I have a new friend that I am concerned about. I will try to explain as best I can
This person is always leaving jobs for the flimsiest reasons. Therefore this person is always looking for a job. This person was homeless on several occasions, but has an apartment now. Just recently this person is without a job again and is in danger of being evicted if a job isn't found in time to pay the next installment of rent.
This person is always telling me that they are looking for something better and when they get it, it is not what they are looking for so they quit after a season.
My question is how do you deal with a friend who tells you something and it just doesn't seem to ring true with you? Something is wrong or missing in what they say and you just can't put your finger on it!
2006-09-03 13:43:39 · 4 answers · asked by December Princess 4 in Health ➔ Other - Health
I would stop being the person's friend. And if they ask why I would tell them. Perhaps they are unaware of their behavior but you sure don't want to get sucked down with them. Neither by reputation nor by them starting to borrow money or other things from you. One of these days they are going to end up sleeping on your couch and that kind of person never leaves.
The person may not even be aware of their pattern of behavior so pointing it out may be helpful. But they may not be ready to change it at this point. It isn't up to you to change them. That is their choice.
2006-09-03 13:48:11 · answer #1 · answered by Justme 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would ask this person to see a counselor with you (if you are both religious, you could see a priest or rabbi, too). A counselor could help to sort out the problem, and having you there will make your friend more relaxed and less defensive. I would give it a try. I wouldn't worry about continuing your friendship, since it is obvious that you see that this behavior is not acceptable. Help your friend see that he is only hurting himself -- he may be able to thank you someday for actually saving his life and his dignity. Don't give up on him!
2006-09-03 20:52:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people are just self destructive. Its okay to be concerned, but don't give him any money.
2006-09-03 20:51:44 · answer #3 · answered by JillA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep away from this friend before you get yourself in difficulties
2006-09-03 20:47:23 · answer #4 · answered by gangico 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋