I took in my 13 yr old brother and am his guardian, my 19 yr old sister is living with me, my mom is an alcoholic and drug addict who treats me like I'm her mother and acts like she is a child, In the past few months I have dropped out of school and had to resign from my job, there are no elders or responsible older people in my family because they all passed away or were all on drugs. I have had a horrible childhood that includes sexual abuse, emotional abuse and neglect, I was taken advantage by this church that I was a member of and all the friends that I thought that I had were really not my friends and all of my family members come to me for advice and prayer because I have a big heart. I don't know what to do, I feel like God has forsaken me, but I still love him, I just don't know what to do. I just turned 25 yrs old by the way and I also found the strength to leave my ex boyfriend alone, but it's still hard.
2006-09-03 15:06:39 · 16 answers · asked by caramel_angelkiss 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
It is difficult when we have come from a home environment without responsible parents. However, you are an adult and now in control of your life by your faith in God.
Providing your brother and sister with a home is wonderful, however, you need to disengage from your dysfunctional mother. She needs to either go into rehab or leave you and your siblings alone. It's tough love but what it does is free all of you from her miserable life choice. It allows you to begin a normal life.
It is not your responsibility to care for a person that is choosing to be on drugs. You are enabling her if you care for her. You need to take care of yourself and your sibilings.
Make good choices with your life. Don't let a man into it unless he has proven himself worthy. Take things slow, get to know him, not listen to what he feeds you. Find out if he is who he says he is, if not, out the door. We women do well without men, no reason to always want one in our lives.
Is your walk with God a strong one? Do you pray daily, go to a good church, seek His will?
Your descriptions of the church people, your family and most likely your ex all tell me you cannot use the word 'NO'. An important word to protect yourself from being suckered into things and being used. That isn't God's fault, that is your own. Please look at how you deal with people and understand you don't need to be used. You can be a good person and help without harming yourself in the process.
Take care, I hope you will think about what I've said.
2006-09-03 15:24:18 · answer #1 · answered by MadforMAC 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Whenever I feel like everything is just getting to be too much to bear, and I can't possibly do it another second, I simply ask God to help me. I just say, God, please help me, please.
Sometimes I also say, just make one thing easier.
He always answers, even if it's not till the next day or a few days.
Again, I am sharing my favorite verse that I always remember and it has always been true for me ." Weeping may endure for a night, but joy comes in the morning." Basically, no matter how bad it gets, it won't last forever. It will pass and things will start getting easier. It is a storm that will break eventually. It may not stay easy, but it won't stay hard, either.
I would suggest you find a support group, even an online one, and a good church. Don't give up! It took me a few years to find a good, supportive church. Find one where there are people like you that you will be able to identify with, and join in during bible studies, group activities, and whatever other fellowship opportunities they offer. They will be the most supportive to you when you most need them.
I found one with members in my same or similar lifestyle, income level, and difficulties. They are a huge support in my life.
Good luck, and God bless.
Hang in there!
2006-09-03 15:21:37 · answer #2 · answered by mynickname 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I truly sympathize with your situation. I don't have a quick little statements to make you feel better, nor any verses that will tell you everything will be better tomorrow. All I can say is, God still loves you in the midst of your trials. It is in the fires of life that we are refined, made stronger. He has given you the gift of compassion and caring, and you are using it. I am sorry there are no responsible adults in your life to share the load. I am sorry the church you attended did not treat you like the child of God you are. Don't give up on God or the Church. I don't know where you are, but I have to believe there is a Bible believing church there who will take you in, love you for who you are and help you with your burdens. Suffering and Christianity seem to go hand in hand. But don't give up, seek God to meet your needs each day, day by day. Continue to honor and glorify Him, no matter what may happen, knowing that it is all in His plan, even though we may not see what that plan is. Keep looking towards that blessed hope, that day when you stand before Jesus, when He smiles upon you and says,"Well done, good and faithful servant, enter into the joy of your Lord."
2006-09-03 15:19:14 · answer #3 · answered by BrotherMichael 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
God does not forsake anybody. Be thankful that you didn't turn out to be the drug addict, or the alcoholic. It sounds to me like God has blessed you with incredible strength to get through all that you've went through. No matter what happens, please always keep your faith in God. Things may seem tough now, and when they do, just talk to Him..he's listening, and He knows what you're going through. We cannot question why God does some things, but what i do know is that no matter what we must never turn our backs on Him. He has a FAR greater reward waiting for us than anything we could ever accept here on earth, and that is an eternal life with Him in the Kingdom of Heaven. Keep your eye on the prize, and do not let the devil attack your loving spirit!! If you ever need to chat, you can email me...as your fellow sister in Christ, I'm here for you if you need anything =)
2006-09-03 15:13:03 · answer #4 · answered by I♥him 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
One of the reasons we long for heaven so much is all of the problems in this life. Look ahead to the goal. Keep your eye on a higher prize. Remember this life is only temporary.
The early Christians were facing torture, death, and pain. The apostle John wrote to them saying, "Be thou faithful unto death and you shall receive a crown of life!" No matter how bad this life is, for the faithful, things will get much, much better!
How to keep the faith? Look at things from a long term perspective. Read and study the Word of God, because that's how faith comes! (Romans 10:17) Apply the things you see in God's word to your life. Find a loving group of Christians to fellowship with.
Finally, find someone you can encourage! When you give, you will get much more in return! You need encouragement, so sow encouragement to others. "Be not deceived; God is not mocked: for whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap." (Galatians 6:7)
When you sow, you can expect to reap much more than what you have planted. Sow as much good in your family's life as you can! The harvest may come slowly, but things WILL get better!
I am praying for you!
2006-09-03 15:33:12 · answer #5 · answered by JoeBama 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
two quotes for you......hope they help. you sound like you could be be me at that age.....
The sky is deep, the sky is dark
The light of stars is so damn stark.
When I look up, I fill with fear
If all we have is what lies here.
This lonely world, this troubled place
Then cold dead stars and empty space.
Well, I see no reason to persevere
No reason to laugh or shed a tear.
No reason to sleep or ever to wake
No promises to keep, and none to make.
And so at night I still raise my eyes
To study the clear but mysterious skies
That arch above us as cold as stone.
Are you there, God? Are we alone?
The Book of Counted Sorrows
When you come to the edge of all the light you know,
and are about to step off into the darkness of the unknown,
faith is knowing one of two things will happen:
There will be something solid to stand on,
or you will be taught how to fly.
Barbara J. Winter
if you wanna talk, you can use the Contact Me button here, i'll get back to you. my life was very similiar, maybe can help....i am 38 now. i dealt with everything and found my way....you'll be okay too.
2006-09-03 15:11:34 · answer #6 · answered by melissa 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
We all have this walk. But we all worry about how others are passing us by someway or another. I simply remind myself that all I'm doing is waiting on the Lord. And that God will and allready has a solution. There are still some Roses out there for you to smell. And enjoy your walks
take care
live long
2006-09-03 15:24:47 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
take hope in the fact this life isn't all you've got
take advantage of the fact family members come to you to help and love them like jesus
remember a uncomfortable life with god is better than a comfortable life without him
2006-09-03 15:11:59 · answer #8 · answered by Joe P 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what you are going through is very less compared to what Christ went through.
i have gone through worst expereance.
i had to drop after high school. from seven years i am working. from 1999 i am paying bills and LOAns of my Dad. six members - parents, grand parents, my younger brother and me.
But today when i look back. i see that i am very close to
God which could have been impossible if i had all the luxries of the world.
Be strong in the lord.
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2006-09-03 17:17:01 · answer #9 · answered by vicky India,Punjab 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I always find Romans 8 comforting at these sorts of times. Especially verse 28.
"And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose"
Not in just the good things, or the fun things, but ALL things. Even these things.
2006-09-03 15:14:11 · answer #10 · answered by V 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋