Since I moved to my new house, my old friends have stopped calling and coming round. I dont get to see them that often now as I moved 20 miles away. I just get the feeling that there is something not quite right. There are some snidey comments about being a snob and forgetting my roots. We all grew up together in Ireland and the majority of them still live in north london. Is it wrong to move away from people you love just to give your family a better life? I dont regret it but I wish I wouldnt loose my friends over it.
2006-09-03 13:36:04 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I would suggest you include your old friends to come on over and have dinner, bring their children, etc.....just do your part to show them that you care....whoever wants to keep the friendship will.....but you have to make the first move.......best wishes...
2006-09-03 13:43:18 · answer #1 · answered by Cassie 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but they were never true friends in the first place if they feel this selfish and shallow now, what is wrong with trying to make a better life for yourself and moving to an area or house that is better suited to your needs, why do people have to suddenly become so envious and silly about things like that, I think the only snobs here are the ones who are making the snides and comments about you and your family, you can't pick your family but you can choose your own friends and if the friends you choose to stand by all these years just can't be happy for you then make new ones who can be, you haven't changed they have, good luck.
2006-09-04 00:07:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That Sucks. Your friends are supposed to be happy for you and proud of you for doing better. As long as you haven't fundamentally changed, then they are in the wrong. People hate it when people do what they want to or can't do. It makes them feel insecure, that your better because THEY think they aren't good enough for you, not the other way around usually.
You can address the issue out right and just ask them to be real with you. Remember sometimes people are in your life for seasons, and seasons change, generally and eventually. You're dong well, so keep the positive in your life and don't be put down by what I affectionately call 'Haters'.
2006-09-03 13:58:24 · answer #3 · answered by sweetcrv 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its what Darwin called natural selection, the best, the most successful survive in this life... so what if they don't come round their loss. Let the green-eyed monstrous creatures live their sad pathetic lives the way they want. I hate people like that! I'm sure you will make new friends and realise that they weren't true friends after all!!!
2006-09-03 15:17:51 · answer #4 · answered by Sky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think that it was wrong of you to move. When i was younger i moved around a lot and i'll be moving pretty soon to and I'm a very happy sophmore in high school. To be honest i don't think that they're jealous, just mad. But there might be more friends for you. Most people are mad because they think that you think that you are better than them that's all. So don't think about it to much okay.
2006-09-03 13:46:08 · answer #5 · answered by karren b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a typical question my friend. I all my life have experienced numerous times where this is a problem. Humans must remember that there is a difference between family and friends. You may love your friends sometimes more than your family but there is always going to be one thing that binds you to your kin. That's blood. That's the one thing we don't have with our friends is a "true root". Also, sometimes you have to do what is right to benefit not only your family but yourself. Friends come and go unfortunately(even life long ones), but family will always be there. They have no choice. ;^)
2006-09-03 13:41:47 · answer #6 · answered by Colby S 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately many people are uncomfortable when their frineds become successful because they believe their friends are trying to:
* get away from them,
* be better than them, or
* showing off.
Most of the time, the person who has moved has grown up and moved on. It's a part of the process. Maybe it's time ....hate to say this....for new friends.
2006-09-03 13:43:46 · answer #7 · answered by musiclady007 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man is insecure in nature,maybe later on ,your friends cope up his jealousy and get in touch with you again, or maybe he compares himself with you and envy of what you have now!He must be happy for having a succesful friend!If you like to win back those friends again do the move, call them, visits them and show them that you you'd never changed and makes some friendship with your new neighbors!Goodluck!
2006-09-03 13:44:10 · answer #8 · answered by Bruno 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's only natural,friends get jealous easily it's human nature.What you have to know is friends are disposable and you'll be making new friends soon so I don't think you have to worry.And I think it's nice that you think of your family.Oh and the part about you being a snob so not true.It's time to let them go.
2006-09-03 13:39:30 · answer #9 · answered by hard ball!! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we live in a society that glorifies competition, and that brings out the worst in people. Competition is a cultural norm that needs to be scrutinized in a production vs damge scenario. I believe it is way to damaging even in the end to production cuz people like us get to a point where they just do not want to take part anymore
2006-09-03 13:52:17 · answer #10 · answered by icheeknows 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋