give oral sex. I had a bad experiance as a child with this and the thought of giving a man oral sex makes me a bit sick to the stomach. I've never had sex so I don't know what to think of it. Would a guy I date ever hate me for it or even cheat on me because of it?
2006-09-03 15:30:04 · 35 answers · asked by marajjoya 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Most guys really love oral sex. But not all of them are going to be upset if you don't. I don't expect that from my girl. I let her decide what she wants to do. If that happens for me, bonus. If not, it's alright. I want her to be comfortable.
If a guy pressures you into it, he's not the one for you. Find someone who will understand. Explain to him why you become ill at the thought of pleasuring him this way. If he loves you, he'll understand.
2006-09-03 15:41:47 · answer #1 · answered by James II 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whoa, relax kid.
I'm 41, and a guy. I never had sex before I was married, and my wife won't give oral sex, at least not the "complete" job. So I've never really received oral sex. We've been together for over 20 years. Lots of guys would, and should, accept this decision of yours. In light of your experience, any decent guy would. You not giving oral sex is not a big deal. If it is a big deal for a guy, then that guy is a dirtbag and you need to dump him like yesterday's garbage. Sure I'd love a great bj. But I'm not willing to dump a good woman for it.
2006-09-03 15:34:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
some guys will but only the bad ones. Girls are like apples. The ones at the top are the best, the one's at the bottom are the worst. But most guys go for the crappy ones at the bottom because they're the easyiest to get to. You should look up Lyfe Jennings and listen to that song, "S.E.X.". I was sexually assaulted before and had a problem with guys trying to finger me since. Only the stupid boys will cheat on you if you don't give them oral sex. The good ones will still stay with you loyally despite that, trust me.
2006-09-03 15:33:34 · answer #3 · answered by Yuri ^_^ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with oral sex....giving or getting. It's a natural thing. You would be missing out on an important and fun part of sex if you stick to your phobia.
I would recommend that you work through your problem with someone...someone you can trust....talk it out...act it out. You had a bad experience with it, but that doesn't have to /shouldn't form you experiences with it for the rest of your life.
You will be able to find guys that will let you get by with not doing it, but everyone involved (yourself included) will be happier if you will overcome your "problem".
2006-09-03 15:52:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every man is different. I, myself had a bad expiernence as well. My hubby respected my wishes in not having oral sex until I was comfortable. It took us over 3 yrs b4 I could even think of it. So I think that if you find the right one he will be patient too.
2006-09-03 15:36:13 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
obviously, this won't come up right away unless you end up in bed with a guy on the first date - hopefully, a dude will be able to handle it but you have to make a little effort, too - you should maybe try oral slowly and gradually see if you can break through your phobia from your bad experience - there are other ways to satisfy as man but don't be inflexible yourself - try to break through if the guy's worth it
2006-09-03 15:34:18 · answer #6 · answered by Big Buddy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advise to you is: Wait until you are married!!! That way if you want to have oral sex you can if not don't. A guy can cheat on you for any reason so don't waste your time focusing on that.
2006-09-03 15:35:15 · answer #7 · answered by mitteycole 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would say no, i am not a big fan of it ether, and my fiance' doesnt mind at all! dont worry, the right guy will come along even if all the guys you been havin around you just want that! dont give in especially if you dont feel comfortable doing it! Stick to your gut instincs! Some call it a womans intuition! :o) but good luck and i hope i helped you out some.... dont settel for someone if they cant respect you, always remember that! :o) take care!
2006-09-03 15:33:39 · answer #8 · answered by ♥ LEILANI ♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you focus on that part of a relationship, then you'll never get into a successful one. There is much more to a relationship than oral sex. There is friendship, honesty, sharing, loving and so on and so on. The one you find will be able to overlook your concern. good luck.
2006-09-03 15:34:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
it depends on the guy. My husband, who loves oral sex, is not a stickler when i won't give it to him. The truth is, all guys love oral sex. you just need to find one who will respect you and your wishes. Finding the right one, is like winning the lottery.
2006-09-03 15:34:38 · answer #10 · answered by dmargrave 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋