why are women so superficial and materialistic?

Question

is just doesnt make sense! the statistics prove it.
a recent poll conducted by time/newsweek says that 79% of women would only choose to be with a guy who looks good and is rich. what does that say about our society? but i've noticed plenty of guys out there dating women that look so unhot it hurts. why dont women do the same? tsk. tsk.

Answer 1

i agree.

Answer 2

Well for one you need to remember that the poll said that 79% of women . That means that there is still 21% of Women who are not like that. I am one of those 21%. So if you are patient than maybe you will find yourself a good Women who is not part of that 79%. Do you know what the age range of the women answering that question is? And if you are trying to say that guys are any better than women because you see so many of them dating women who are unhot, you may want to rethink that. We all know what is one of the main things that is on a mans mind. When it comes to getting some I don't think that what a girl looks like is what matters most. Being materialistic and superficial is just as bad as being the kind of guy who just wants to get in a girls pants and wants to taste all the flavors of the rainbow.

Answer 3

I do think that many men, particularly professionals, tend to be materialistic in that they measure their own success against that of thier peers and so might feel inadequate, or not as successful, if they don't have a nice car, house etc. Outward appearances of status can be very important to a man. I think that is quite superficial. I do not feel either gender is better or worse than the other in that regard, but men do seem to compete with each other a lot.

Answer 4

I read the same article, and I can agree with the materialistic bit for a lot of women, but what about the men who only want to date hot women? There seems to be quite a lot of those guys around, too. And it seems that the more money a guy makes, the pickier he is about a girl's appearance - and I'm talking about guys who make less than $100,000 a year. Don't even get me started on the millionaires and billionaires.

I really think it's about the same for both men and women, quite frankly. Wouldn't you want to date someone hot and wealthy?

Personally, I want neither a wealthy man, nor a model-type of guy. All that's far more hassle than it's worth, in my opinion. If the guy I'm interested in happens to be wealthy, then I'll deal with it, but it's not something I'm at all attracted to.

Answer 5

get a life. ever watch King of Queens or Still Standing? the women surpass the men in looks and stop reading statistics. they mean nothing. you are the superficial one if you believe they count for everything. i am a woman and i am not at all what you described. so maybe you should stop putting all women in the same category and take some time to mature

Answer 6

Whew! this is going to draw some heat!

My best geuss would be that men rely on those factors less than women because they are hornier. A female can afford to be picky, because she doesn't have several thousand potential people prodding her to breed, breed, breed every eight seconds.

There's also the socialization factor. Many women are brought up to feel that they must get a man who can provide for and take care of them.

Answer 7

Too general. Age changes a person and you may be looking at women of a certain age. So much of that has to do with age, social structure, area of the country, values, mediun income and family type. It isn't a truth.. it's a generalization that could prove to be dangerous.

Look, men can look and be horrible.. if you generalize them. Look for individuals, not for macrocosms and steriotypes.

Leave that for the undereducated, rednecks, republicans and the nazi's.

Answer 8

I'm not a big fan of polls because they are rarely ever accurate. Like Larry King says "polls are weak". SOME women are superficial and materialistic and I think there are many reasons behind it. Society, peer group, the media, parents, and anything else that we would consider "stimuli". Sometimes men make the mistake of calling women superficial when what they really want is a REAL man who is "financially stable". A 35 year old man who still lives at home with mom and doesn't really have a solid plan for his life just isn't attractive to a good-looking, healthy woman. The operate word here is "healthy".

And then there are gold-diggers, who are women who have no qualms about going after rich, powerful men because they can. If the guy were to lose those riches she'd be gone. Hey, as long as they are upfront about it then I don't think it's a big deal as long as two adults KNOW what their agendas are. But in many cases that's not how it works.

What women aren't realizing is that men are marrying women from other countries in DROVES. And part of the reason is that SOME women are superficial and materialistic but also try too hard to be "independent" and don't know how to stroke a man's ego by making him feel like a man. I demand women to be real with me and not fake and usually I can get them to crawl out of that shell, since MOST of the women are really scared, insecure little girls DEEP down inside. Usually the hotter they are, the more insecure and scared they are. Of course there are exceptions to virtually everything I opine about. :P

The problem is also ours (as men). Women get hit on by some of the lamest pick up lines or men trying too hard to impress them with their car, resume, house, job, or that he spent X amount of dollars on a very expensive vacation. Out of default, a woman would rather go with the guy who has money and good looks, but a REAL woman really wants to connect deeply with a man. A man who knows how to make her feel good. This assumes that both parties are in good emotional health. Let's just say, as an example, that you normally hang out at bars and nightclubs.

Well, I love going to those places because I love to dance and so do my friends. But you've got to realize that MOST of the women (not all) that go to those places are going there to get some kind of validation while men go to these places to pick up or get laid. Not a formula for meeting Ms. Right, y'know? I'd say 70-80% of the women in nightclubs generally have a strong case of "attention-whore-ness" and have some emotional issues to deal with. But I focus on the 20-30% that aren't. I like meeting people that are fun, whether it's at a coffee shop, bookstore, broadway play, biking, hiking, dining out or whatever.

There are plenty of women out there that are not superficial and sometimes you have to know how to bring it out of them. Remember, they've spent years developing automatic responses to men who try and talk to them. So their first reaction to you might just be a defense mechanism, when you demonstrate that you genuinely want to get to know her, then she might chill out.

You can see what you want to see and frankly, I choose to see that this world has a lot of cool women that have a lot to offer. And lo and behold, that's my reality. It sounds like you're a little bitter toward women and maybe that bitterness is coming off in subtle ways when you talk to them or make eye contact, such as your body language, tone of voice, and the words that you use.

Sure, some women are superficial and materialistic, the good news is that I choose to stay away from them. And lastly, remember: people treat you the way you TRAIN them to teach you. 'Nuff said!


Rod

Answer 9

My guy is certainly no where near rich and some would say he's not very good looking, but I love him any way.

Answer 10

hmmmm well i guess i am in the 21 % ...cuz i am not any of these things you say.. and there are so many men the same way..i think they should stick together..don't you?? Beauty is in the eye of the beholder...

Answer 11

Well it is clear I wasn't asked to take this poll. i don't know that I have ever been with someone that had money. If he did, then I didn't notice.