So me and my bf have been going out for 4 mo. and i love him. I think he is pretty good looking myself but my friends, family, an dother ppl dont think so. He isn't necessarily fit but he is tall like 6'1'(and 17) and he weights probably close to220 or something but it is all proportional...i would just say that he is bigboned but its not like he's athletic tho.. So alot of ppl will say he's just plain not good looking or theyll ask why im going out with him because i'm too good for him.. these opinions haven't influenced my thoughts of him in anyway but what is a good comeback when ppl say nasty things liek that about him to me?
2006-09-03 15:39:56 · 42 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
u know, i've had the same thing happen to me with a girl once, and i didn't care about what they were saying. i say that if u love the guy, then just stick with that. if the friends are single, tell them that it's that attitude that's making them single. if they're taken, ask them what they'd like to see better on him and then tell them that they could use the same exact changes lol.
2006-09-03 15:44:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Should anyone deserve a comeback when they are being rude? If you like him, and he treats you well, why would they care? He might be a bit heavy, but looks are in the mind of the beholder. If you do want to say anything at all, tell them that there are better qualities inside him than outside, with a sweet smile. Now there is also the question of why others might think you too good for him...is it only over the looks, or is he not an intelligent and interesting person. From your description, that doesn't seem to be the case, but don't let the the opposition drive you to defend a guy that really isn't who you want to be with through defiance. Make your decisions about him based on your own opinion, not someone else's comments, please.
2006-09-03 15:54:03 · answer #2 · answered by herewittykitty 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
A good comeback would be:
"When I want your opinion I'll ask for it."
"Since when did you become 'Dear Abby?'"
"Doesn't matter...he gives me multi-orgasms like no one esle!"
"Listen, I'm only going to say this once...thanx for your opinion but I'm in love with him, so if you really care about me the way you say you do then I'd appreciate that you don't say that again."
Now if MOST of your friends and family don't like him, then they might have a good reason why. But if it's really only because of the way he looks then I'd use one of my choice comebacks listed above. If he's only 17 then I'm assuming you're around the same age. You're just dating this guy and the odds are you two getting married are pretty slim (btw, I wouldn't recommend getting married under age 26-27 anyway because you'll be more mature by then and will KNOW what you want more in a man than you do now).
I think it's funny how people measure another person's value by just looking at them or just having one or two interactions with them. This is a HUGE problem in society today. About 250-400 years from now our later generation is going to look back and just laugh at how "immature" and "unevolved" people were back in the early 21st century. Luckily there are evolved people living today that place far more value on WHO you are, what your soul has to say to them, than their looks or station in life. I'm not saying physical attraction isn't important, it IS....especially for men who are 5 to 25x more visual than women, but physical looks should not be the #1 thing. What about my friend Ish who lost his legs in a horrible accident?
He finally find a girlfriend who liked him for who he was, not for his ability to walk.
You do what's right for you girlie...don't let no one tell you what to do. If you like him and he treats you well then keep on seeing him. Let your friends and familiy know that he's part of your life now and they just better get used to it.
Rod
2006-09-03 15:54:18 · answer #3 · answered by thedatepro 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
People ask me that about my hubby. He is 6'1" and 190. His is not so proportional anymore, we met 11 years ago. his legs are skinny, and he has love handles. He does have really hot chest and arms tho...People will ask me why I am with him, I am too hot to be with him. I like to tell them as seriously as I can; I tricked him. They don't know what exactly I mean by that, and typically don't ask again. Truth is, hes a great guy, and one of my best friends.
2006-09-03 15:48:16 · answer #4 · answered by Dyma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you must understand is that all that matters is that your bf and yourself love each other and that the both of you are comfortable with each others appearances etc.. You may want to remind your family and friends that you love them all very much and you understand their concern for you while on the other hand if they do not have anything pleasant to say about your bf then you would appreciate it if they kept all of there inappropriate comments to themselves. and if they love you like i believe they do then they will respect your wishes.
2006-09-03 15:59:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be proud of yourself for seeing him for the person you love, not what anyone else is telling you they see in his appearance. All that matters is how you see him, and you are exactly right: it doesn't matter how anyone else sees him. That is awful to hear that anyone tells you that you are too good for him, unless he doesn't treat you right. You can't base your opinion on anyone based on their appearance, especially your boyfriend. If you base your relationships on physical attraction, you will run into problems since most of us change a lot as we age. I tend to find men more attractive as my feelings grow stronger, so don't worry what anyone else says to you. You are not too good for anyone if they're basing that purely on physical appearance. And, it does sound like he has an average built, so you are the only one who needs to worry about this. They must be jealous or something that they are putting him down. As long as you're happy, that's all that matters.
2006-09-03 15:49:13 · answer #6 · answered by Rexy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Does it matter what he looks like. You need to tell the people who are saying these things that you care for him, or love him (if you do). If he treats you well and you two get along that is all that matters. People who are saying these things may not understand how you feel and you really need to he honest with yourself and not worry about what others say.
2006-09-03 15:42:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, listen if you love this guy then don't worry what other say...its your life and you bf u picked him cuz u thought he was cute and for other reasons as well...just stay in school...don't get too involve with him..well not good with comeback so i can't help with that...but just go out with him and love him for who he is..not for what other say and try to break u up with him..my point is..stay with him
2006-09-03 15:44:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them they need to mind their own dang buisness and that youre the only one that has to look at him if they dont like what they see turn their freaken heads. Your happy and thats all that counts. And has anyone ever heard of a good personality! Dont listen to them just ignore it gurl and good luck.
2006-09-03 15:46:28 · answer #9 · answered by Reesa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U should not concern yourself with other peoples opinions of the way you bf looks. the only reason that u should be concerned about who u are dating is if ur family, friends and other people are concerned with how he treats you but if nothing is wrong there then it shouldnt matter what they think it should only matter what u think
2006-09-03 15:43:35 · answer #10 · answered by Mandy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋