I went to a private school that had only one African American student.
Today I took my daughter to the roller rink and met a very nice African American lady with a daughter the same age as mine. We talked while our girls skated together all afternoon.
My question is this; Would she be open to my pursuing a friendship? I am not sure if that is welcomed or if it was a case of "I was just o.k. to talk to at the skating rink but don't ask me to go shopping and to lunch because you are caucasian" or "don't invite my child over to play...
How do you feel about having caucasian friends?
2006-09-03 13:43:59 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Thanks to all who answered. Going to the school I did I never had the opportunity to get to know anyone of another race.
I liked her a lot. I'll call her and ask her to go to the Labor Day sales. Thanks!
2006-09-03 13:53:06 · update #1
Wow...good question.
I'll start off with the observation that I think you may be a little "oversensitive" to the whole issue to begin with. I would assume that you have not had much experience with "black folk" as we commonly refer to ourselves or you wouldn't have to ask this question.
So here's the deal:
I'll make this as blunt as possible. GET PAST THE COLOR ISSUE.
Of course you should pursue a friendship with her!! If the two of you got along well, and had things in common, what else do you need?? Or to put it another way...how was it any different than how you met any of your white friends?? Was anything different other than the color of the skin of the person you were talking to?
It really IS that simple. There is no need to make color an issue if it wasn't one when the relationship/conversation started. Acknowledge briefly if you have to, but move on quickly. It's kind of like comparing different types of apples...they may be different colors with slightly different flavors...but they are all still just apples. Just like we are all still just people. Enjoy the new friendship...the two of you could probably learn a lot from each other. Enjoy that and embrace the fact that you are different...don't dwell upon it so much that it intimidates you away from the opportunity to possibly make a new great friend.
Hope this helped
2006-09-03 13:56:11 · answer #1 · answered by iipiki_okami 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-30 07:47:51 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a couple of life long friends that are Caucasian and I don't care!! If she is a reasonable, open minded person she wont mind pursuing a friendship. I say go for it!! Invite her daughter over to play and just let it happen as it happens!
2006-09-03 13:51:37 · answer #3 · answered by toobadfaya 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't make race an issue, I'm black and don't get hung up on the color of a persons skin if we have the same things in common and she is my kind of people and vice versa but she/he has to be really down to earth and not fake and phony and not all two faced when they are around their own people, keep it real and your alright with me. My fiance is white and he knows I don't play that fake stuff, we had a situation where our white neighbors would say hello to him but would ignore me, when my fiance' found that out he never spoke them again, suddenly they are speaking to me now....your either my friend or your not go for it ask her out to lunch..... it is what it is.
2006-09-03 14:25:16 · answer #4 · answered by Honeygirl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I totally think that's it's okay.Hell I'm Black and have white friends; but people ask me why do I hang out with them and sometimes they ask me the same. It's beacause I see nothing wrong with them. Considering I come from a very racist state, Texas. But I think it's all right because I'm a girl and they're boys.If you want to be friends with her go right ahead; and if she;s a true Black woman she'll tell you exactly how she feels about the situation. Who knows she may have a thing for white people.
2006-09-03 14:09:16 · answer #5 · answered by karren b 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, she would be very open to pursuing a friendship... once she started talking with you and allowed her daughter to skate with yours, that was an open indication that she would be open to being your friend...another way to tell if she would pursue a friendship with you, is if she smiled at you or smiled at your daughter...that's a dead giveaway!
It's not hard to become friends with African Americans...I don't know why society make African Americans to appear this way...we are very very friendly people...most of us are anyway...hope this helped.
2006-09-03 18:13:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
She's a person just like you. She may be open to it she may not. How do you feel about it? This isn't a serious question is it? If so you've bought too much into the black/white hype.
2006-09-03 13:48:41 · answer #7 · answered by caramel_velle 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
There is nothing wrong with having white people as friends go for it ask her to go shopping with you.
2006-09-03 14:05:10 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop seeing people that way,If she's a nice lady,make friends with her,see her as a lady,not a black lady!
2006-09-03 13:48:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'm white, but I've never known a black person to not want me as a friend.
2006-09-03 13:47:19 · answer #10 · answered by Nathan 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋