info about it: http://www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org/default.aspx

Good luck!

Answer 6

Sounds like you know what is wrong and more importantly, what you need to fix in your life. You can’t feel bad for yourself. You need to pick yourself up and repair what is ailing in your life. Seek professional help from a counselor if you can’t do it yourself. You are more than half way there because you understand your shortfall and what they are. Now you just need to work out a solution for yourself to get back on track. Good luck to you.

Answer 7

POOR YOU. YOU ARE TOO SELF-ABSORBED. ARE YOU WAITING FOR THE WORLD TO STOP EVERYTHING AND ORBIT YOU? THIS WON'T HAPPEN. EVER. NO ONE CARES.

GET UP OFF YOUR DEAD A*S, AND GET OUT THERE AND FOCUS ON OTHERS. NOT EVERYTHING IS ABOUT YOU, SO DON'T MAKE IT ABOUT YOURSELF. MAKE SOMEONE ELSE'S DAY BY COMPLIMENTING THEM. MAKE OTHERS SMILE BY ASKING WHAT THEY THINK ABOUT SOMETHING.

GIVE TO OTHERS THE ADMIRATION, ACCEPTANCE, RECOGNITION, ATTENTION, AND RESPECT THAT YOU SO CRAVE. IT WILL COME BACK TO YOU AS YOU WILL BECOME MORE POPULAR AND WELCOME. OTHER PEOPLE WILL FEEL GOOD AROUND YOU, AND THEY WILL WANT YOU AROUND.

CHOOSE TO AVOID BECOMING A PROFESSIONAL VICTIM OF PAST TRAUMA, AND DROP OFF YOUR BAGGAGE. CARRYING BAGGAGE IS LIKE PICKING UP POOP AND PUTTING IT IN YOUR POCKET. IT BEGINS TO SMELL AND REPELL OTHER PEOPLE. IT CONTAMINATES EXISTING AND FUTURE RELATIONSHIPS. DON'T EXPECT OTHERS TO CARRY IT FOR YOU. NO ONE CARES.

FORGIVE THOSE WHO HURT YOU. GET BACK AT THEM BY IMPROVING YOUR LIFE WITHOUT THEM IN IT. GET BACK BY NOT LETTING IT DESTROY YOU. BUILD YOURSELF UP FROM THE INSIDE OUT.

SIGN UP AT A FITNESS CENTER. QUIT MEDICATING YOURSELF WITH FOOD AND GET OUT THERE AND TAKE UP RACKETTBALL OR KICKBOXING. DON'T WORRY ABOUT WHAT PEOPEL THERE THINK, BECAUSE CHANCES ARE, THEY WON'T. AND IF THEY DO, IT WILL BE "GOOD FOR HIM FOR COMING HERE...". YOU WILL MEET PEOPLE AND MAKE FRIENDS.

EXERCISE RELEASES ENDORPHINS THAT MAKE YOU FEEL GOOD. YOU HAVE ALL THE POWER YOU NEED TO HELP YOURSELF. YOU JUST HAVE TO CHOOSE TO HELP YOURSELF, AND NOT CHOOSE TO BE A VICTIM.