I fell in love with a guy who is 14 years older than me. I'm 26 and he's 40. Part of me wants to call him and re-unite but only because he's the first guy I dated that shared the same values as me. Sometimes I think he broke up with me because I'm Bipolar.
2006-09-03 13:54:55 · 19 answers · asked by Lorraine_us 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I know 14 years is too much older. That's what everyone said.
2006-09-03 13:57:18 · update #1
Of course I take my meds! I'm really smart and pretty too! Dang, you guys are quick to judge!
2006-09-03 13:58:16 · update #2
I am bipolar and I am married to a wonderful man and we have 2 kids! My husband married me, I am sure there is someone out there who will marry you too!
2006-09-03 15:14:32 · answer #1 · answered by ladydragondale 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am also 26 and bipolar.!!...Wow!!
We can be a little hard to deal with at times...
ARRGH!!! Laugh!!
But I have a long term partner that really loves me...
If this guy broke up with you because of your bipolar...that is something you can't change about yourself....
If he does get back with you, He will have to come to terms with that part of you.
But if there is no chance with this one guy, don't despair!
It will happen..Not all people can understand (the down days) our condition..We are incredibly magnetic people though, and people fall for us all the time...I didn't think so at first, but we are COOL..
If you really want this guy back, you need to explain that you share a lot of values etc, but that sometimes he may not understand you...That you may seem out of reach. But that you will try not to let your condition impact on your relationship..But that it is a part of you. Grab some medication (prescription or herbal) and we are usually fully functioning adults. Some People get nervous or wary of bipolar people but It doesn't have to be a relationship breaker..My man sometimes gets a little discouraged. You guy may have had issues with feeling like he could not successfully make you happy....if you want to, let him know that he does/did make you happy, as did your relationship. Don't let me come across as all knowing...My bipolar may be different to yours. But I hope this helped you feel better. Don't forget - us people, We ROCK!!
I don't consider bipolar a "mental illness" as such, it's more a tendency to get overemotional...We feel things so much stronger than others...But that means we have the ability to love with the same strength that we can cry or rage!! Wow!
Now that is powerful.. Good luck
im or email me if you want..
2006-09-03 14:19:51 · answer #2 · answered by tui 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, i believe the relationship won't last. Love is a lasting forever thing. So take your time. and no rush. Boys look at 2 things, prettiness and good personality. You know what pretty is. Good personality is the way u act and speak and how u behave yourself, also how u conduct yourself. They often look for good qualities. This is quite a tough area to improve. In other words, if they like u, means they really like u. If not, then maybe there's still a chance u can improve. All the best to u.
2006-09-03 13:57:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
The age issue is problem enough, without taking your condition into account.
Find someone your own age and who can live with having a relationship with someone with Bipolar.
Talk to your therapist about this.
Would you advise a friend to get back together with this 40 year old person?
2006-09-03 14:00:45 · answer #4 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure that was not the factor in the breakup and if it was the man is an absolute coward. There are plenty of people out there and don't waste precious time on someone who discarded you. You just have to be patient. It happens when you least expect.
2006-09-03 13:59:02 · answer #5 · answered by driver 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whilst this is real to assert that each and every person desires to marry a guy or woman without luggage, how many human beings in our 30s have no luggage? whilst i could desire to be interest to marry a guy or woman with a psychological ailment if I enjoyed him, I probable would not desire to deliver babies into the marriage. Marriage is tough artwork with a supposedly mentally wholesome guy or woman, babies might make issues that lots greater sturdy. sturdy success.
2016-10-01 06:51:05 · answer #6 · answered by kampfer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who cares about age. It is meaningless and if he is older he is probably more mature than most guys your own age. If you are taking your meds and continue to see your doctor then everything should be fine. Good Luck and who cares what anyone else thinks about the age difference.
2006-09-03 14:15:21 · answer #7 · answered by aleynam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I wouldI was with someone who i loved with all i had and when he was diagnosed with bi-polar the way i thought of him did not change a bit
I would be married to him riught now today if certain things had not happen... If your Ex broke up with you because you are bi-polar then its best you dont look him up and move on.
2006-09-03 14:00:30 · answer #8 · answered by Kittie_Nash 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would marry anyone I fell in love with. Taking vows include thick and thin, good times and bad. If he doesn't want to go through the bad, he may not be worth it.
2006-09-03 13:58:07 · answer #9 · answered by Yup! I'm a girl! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be his freind... i think he is a little to old for you and he broke up with you cause you have bipolar, what a jerk. just be friends with him and find a guy that is around your age . you could just find a guy that is around your age and have the same illness then you guys would be perfect for each other. good luck
2006-09-03 14:01:49 · answer #10 · answered by Sarah M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋